What's a good age to adopt?

Question

My husband and I are in our early 20's (24 and 23) and considering adopting a child when we're both 25 or 26. Do adoption agencies consider that too young? Do you know how much it costs, or how long it takes? I'm just wondering, thanks for all answers. =)

Answer 1

Costs do vary but I think on average it costs the adoptee a complete sense of self and shatters the ability to love unconditionally, while depleting the stores of trust. It costs feeling acceptance, and having one's natural abilities and traits modeled.

For the mother of adoption loss it can cost her future fertility, confidence, self-esteem. Sometimes it costs her severe depression and lack of trust in others. There is a toll of resentment her family may bear for not helping her keep her baby.

For the adoptive parents, usually it's just a bunch of money. Oh and some paperwork.

Answer 2

probably babies I was adopted at 1 month

Answer 3

Well, this was many  years ago, but my parent's were in their mid-to-late 20s when they adopted my older brother and they had no problems.

From what I hear, it's easier to adopt an older child, since babies are in such demand.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I THINK IT'S A GOOD AGE. BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD ONLY ADOPT WHENEVER YOUR READY. AND IF YOU FEEL YOUR READY TO SETTLE DOWN AT THAT AGE, THEN NO , IT'S NOT TOO YOUNG.

Answer 5

Well it will depend on where your adopting from but you will be able to find places that will allow you to adopt at those ages.

The cost  depends on where you’re adopting from, general speaking the cheapest type  of adoption is  through the foster care system or the Fos to adopt program. The most costly is private adoption and some international adoptions.  My Aunt and her husband did private adoption and by the time the got their son it had cost them at least 60grand. They specifically wanted a white newborn.  

How long it takes to get a child also depends on where you’re adopting from. I have heard of people getting a placement shortly after their home study has  been approved, other times it can take a few years.

Most likely if you’re willing to take a child that is up to 3 years you might be able to get a placement faster then waiting for a newborn infant.  If your not concerned about race you could get a minority baby (any baby that is not white) faster then if you were waiting for a white baby.

You and your spouse might check out http://adopting.adoption.com/

It lists all the types of adoption that are available, as well as other information that could be an asset.

Answer 6

Call your local county adoption agency.  They will give you all of the information you need.  If you want an infant 0-2, you need to apply now.  You could wait well over two years for an infant.  If you are willing to take an older child the wait is not quite so long.  Adoption is free through your local country, except for maybe some documentation fees.  Good luck.

Answer 7

Yes, adoption agencies will consider you at that age without problems. Adoption agencies do home reviews and such to make sure you have the adequate abilities to raise a child and a proper home to do it in. They will question all aspects such as why do you want to adopt- do you think you'll have kids of your own- how will that effect your family and such. The lists for adoption are long ones- hence why some people try to expedite things by going international- but that's not much easier anymore. My older brother and I are both adopted- I don't know how long they were on the waiting list for my brother (2 years i think) since they didn't specify gender for their first child- but they had to wait 2 or 3 years before they could apply again and then they specified a girl and it took the remaining 2 or 3 years (brother and i are 5 years apart) to get me. The costs are different per agency and private adoption is also an option but could cost a lot more depending on what the bmom/lawyer have the adopting family cover in pregnancy costs.

As far as age of the child- baby vs older. Do your research first- older kids- even at 2 can have behavioral/emotional disorders that are harder to deal with- but could be more rewarding in the end when you help them overcome them...it really depends on what you and your husband can handle and how you each feel about the "baby experience"

Answer 8

It's nice for kids to have parents who are young and energetic.  So many get stuck with people old enough to be their grandparents

You are both at peak childbearing age right now

Answer 9

Most parents are young when they have children so I'll say your about the right age. It's sad to see in high school parents that look like the grandparents and the children have to explain that no that's not his or her grandparents but mother or father.

  Cost well let's see if your morman LDS it's cheap 10% of your income between 4 to 10 thousand. But look at the bright side you have a big tax break.   Most birth parents wish they could get this much help

Answer 10

your ages shouldn't be a problem. Most domestic adoptions say 21. But some other countries say older. But birth to 3 years old are the hardest age to get as thats what most people want. It's easier to get an older child.

Answer 11

Any child at any age Blessed enough to have a second chance at love in their life is a good age!

I wish you all the best with that! May you be blessed in your endeavors!

Really good luck! It's really a good thing you are considering!

Answer 12

That isn't to young at all to adopt babies or any age children (OK not teens or anything). We are adopting (foster to adopt) hopefully 2 babies and are in our 30's.

It takes ??? a year or so depending on how fast you get picked and will cost about $20,000. Which is why we are doing foster to adopt.....