Were you less careful with your second pregnancy/ baby ?

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I am feeling a little guilty because I did everything "by the book" with my first pregnancy. This time around I have been a little lax with my dieting and exercise habits. I also feel guilty because my first child got the royal treatment with all new clothes and furniture, and the second one is getting hand-me-downs. Does anyone else feel the same?

Answer 1

i feel exactly the same and i sometimes blame my hubby too cause he does too . i didnt have my first prego appoint. until 15months cause i wasnt worried and i know we were fine .

  i am more relax in this pregnancy and i dont even read anything anymore but i still try to eat healthy but no exersice( maybe running after my daughter ) and about the hand me downs i tought i was the one feeling that. i feel a bit guilty that this one isnt getting the twinkle star treatement we gave our first . this time he or she(  we dont know which yet) isnt even getting good night or good morning as our first did . i am scared he might feel this even if unborn but somebody told me it is normal because it is my second time around and i have my  15 months daughter  to care for . but yeah i completely understand . i am so hoping it is a boy so i can use the gender difference as an excuse to go shopping . . we will know the gender in 2 weeks , pray with me it is a boy  

Answer 2

I am a little lax with my second one but it is not because I dont care as much.  It is because there are so many other things now for you to do that you and your unborn baby tend to take back seat to your first child, your husband, your job (if you work) and your home.  The first go around you could come and go and do as you pleased not any more.  I thank God for hand-me-downs.  Even though you have all the clothes (only the gender neutral one because it is a girl this time) furniture toys etc there is still a list of things I want this child to have that my first was not able to have because of money at the time.  I feel like my second will get more that her brother had, they may not be new but she will have them.

Answer 3

you do its nothing to worry about i now have 4 children and my first i was the same everything by the book no one could hold my baby after a f*g unless hands washed teeth brushed and recieving blanket over them i ate drank slept everything i read i did but each time after i got more relaxed and its because you realised no harm done yor baby is fine and so will this one just carry on and be happy enjoy it :O)good luck and congrads

Answer 4

No actually more careful but I know more know than I did with my 1st.

I've been very good on my diet and exercise . As far as getting hand me downs for your 2nd I would not feel guilty at all - I did the same thing :) .  

Answer 5

Darling, you will do what you need to, and very likely you learned from the first pregnacy what is really necessary.  Love your baby, and the hand-me-downs are all part of being the second baby.  

If you really, really want to, buy all new things for the new baby, but will that mean more love, or just more money?

Money spend does not equal love expressed.

Answer 6

I did at first, but I know that I will do so much better with the second once she's born that I don't any more.  My poor firstborn had to suffer with a clueless mother.  Our daughter will be much better off.  She will also get some new stuff since we had a boy the first time around.

I will probably feel sorrier for the 3rd who will get hand-me-downs no matter what now.