What's a good age to adopt a child?

Question

I want to adopt a child but I'm not sure when. Just to let you know... I've been told that I can get pregnant but that it will always result in a miscarriage. That's why I'm wondering about this. It really means alot to me.

I have a really good job with good pay and benefits, so I'm financially set. But I'm not sure what a good age is for me to adopt?

Just asking for suggestions. Thanks all

Answer 1

I dont think there is a set age.  Whenever you feel ready.  If you feel like you are getting there, start the process now because it can take a LONG time.  I'm sorry to hear about your condition but you are going to adopt a child and give him/her a wonderful life, one they never would have had without you.  Good luck =0)

Answer 2

whenever you feel that YOU are ready

Answer 3

hey age does not decide when to adopt its you who should.If you think you can take great care of the baby then just go for it,

Answer 4

whenever you feel that YOU are ready but I think after ur the age of 18 yrs old... then u can adopt....

Answer 5

I`m not sure if you have already had miscarriages.....but am assuming so. You should make sure that you have really grieved your miscarriages. We often try to push it out of our minds....but the emotions will often catch up with you later.

You also need to have come to terms with the fact that you cannot have your own biological child.

btw..I had a biological child after testing found the reason for my miscarriage problem......so don`t have personal experience of adoption.

I had 3 miscarriages and thought I couldn`t have a biological child. I researched about adoption...and this what I read - it seemed like the most important thing to me. You would NEVER want to feel that your adoptive child was somehow less....and for your child to feel like they were not your first choice.

Age.....any time is great I think!

Answer 6

You will know when you ar ready! And everything will just fall into place. It sounds like you are already ready, since the idea and curiosity is there. If youfeel you are ready, you will make it happen. It's a learning axperience. You don't hit an age and all of a sudden know how to raise a child! But if you feel you are open minded and patient enough to take on such a responsibility, you will know, and nothing will stand in your way! Just know that when you adopt, it is a major commitment. If you are afraid, don't force anything. If it's not there, you can't force it. so like I said, when u are ready, you will know

Answer 7

I actually like this question because 21-25 is around the age adoption agencies or most states will "allow" you to adopt. My husband and I have been TTC for almost 8 months with no luck. We are young (20) and can't adopt even though we have been married for two years. Some people can live more in 20 years then some can in 40. I think it's unfair for (the government) them to set a age you can adopt that's not 18. At 18 you can vote, be held legally responsbile for any laws you break, fight (and die) for your country (in the US), smoke, own property, and sign contracts but you can't adopt. How is that fair? I know MOST people are still immature in their 20's and early 30's because they want to "party" or whatever. Nor me or my husband have ever had that urge. We led a pretty boring life for the most part, but none of that matters, it makes me mad.

To answer your question the right age is when your ready.

Answer 8

It is not inportant there are a lot of children who need adopting ranging from 0-18 years of age. These kids really need a loving home.

Answer 9

Usually for both parents the age requirements is around 30 and above but they look for other things like living environments and finance stability..things like do u have ur own child and etc are more important...

Answer 10

Once you feel that you are truley ready to be a mom you should start the process. We adopted our first child when I was 25. I was afraid that this would be too young for a lot of the agencies, but we had been married for 3 years, were financially stable, and were really ready to be parents, so it was fine.

Good luck!

Answer 11

The real issue is when are you ready to parent?

Only you know that, but of course, there are some standard requirements that most people would agree to:

Stable career (not just a job)

Stable work history

Stable home life (not jumping from home to home every six months!)

Mental Health

Physical Health (within reason)

Emotional Health

Support of family/friends

Sufficient income to support two people, purchase good medical and life insurance, pay bills, save money, save for college, etc.

No arrests

No addictions

Spiritual or religious life

Solid self identity

So, what age would YOU be when you have all of these?  This is what is considered when parents are seeking custody of their child, or when a hopeful parent is trying to adopt.

Answer 12

Around 30.  By then you should have played enough and are ready to settle down and be a Mom, yet you're not so old that the baby will exhaust you.

Answer 13

You are never going to be in a prefect position for children no matter if you are adopting or having one yourself.  You just have to have faith and trust that you are going to do your best,  no matter what age you adopt.  A baby is cute but a toddler is so much fun....Good luck with your decision!

Answer 14

When you are ready...finacially, physically and mentally!

Answer 15

New born, so he/she will always think of you as mom, even when you do tell...