What's going on with her????

Question

So I've been best friends with this girl since 4th grade. But I don't think she sees me as a best friend back, though. =[

Anyways. We've been through a lot, but we're still closely together.

We hung out the entire sumer. I can't think of a day we didn't hang out.

But ever since HER best friend came back from vacation, she didn't want to be bothered with me or my other friend who she's also friends with.

She's changed since she's been around her, and she uses me and the other friend as a backup or a 3rd wheel.

Usually every year, she gets annoyed with me once or twice. So she moves me down on her" top friends" on myspace. She changes this a lot; when she's either mad or annoyed with someone, or if someone moved away and they're not coming back. Or people she hasn't spoke to in a while.

And I know this will sound dumb, but I think she literally has a "top friends" in her life. For example, if I were to get into a fist fight, and if her best friend would get into a fist fight, she would choose her over me. My other friend feels the same way about her.

So now I'm a backup/3rd wheel and I feel like I've been used all summer. I can't ask her what's wrong because she'll deny it and try to make me look like it's all my fault.

She hasn't really grown up yet, we're seniors in school, and her ways of thinking are still in the sophomore stage. She finds social life more important then her future.

I don't know what to do with her, and it hurts that she does this. I think I've been used. Any adivce?

Answer 1

this happened to me too,and my friend treated me like a backup friend. so what i did was totally ignored her and became friends with someone else that i know wont treat me that way. And when she came crawling back to me like nothing had happened i just ignored her cuz i didn want to get hurt again.

Answer 2

wow. . . gosh believe it or not that's JUST how my use to be best friend treated me.

To her I was a third wheel/ fall back/ only hang out when bord friend.

we were BEST friend for 6 years but then all of a sudden she changed and started treating me like I was worth nothing. . . we had been through ALOT together but it seemed she passed me of for the first new thing that came along.

So my advice for you is don't speak to her any more and tell her she needs to grow up a little and treat you and your friends better.

It may mean the end for the two of you but it would be for the better if she treats you like trash