I have been married for 9 1/2 years now. This is my 1st marriage and my husband's 2nd. His ex wife has from time to time has in his terms "pestered" him to help out more with his kids. She has her points. Over the years all he could do is carve her up and drag me through an emotional roller coaster dealing with his stresses of his ex. On average I hear the dreaded speech of his ex every 3 days since I've been married. It becomes old but I deal with it. Aside from that he's pushed countless responsibilities onto me financially using his child support as an excuse to not have to share the bills evenly. He makes so much more than I do and he still has money left over to take over at least one more bill. I can count on 1 hand how many times he's taken me away for the weekend in the 9 years of marriage. I told him our marriage need help so I suggested marriage counseling. He declined from this. The only option I had left to make him snap to it was to threaten with divorce if he couldn't work on these problems with our marriage. He just can't help himself. Our house is falling apart because he wont fix anything. He wont hire anyone to fix anything and just last October had me pay for a new bathtub liner ($3100). Well guess what. We finally planned our first weekend trip alone last week. Booked a flight (which was stand by since he works for the airlines), booked a room and rather than taking me on this trip that we were long over due with he decided no trip but divorce instead. This was crushing. Last night I pleaded. I told how sorry I was for threatening him all these years with divorce but also explained that I didn't know how to reach him. His only response was I'm not sticking around to be threatened any more and because you aren't happy I'm going to let you go so you can be. So I've offered marriage counseling, I've threatened with divorce and now I'm paying the price of divorce because he's choosing not to work on the marriage. I really don't want to leave him but what's a woman to do when her husband says he wants out?
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