I've got a 2 yr old, I am no longer with the father. There is a new guy now and recently we've had a talk about my son.
I am not looking for a 'father-figure' for my son. My current boyfriend knows this and he also says that he doesnt want to take on that role. That is fine with me.
The 'issue' is that we talk about being together for a long time, talking marriage and all. If that does happen, and even now at the early stages of our relationship, he would need to build a good relationship with my son. He has not met my son yet. We are both not sure what that 'role' may be. I dont want my boyfriend to just be some 'random guy' to my son, if we are going to get more serious later on. But I dont want my son knowing him as a 'father' either because he is not his dad & he agrees with me. My son's father is very involved in our son's life so I am not trying to replace him.
I am not sure what sort of 'role' my current boyfriend should play in my son's life. We were discussing this last night, and since they havent met yet I told him we should wait & see what happens when they meet and all. He also says that because he wants to be with me, he will accept whatever I have, and that means he accepts my son, and that he will be here for me, which he says also means he will be there for my son if I need him to be.
Anyone with experience or just advice/suggestions are welcome to reply.
Thank you.
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