Were you a loner at your high school?

Question

Were you completely fine with it? I'm not trying to ask if you think it is weird, because I'm mostly perfectly fine being a loner. I do have friends, particular one good friend who goes to a different school and I have three at this school. One of them sometimes hangs with me, but mostly hangs with his friend. We used to really good friends in elemntary and half of middle school, so we go way back, but things change. My other friend, i knew him since 4th grade, I am not even sure if he will hang with me with all his new friends? But I'm pretty sure he will, but It probably be awkard to hang out with his new friends, and i hate awkard moments. My other friend I barley met him, and we just kind of chat during class. But i don't even know him a lot. So i figure i just go the loner way. If i meet people, and get friend that okay too. But I will start out as a loner. Were you a loner? How did you pass time during lunch time? I normally hate lunch because it can be really boring. Lunch for me is 40 minutes long. I just transfered to this school, I'm going to be in tenth grade, and I'm 15 years old, 16 in two months. So, what loner-related advice can you give me? I am very introverted when it comes to people I don't know.

Answer 1

1. I am very social in school... i know almost everyone... but i have 3 BEST buds... and out of those three... i don't really tell them anything about my personal life... i enjoy helping them out with theirs... i rather keep my personal thoughts to my self... i mean they might know who I'm crushing on at that particular moment... but nothing more. so that's it...but other than that I'm pretty social...

2.

i) sometimes when I'm kinda down i eat by myself... i usually pass the time by reading a good book... (harry potter and the twilight series are good,they will pass many lunch times)

ii) you should not spend the time being a loner (you can if u want to, but u asked for advice...) y i say this is... u r basically at the peak of high school life... u should make this time as great as possible!... i remember my first day of high school. i knew no one and everyone was shy... i made my first friend (one of my best) because she was reading a book that i liked and i asked her about it and we hit it off... i convinced her to join a club with me... therefore we spent more time together and became better friends. thru that extra activity i met more friends who ahd the same interests as me. i continued to try out more and more clubs... i didn't stick with all of them but i still got to meet some great ppl. those ppl i met introduced me to their other friends... i got to know more people in my class over time and they introduced me to more ppl and so on... some of my other friends i basically got by just being "social" per se... i basically see a group of ppl that look interesting and i go and talk to them if they look friendly... but to be on the safe side the best way to make friends is thu extra curricular activities.

iii) if u r athletic try: basketball, football, baseball,soccer, hockey, track...etc.

more creative try: poetry club,art,writing,literature,drama,music....

more of a "doer": 4H club, Key club, cadets...etc

more academic: science club, math club...etc.

or random clubs: sign language, martial arts, french, spanish...etc.

maybe ur school doesn't have all of these but you give some of them a try... its really helpful in making friends... and u might learn something new! it may be a little time consuming but time flies when your having fun! u said ur introverted wen it comes to strangers...if u join an activity there are ppl, who will approach you.. just dont act stupid... if they ask u a question eg.ur name, age, interests blablabla..(if its not too personal) answer.and in turn ask them their info... and every thing will be fine.

just trust ur instincts abd DO NOT lie to ppl if u dont HAVE to because it WILL backfire... trust me... i know... lol...

GOOD LUCK! xoxoxoxoxo

, mjfanatic

Answer 2

I was. I still am.

The thing is, if you have a group of fiends in high school, everyone goes away to college and changes and it all dissolves so it's not like you really missed anything.

Answer 3

yo dude u seem like a cool guy but just act fly, make it seem like ur the guy everyone wants to be. do wat i do and act like nothing bothers u. and if ur tryin to score with chicks not just guys, just go up to a babe and grab her ****. and if u reach my level u can just walk around and chicks will be grabbin ur crotch all day long.best of luck to u man and hope things work out.

Answer 4

I've kind of been like that for the last 2 years.  I went through a lot of rough stuff and ended up back in my home town after just starting at a new school.  I kind of decided to shut everyone out and stick to my old friends who I saw every weekend.  I have a few friends in the town I live in now but I don't know, I just don't have any desire to meet new people, ya know?  It's like I have all that I want right now.  I have tons of friends in my old town but ever since I got pregnant I haven't been hanging out with them much at all.  I talk to them but I think they're SO immature and stupid.  Guys saying that they're going to punch me in the stomach and asking if they can sell my baby or beat it.  I'm like wow, why did I ever like these losers?  I don't even wanna be around anyone anymore lol.

