What 2 do? He likes me but I did a background check on him and he been charged wit rape kidnapping etc?

Question

he was convicted of 4 counts of crimes( another was robbery wit a deadly weapon and i for got the other one) and i think he is on probation but he has not told me yet. He is a sweet man and its hard for me to believe this is his wrap sheet! im scared b/c i dont know if im being shallow to want to leave him alone. he has my house number and cell number and knows what bustation i go to frequently ... how do i let him down easy. Should i or does everyone deserve a second chance

Answer 1

I think you should run in the opposite direction!!!

Don't say a word about his past. (If he is a nut, you could be in danger.) Just tell him you don't think it will work out between you and you don't want to see him anymore. Be nice, but firm.

Answer 2

You really have to think about this?! RUN!!!!!

Answer 3

you know what you need to do _ End it.

Answer 4

forgivness is good but dont let him steal ur heart and then become a 'victim of domestic violence'

goodluck

Answer 5

Run as fast as you possibly can in the other direction and dont look back. Change your numbers and put a restraining order out on him. Unless you want to be victim #5!!

Answer 6

Sounds like he already has had four chances.

I'd break it off with him nicely.

Answer 7

I dont think your being "shallow" for turning down a kidnapper rapist. Just tell him your not interested (over the phone) and be really careful the next few weeks, dont go to the bus station alone for a while. Maybe buy a gun.

Answer 8

This question really needs to be answered by you, it really depends on your beliefs, do you believe that people can truly change or do you think we are all creatures of habit, or do you just believe in fate?

If you believe people can change and this happened 17 years ago or so then why not stay with him if he treats you well and he is a nice guy. If you don’t believe in change then you may want to break it off as soon as possible in a way that that is fair for both of you.

If you want to find out if he is honest, you can always tell him something about yourself and tell him that you want to be completely honest with each other and you do not want any secrets between you two. If he fails to tell you about his mistakes he made early in life then he may not be for you.

You can always choose to leave things up to fate and just see what happens, but that means you could become a victim or just end up with a bad person, but on the positive side you can end up with a great guy who just needs a second chance.

Also a word of wisdom is that you should make sure that the social security number you got the report for matches because I previously encountered a male suspect who supposedly had several warrants out for his arrest but it turned out that the social was different but the name and birthday were identical.

I hope things work out for you and in the end, you make the right decision. Be safe.

Answer 9

this is good that you are a sensitive gal... but babe he has been charged 4 times... if it was one that might have been due to "SOME REASONS"  but 4 clearly shows that this guy is not willing to improve... and probably looking for another victim.. which just might be YOU...

I understand your feelings but if i were you.. I'd visit him a lot less often.. and yes.. don't just cut him off... do it slowly... coz YOU just might face dire consequences if you just dumped a man like that..

hope you understand and do something about it....

Answer 10

RUN!

Seriously WTF?!

Answer 11

V. dangerous. But u can't get rid of this sort of criminal easily. That would be v. risky.

Try being a v. boring and rather cold sort of person with him. U know, the kind of woman who can never say anything interesting, is v. idiotic and dull, not funny at all and is always ranting on about something that went wrong in her life, e.g. how nobody praised her dress at the party while many others were wearing sillier dresses, how she feel others always give her a cold shoulder and don't consider her interesting, how her friend wasn't v. sympathetic to her the other day when she felt she deserved it, and on and on.

Be so boring and wrapped up in urself that he can't bear u much, and has to get rid of u himself. And try distancing urself from him slowly. See him a lot less often.  Don't be fooled by his 'sweetness'.  

Many criminals r v. sweet unless they feel that what they want isn't happening, and decide that it's time for violence. So it would not be v. safe to immediately leave him. And he might deserve another chance, but most criminals don't improve in jails. They meet their counterparts, or their seniors, and they get worse as they learn new ways of committing crimes. Even if they want to be good when they leave prison, the influence of those jail years is hard to shake off,  even if they r on probation. And God knows what they might do in a fit of anger or something.

If he hasn't been in prison yet, he still can't be trusted. U don't want to put urself in danger for the sake of giving him another chance, do u?