What's the best thing to do when you have fallen for your good friend?

Question

I have a really good friend at work who I've completely fallen in love with. He initiated it by sending me signals that he too loves me a lot. He couldn't stop staring at me at one point. he always tries to get my attention and talk to me. he is happy when I am happy and sad when I am sad. He always tries to cheer me up and have fun with me.

Now we have entered an awkward situation whereby, we both secretly know how the other feels, but won't admit it to one another. It's a bit complicated, especially since we are seeing other people and we have been good friends.

What does a girl do in this situation? I mean what do I do now?

I am not one to make the first move especially since he is 9 years older than myself. Please help!!

Answer 1

my boyfriend is ten years older so that dont matter it took us to 3 months toget together because we both dint want to make the first move and then one night we just kissed ever sinse then we been together and hes the best thing that hapend to me so go on get in there be with someone you feel happy with think about yourself

Answer 2

You sound like you're really close with this guy so just talk to him. If he's a good a friend as you believe then he'll realise that you had the courage and respect to talk to him about how you feel. If you both really feel very strongly then just see what he wants to do, and just go with the flow.

There's nothing better to solve a problem like this than just talking it through with the person.

Hope this helps,

J.O

Answer 3

Before you consider saying anything to your friend that you like...you firstly really have to think about whether or not you really and truly love the person you are going out with.

What it may be to you is purely lust and not love for your friend....a case of wanting what you can't/don't have.

Think long and hard about the two people in your life - your friend and your boyfriend and which one you would rather be with....if you are even thinking about someone other than your boyfriend...I am wondering why you are still with him?

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Very complicated - To avoid hurting people you need to ask yourself how much you like this man - is it more than your current boyfriend and if so could that be only because he is new?

If you are sure that the answer is yes then at some point you are going to have to break up but first you and this new guy need to have a talk and establish what it is you want. If you really aren't prepared to initiate this then you just need to wait and continue making those signals until he plucks up the courage. (Men can be really hopeless at this but it depends what kind of guy he is)

Once you both know where you stand then it is up to you how to proceed but hopefull you can both end it with your respective others before you start anything.

All the best

Answer 5

maybe he just wants to be friends if he hasnt made a move by now maybe cheering you up and all is just his way of being a good friend and becasue you have feelings for him your projecting your feelings onto him and thinking every little thing he does like talk to you and cheer you up is because he has feelings for you however if you really think he fancies you then you should go for it because maybe he feels the same way  bout making the first move