What's the age someone should start "growing up"?

Question

My bf tells me i need to grow up for real. HE says he doesn't know what is wrong with americans, that they act like big kids then get in trouble (like, with the law and S**t) & then realize they need to grow up. I'm 17!!! Not tryign to grow up too fast! Not wanting to get married! I enjoy being a big kid.. h**l, i'm not 18 yet! I'm taking my grandmas advice. She got married very young, and never got to go out with friends and all that stuff you do between 18-21.. you know? She just told me to not grow up too fast, but my bf, says "too..bad.. real world now. you hvae to grow up." Look, I will grow up, but please just let me enjoy my life because I'm still young!!

WHo is wrong and who is right?

What's the age someone should start growing up?

Answer 1

around 15 they should start being more mature and have there leashes loosened a little

Answer 2

yea i so agree with you!!!=)

Answer 3

there's a differences between growing up and acting your age, he means it like your 17, you think that your invincible and nothing can happen to you, so you act immature, get into trouble and what not, when he means grow up he doesn't mean be 30 or whatever, he means be responsible, if you get in trouble take the responsibility, dont go running to your parents for everything, thats all.

Answer 4

i think your right just don't get in trouble with the law.

Answer 5

Your boyfriend sounds like a(n) arrogant prick. You're right, and you grow up when you NEED to. Not when some d!ck tells you to.

Answer 6

There's no specific age to grow up but some people may consider 18 to be the age that you start taking full responsiblities. The worry about growing up, just have fun.

Answer 7

he's wrong and your right .....you start growing up on your own through experiences and stuff you shouldnt get forced into it by your boyfriend enjoy yourself and have fun dont let your boyfriend tell you want to do

Answer 8

both of you are wrong!!! No you shouldn't grow up to fast...but you shouldn't be 17 and still acting like a child!! your about to go to college with adults and if you go there with that type of mind you'll never make it...they will always look down on you...and if your best friend is saying that type of stuff to you check if he's really your best friend!!

Answer 9

NEVER!!!

have fun while your young....

Answer 10

you can "grow up" at your own rate

Answer 11

you need to mature as soon as you understand the concept...that doesn't ,mean get married and have kids...thatmeans learning from mistakes, learning how to be responsible, think about the future and plan ahead

you might just be immature with certain things that your bf doesnt share the same point of view on

Answer 12

Growing up is a process and a collection of knowledge and experiences- it happens over time and at different rates for each different person. You are growing up- every single day, you are learning and filling your life with new experiences and knowledge. You can't just snap your fingers and grow up- doesn't work like that. You won't go to bed one night then wake up next morning and be all grown up. You are right about not needing to rush- you will never get today back so don't skip ahead. People from different countries, cultures, families "grow up" differently- you should do what is right for you and your bf should have more respect for you as an individual!

PS I am Australian and I know for a fact there is nothing wrong with me, or you as an American- our differences and your bf's are what make us all great- doesn't matter how fast or slow we all grow up, just that we respect each others rights to do it differently!

There is no "right age" age is just a number! its what's going on, on the indide that counts!

Answer 13

Your boyfriend sounds ignorant and prejudiced.

Answer 14

18 is soon enough

Answer 15

You'll mature as you make different choices and go through trials.

If you force yourself to grow up, you'll end up looking like an idiot and longing for what you missed. YOU'RE RIGHT. If anything, HE should grow up and leave you alone. This is you. You can't make a choice about growing up most of the time. You can't force yourself to do it. Everyone is different, and lucky for you, you get to be a big kid even at 17.

Enjoy the youth. He's out of line for telling you that being grown up is part of the real world. *snort* In fact, if you took the maturity of all adults, the majority of them still haven't "grown up". What you need to worry about is having your head on straight.

Which, judging from this, you do. He doesn't. You'll grow up when you make the choices and go through those trials.

He needs to get a grip and back off. ><;;

Answer 16

It depends on what your boyfriend is referring to.  Yes, you should enjoy your teen years, because there will be ample time in the future to be responsible for yourself, have a job, pay your own way, and so forth.  

Do you act immature for your age?  Or do you create your own problematic situations for yourself and then whine and complain about it after the fact?  If he is referring to something like that, then yes, you do need to grow up.  At 17, you might not be a legal adult yet, but you aren't exactly a "kid," either.

Answer 17

dump him.

you be who you wanna be.

no one grows up on the inside really [[=

if hes trying to change you, dump that foo

Answer 18

I think that since you can get a drivers license at 16 and legally consent to s*x in many states at 16 and even get married with parental consent at 16 that you should really start to grow up at that point but you don't have to be an adult just start growing up and learn to take responsibility for your actions and maybe get a job especially if you have a car and and a drivers license.  By 21 you should be adult enough to handle things because nobody will feel sorry for you if you get into trouble you should know better.  You can still be a kid at heart and growup.  I am a big kid at heart but I also am 29 years old with a third baby on the way and handle my grownup stuff but I can be a kid with my kids too.  You have to know how to balance it.  When to be an adult about things and when to be a kid.

Answer 19

have fun now...you can grow up after ur married w/ a baby on the way...otherwise live it up!!

Answer 20

h**l some people never grow up!! I think he needs to shut the h**l up!

Answer 21

i have to agree with both ur grandma and ur boyfriend. u should have fun enjoy ur late childhood enjoy being young, go party and act ur age. but at the same time, u should still be mature and responsible. u should still know wrong from right. so have fun and be who u r. but make sure u r responsible about it.

i think that u should "grow up" when u move out of ur parents house. u will be in college or in ur own place paying rent and bills, so u really need maturity then. however, u can still be fun and exciting and be "grown up" 2. it just depends on the situation.