Were you ever "outed" as an adoptee?

Question

Was it by other children, or by adults? A child I know just told her classmates that the other children in her home were adopted. Sara is a foster child, and is having a lot of trouble adjusting. So she "outed" the adopted kids already in this home.This was not information that these kids wanted to share.

Answer 1

Well I can tell you that as a child I had a very hard time making friends.

I was adopted at age three, and taken away by child protection at age 11 until I aged out at 18

I trusted nobody. I acted out, I was annoying... the list goes on.

I've gotten over it pretty much as an adult although I still dont trust people, and I have just a few very close friends rather than a large grouping of friends.

Answer 2

yes, I am adopted and so are my 3 siblings from different backgrounds.  It's pretty obvious that we are adopted and I have always been cool with it.  Until last fall at my baby shower, I heard one of the in laws say loudly I might add, "Did you know she was adopted?"  Talk about unconfortable.  and it's nobody's biz if I want to share that info or not. It's brought up all of the time and I honestly don't see the point.  Who care- I'm human like everyone else!!!!  I was outed as a kid and outed at age 36, I guess I will always be "different."

Answer 3

i was outed by my adopted cousin...it did matter to me inside..i didnt let her know it...i already knew i didnt fit in...so i started telling everybody ..if you tell you cant be hurt by a secret...i guess at this point since others know..the children that are adopted can now tell other kids they were chosen by their parents...and hopefully that will give them a little satisfaction..without hurting anyone elses feelings

Answer 4

I always knew I was adopted, and I never minded talking about it.  

However, I hated my 7th grade science teacher for making me do a genetic chart about my family.  I am a pool of recessive genes, and my aparents are not.  Everyone's chart was mounted on a wall for public scrutiny.  This bothered me because it was not on my terms.  Uuuh, the joke is really on my amom in all this.  Since I am obviously not my adad's biological child, all my classmates just assumed that my mom had fooled around!  haha

Answer 5

No - my sister and I knew from the start that we were adopted [at age 9, so of course we knew]. And, we spoke with quite an accent at first. If someone commented on the accent , my mom or dad would just stay "Evan was raised in Wales" and that was the end of it.

If the person persisted, my parent would say something like - "That's really personal. I think we've said enough." and that was all on that subject.