Were your parents much older than usual ?

Question

Ever since I can remember, my parents were too old to keep up with me . Their attitude was always "Why go out and have fun when we can stay home ?" . They griped and complained every time I wanted to go to the movies, or to another town . I didn't like that, and I swore I'd never put my children through that . NOW -- if your parents are older than most, what kind of an experience was that for you ? Did your parents push themselves to keep up with you, or did you have to have to sacrifice so your parents could take it slow and easy ? Did your parents gripe and complain whenever you wanted to have fun ? Was having older parents a good or a bad experience for you ? Do you think it's okay for parents to be old ? Are there any difficulties with having older parents that I didn't mention ?

Answer 1

My mother and father were much older. I really didn't have the same relationship with them as my friends did with their parents. Mine were kinda cool. I pretty much did what I wanted as long as I obeyed certain rules. The big draw back to having older parents.... They are both gone now. I have grown up, married and have children of my own. My children never got to know them. I don't have anyone to call for motherly advice. It saddens me. I had my children at a young age to give them a better chance of having me around alot longer. Have kids between 20 and 30...no later.

Answer 2

My parents were 35 and 40 when I was born.  (Dad 35, mom 40.)  My dad didn't mind taking me places.  But my mom would only take me shopping.  I wanted to take dance classes when I was little, my mom had more than enough money for them, was a stay at home mom, and wouldn't let me take them, because she was lazy and didn't feel like doing much of anything with me.  When it was take your mother to school day she didn't feel like going and didn't.  I don't think it's okay for parents to be old.  Well, I don't think it's okay for a woman who is 40 to be having a kid because the risk for the kid having down syndrome or birth defects is more than 1 in 100.

Answer 3

My parents were older, my dad was close to 60 when I was born and my mom was in her early 40's.  The only negative thing I could see was that my dad was too old to go out and play ball and do the things dads do with their kids when I was growing up.  Other than that I don't really see much of  a difference.

Answer 4

I'm 16....

And both of my parents are in their late 50's....

I don't have a good relationship with them though....

I live with different people, but still have to deal with my parents....

=)

All my best!

-Max

Answer 5

TRUST me i'm having the same problem.. i'm 15 and my parents are 54 (mom) and 59 (dad) and they're so controlling and they think that becuz they don't fit in this world anymore that it's a bad bad world that we shud never be exposed to. they just don't understand that it's okay to do things that most other parents don't mind and it's just so annoying. THEY'RE SO OVER-PROTECTIVE of meeee!! IT DRIVES ME CRAAAAAAZZZZYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Answer 6

My mother wasn't that old, but my father was 23 years older than she was.  So he already had a 16 year old daughter when I came along.  

My mom was all about connecting with me, and playing, and listening to what I had to say...

My father was more about working his 12 hours a day and then coming home and getting his wife and daughters (there were the two of us younger ones) to make him supper, fetch him things, wake him up if he fell asleep on the couch, etc.  

He didn't like when I wanted to do extracurricular activities, because it would cut into his at-home-time and he would need to pick me up and whatnot.  My mother didn't drive, at all.  

I think my father was a fun guy when he was younger.  I think he cared a lot more, and wasn't so defeated and angry about the world in general.  I would have liked to know him then.  

I would've much preferred a younger father.

Answer 7

My mother, at age 30,  was older than average when I was born (1961)...but she still was a pretty energetic person through much of my childhood. It's not always about chronology.

Answer 8

i wouldnt know my mom was 19 when concieved me and  20 when i was born.

but my best friend has old parents and she could NEVER do anything.

shes 18 now and crazier then ever!