WhaI want my butterflies back! ive been with this guy for about 3 years..?t would you like to ask?

Question

and it seems like we're just sortta use to each other now. is there anyway to get the lil butterflys when we see each other? how do we rekindle our romance?

Answer 1

I don't think you will ever feel those same butterflies that you did in the beginning, but there are things you can do to spice up relationship and keep the romance.

Take walks in the park together

Cook him a romantic candle light dinner

Write him a love poem

Whisper sexual stuff to him in public

Answer 2

Butterflies are a part of that initial infatuation....that is not love.

Love is what has been developing that whole time, right under your nose.

You can keep things interesting, more romantic by doing special things for each other. But, never mourn the loss of butterflies, When they go, they leave something much more special :)

Answer 3

try doing the things you did when you first started dating. Try new things and go to new places. You may not get your butterflies back, but be grateful and happy for what you have with him. Try not to let things bore you.

Answer 4

Don't get all fixated on the butterflies. Yes. Their nice. But so is a comfortable feeling that all's right with the world. So, I guess if you want butterflies, you'll have to get yourself in a state of mind for them. Is it something he does or doesn't do that's let them drift away? If not, sit down and think of all the things that make you want to be with him. Think about how you'd miss those things if he wasn't around. But he is around, and the next time he walks in, maybe you'll feel a little flutter.  

Answer 5

Frankly the butterflies are great, but somewhat overrated. The beginning of a relationship and the hot s*x has it's time and place. But as the relationship matures, other things should start to take over. That is not to say that there still should not be romance, but I gotta tell you, a job, kids and mortgages make it hard for romance.

Marriage and relationships required an extreme amount of hard work. As I've gotten older there are times I simply do not want to go through the romantic loops, but I force myself. It's not because I don't love my wife, to be honest I'm just plain tired (which I'm sure many women can relate to). But I do other things, wash the clothes, fix dinner, keep the house clean and organized. This gives her time to do some of things she likes to do. She's been more loving because of these small things, and I wouldn't trade it for all of the romance in the world. Because at the end of the day all of us just want to be appreciated.

Answer 6

If you really do LOVE him then you should always get them. but if you just want to stay with him. be the one to take him somewhere fun... not just a movie:) lol