What's standing between you and your dreams? Honesty, please?

Question

. . . and it's great for you if you can say "Oh, I'm living the dream right now." Good for you. I envy you. I won't even report you. BUT you're not getting BA, sorry.

Thanks all!

Answer 1

money. the living that the career i want makes nothing compared to the one im being pressured into, althought they will tell you as though their lives depend on it that they aren't pressuring me. im babbling now. sorry.

Answer 2

Honesty?  Being awake.

Yes, I know this sounds like a facetious answer, and it is, but bear with me.

I've done a heap of things that I thought were "my dream", some involving bravery, others little more than blind luck.  For example, leaving Europe for Australia was something of a dream, but, of course, on arriving, it is another country in which different routines become familiar, in which strange cities become just somewhere to shop and socialise.

Or studying physics (am I good enough, will I understand how the world works) becomes an act of technical repetition, principles known, understood somewhat, yes, still fascinating, but in large crowds of people with similar competences, interests, politics - it becomes "every day".

Or owning a home (will I ever have enough) etc etc.

Achieving dreams is all to the good, and, if we are honest, I think most of us do achieve at least a few of our dreams, after which they become simply our realities.  We may have small warm glows of achievement here and there, and it's nice when we do yet happiness (if that is what you are *really* asking) is I believe a matter of expectation as anything, once the very basic needs of food and shelter are met.

It is also very tempting in a world of celebrity to identify fame and fortune as dreams to fulfill, and while on some levels it would be great, many of those people do not seem that happy judging by the drugs they take and their rates of suicide.

There are a few questions I have come to like, regarding dreams.  These are they:

1) Am I happier than I was

2) Did I dream of being where I am now

3) Where would I rather be

I think in my middling, lets face it, late 30s - I give more honest and real answers to those 3 questions than I would have at 21.  They may not be inspiring answers in the Hollywood sense of stumbling into lottery millions as I trip over unexpected genius, nor are they the consequence of my dazzling good looks and charm (to any great extent), but they are sometimes little droplets of small happiness.

Right now my main dream is the RAM I ordered 2 weeks ago turns up, and I haven't been extorted by some ebay shyster.  I am becoming impatient!

Answer 3

Honestly, money.  If money weren't an issue, I wouldn't be working.  If I weren't working and money weren't an issue, I would be traveling the world at my leisure, which is my true dream: seeing as much of the world as possible.

I hate to be so cliche and say money, but it's true.

Answer 4

the corruption of the human race - actually

Answer 5

Honestly, for me. All it boils down to is fear. Fear that I'm not good enough. Fear that I'll make a huge mistake. Fear that I'm going to hurt someone else in some way by going for what I really want. Fear that I'm not smart enough. Fear that I can't. My dream is to finish writing my book, before I start working on my mothers. I know that it sounds really stupid, but it's the reason I haven't worked on my book in seven months. Maybe now that I've actually admitted it I will be able to do it, and maybe not. Who knows? God bless. And I hope that what ever your dream is, that you get to in your lifetime.

Answer 6

Bad luck, procrastination, and Thermodynamics to name a few!

Answer 7

The only thing that is standing between my dreams and I is  nothing but the

air in between and around it. All you have to do is go for it . The air will not stop you from going for it. and its only hard to get if you find excuses to block you from it. The only real thing between you and your dreams or me and mine is the excuses for not going for it.

Answer 8

Time.  I have several more years before I finish my PhD but at least I'm striving for it.  Time is the only thing that is stopping me as it takes time to finish school.

It is school, however, that is standing in the way of me finishing my book.  As much as I try to write on my time off, my novel is progressing painfully slow as a result of too much school work.  But either way, in time, I will have both my dreams.  I have merely to continue to work my @ss off for them.

Answer 9

well, money's an issue in my case (as in most cases, i would imagine). i recieve scholarships for school, but b/c they're payng for my education, my family is scrimping by. also, the field i want to work in is very competitive. age is also a factor.

Answer 10

Money,Confidence,God lol,my mum,past expereinces,illness & disabilities in people I love,also myself,Phobias,Depretion,Anxiety probs,selfishness,selflessness,my cats,my dad,my whole fam,some of my friends,lies,betrail,Soiciopaths,  oh,I`m so ****ed up lol

Answer 11

time and money

not enough of it

old body.

and gravity

Answer 12

Responsibilty.  I am a father of 2 boys and my wife is working on getting her PHd. Once that clears up who knows. Dreams change. (Family first).

Answer 13

well my dream has always been to become an athlete.....I know you may think, well that's what everyone who plays sports says. But I have a special drive to want to do this. But honstly I can't take the pressure of it all now. Between the crazy fans and that your famous. You can't really live if you know what I mean??

Answer 14

Fear. Being too shy. Not being strong enough.

Shall I list my dreams?

1#  To become a published author

2#  To be in the Navy

3#  To travel Europe for a whole year

4#  To have a husband, children, and a happy home when I grow up

Answer 15

I have forgotten how to dream. I used to dream, I always made my dreams real, made them alive, my reality. I worked hard, achieved what I wanted, eventually. Even if it took me years to do it.

Now I have forgotten how. I get 'Aha!' moments, when I feel like I can almost remember, but they are fleeting. They quickly pass. These dreams are no longer 'alive'. I function, day to day.

What's standing between me and my dreams? ME.

I stopped dreaming. I have forgotten how. I have lost heart.

Answer 16

Money, honestly. If I had more, I would relocate to CA ( buy a small house somewhere, ha ha) and see my family more than once a year. But it is the way it is, so I strive to make the best of what I've got. Besides, how do I know that what  I want would be best for me--let alone my adult kids and young grand kids? I don't, so I try not to think about it and do the best with what I've been given..with the help of God or  whatever. Best wishes to you.

Answer 17

Fear of the unknown.  I've never yet had a dream come true.....I didn't finish college, I chose to get married & have children and I became the CEO of my home (My husband's only contribution to our home & family is his paycheck).  I've always wanted to be a real estate agent, and I could probably just go and take the classes, the kids are old enough now to fend for themselves, but I'm scared.  Has the working world changed much in the last fifteen years?  Can my brain still retain new information as well as it did when I was in college?Could I be cutthroat enough to make it in Real Estate, or would I just be wasting my time and money?  Although many tell me I'm a brave person, deep down, I'm just chicken : )

Answer 18

Ignorance i.e. not correctly knowing how to turn dreams into reality. Still I am trying any which way that comes to my mind.