What's the best way to cut my family out of my life?

Question

My family is horrible and I'm giving up on them. My dad is a drunk. Sister is a B. Mom is a lazy POS. I've tried everything to be in a relationship with them but I'm thinking it's best to cut them out and move on. What's the best way? My sister lives in the same town as me, so it will be more difficult with her. My mom and dad I can easily shut out. My dad doesn't care and never did.. piece of cake.

Answer 1

I suggest taking some time away from them.

Don't answer or return calls.

I would then seek advice from someone close to you that you trust.

I would then write a letter to each member describing your feelings.

Tell them that you love them but you are unable to be around them b/c of certain behaviors, etc. Go into detail but don't be too harsh or judgemental. People are less likely to change if they feel put down.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like down deep you really don't want to .You sound if you are just upset set right now and this is something you really need to think about drunk , B , lazy or not that is your family the only one you get so think about it good before you turn your back to them.I hope you can work things out instead.

Answer 3

Sometimes you do have to just cut your losses and walk away. it's always a sad thing - but there often comes a time when they are dragging you down and it's you or them.

Just move on. Avoid them when you can, be distant but polite when you can't avoid them.

Leave town for holidays so there are no expectations for being together. Eventually, they will leave you alone.

Answer 4

It may be a difficult thing to think about at first, but do whats BEST for yourself and move on.. maybe years from now they'll see what they did and regret it.

Answer 5

well with your sister just stop conatcting her and when u do talk just be kinda boring so she just stops contacting u.

Answer 6

move to another state

Answer 7

I'm getting kinda sick of my family also, if you have read my question.  First off, how old are you?  If you are almost 18 then it will be a lot easier to take the situation to court, and let them know how bad your home life is and that you want out.  Or like I will try to do, if I can get away with it, I will contact my family 4 hrs away and i'm sure they would be glad to have me live with them.  Hopefully, you have some decent family members that love you and care for you.  

Answer 8

Work it out with your family just don't shut them out. They maybe not the family you ask for but they still your family.  

Answer 9

I recommend working through this with a therapist.  It's nice to have the extra support as you go through this.  You have some anger, and you've been mistreated.  A therapist can help you gain perspective on what's going on in your family, and help you gain emotional freedom from the situation.  I think just getting away isn't enough (although it's a good start).  You have to get through the hurt and truly move on with your life--that's what gives you a true sense of freedom from the chaos.  

A first step is to ease back on the communication with them.  Don't initiate.  And if they press you, tell them you're feeling hurt by them and just need a little space to figure things out.  Then hold the line and be unavailable.