Advice for a loner? Well...I sat with friends during lunch...but we didn't do anything.  We sat by the doors or went outside.  Sometimes we went in the gym.  Maybe bring home work? Good luck.

Answer 5

Yes! I was the biggest loner in high school, and I only had one friend. We wanted to "get through" it together, so we spent most of our time making jokes with each other and ignoring everybody else. I also came from a different school, but the weird thing is that if you have a friend that moves away, you think "huh, how sad," but then quickly forget them (whether you mean to or not). When you're the one who moves away, you try so hard to "keep in touch" that you lose out on making friends that might end up going to college with you. Does that make sense? I say that if you've got one good friend, you're fine. By the time you get to college or life beyond, you will probably only keep in touch with your best friends anyway (and for most people: that really only ends up being one person).

As loners, my friend and I pretty much just sat back and watched everyone else at lunchtime. We made jokes. We had fun. We read books that weren't required reading. We didn't get wrapped up in who was doing what or any of the drama. As a result, we had the best time of our lives because we didn't worry about fitting in. Now, he's a very young successful lawyer with tons of friends and I'm a writer. We both moved far from our small hometowns (to London and Seattle) and had a chance to see the world. Now, when we run into kids we went to school with, all they talk about is being in school. They talk about high school like it's still happening, but we talk about our lives and the things we've done. Being a loner: Best decision ever.  

Answer 6

Nah, I wouldn't consider myself a loner. I have a couple close friends that I  hang out with. My boyfriend is sort of a loner though. He doesn't have a best friend, and he only "hangs out" with other guys when he's at band practice. You sound like a cool dude. I don't really have advice, since you're managing well on your own. Do you like reading? It kills time.

Answer 7

Yeah, I totally was. I wouldn't say I was COMPLETELY fine with it but I was by no means depressed over it.

I was a loner but everyone liked me so during lunch I had people to sit with, sometimes I'd take my lunch to my next class (math) and listen to the Mathletes argue about swords and video games. They never asked me why I was there and I made a few more "friends". I also spent a lot of lunch alone or brought my own lunch and literally ate in the bathroom. I did homework a lot after lunch (I made honor roll) and that made it so I didn't look so alone. My advice is to make sure you have those people you aren't exclusively with them but you could be. Try really hard to make friends, offer help or ask for help in class, try and relate. It's important.

Answer 8

I still am a loner in high school. I'm going into tenth grade, too :0)

I'm really shy, so I don't make friends very often, though I do have friends.

The two friends I do have go to different school and I hardly ever see them.

During lunch I either read (I do most of the time) or do schoolwork.

I really want to make at least one friend at my school this year, so I'll try to not seem so shy (that's a pretty difficult thing to do when you're as shy as me).

People sometimes get nervous around me or just think I'm weird because I'm so shy. I get nervous when someone asks to borrow a pencil.....

I don't really have any advice...If you want more friends then try to be a little more outgoing, but if you're fine the way you are then there isn't a reason to change, though you'd probably like having more friends.

Anyway, good luck and I hope you enjoy your first day of school.

Answer 9

I consider my self a loner most of the time. I have a few friends as well but no one i can be truelly close to. When ever i had lunch by myself my sophomore year i did a lot of homework. It was actually nice.  I am a Senior now and i still have issues feeling comfortable around people. But being a "loner" isnt so terrible. Most of the time I feel more comfortable by myself then surrounded by a lot of people. Maybe that is how it is for you. There is nothing wrong with it...its almost refreshing

Answer 10

don't consider yourself a loner

talk to people & be yourself

get to know them more

maybe this year you'll find an awsome friend :)

i know what the feelings like, but once you put yourself out there everything will start changing

don't be afraid of people

good luck in 10 grade :)

Answer 11

yes, no i didnt enjoy it, but life is that way sometimes

Answer 12

WelL I am not in high school yet but I am in junior high and YES I AM A LONER

I have no friends expect my boyfriend and he friend used to be my friend but now he hates my guts and his other friend moved :[ But I am pretty close to his friends.

well I just don't eat lunch I just hide. Or bring my ipod and sit against a wall. and I cry almost everyday And I am not looking foward to this year.And if I do eat lunch I just eat it quickly You could do your homework or find a special wall that you sit yeah.