What's the best way to get over an ex who was verbally/mentally abusive???

Question

I had never been with anyone like that until recently (we did break up) & the things he said were very hurtful but i am a strong woman, I just was curious on some posetive ways of dealing with it while getting over who i thought he was, A nice and sweet guy....boy was i wrong!

Answer 1

get a new lover how treats you better and really appreciates you for who you are

Answer 2

I think you've already answered your question.  The fact that he is abusive in all shapes and form should be enough for you to NOT want to be with him!  What I would do is think about all the unpleasant things he did to you and will continue to do to you if you stay with him...constantly running that through your head, should encourage you to stay away.  And think about how there is someone out there who will treat you better...in a way you deserve to be treated!  But the only way you're going to meet this guy is if you put yourself out there!  I would try going out and meet new people or do online dating. Try www.plentyoffish.com...its a free dating site! That's how I met my current boyfriend!!! But that's just my personal opinion.  

Answer 3

Just keep telling yourself that your a strong woman, and you don't deserve anyone that would treat you in such a manner as that man did. Actually any BOY who would treat a woman like that can't even be called a man. So he's just a little boy who's insecure. Just move on with your life, trust me, your probably way better off without him.

Answer 4

First of all recongize you are not the one at fault.  He is.  He must feel good when he says hurtful things.  Alot of people do this when they are hurting.  You just have to realize everyone has faults.  But we dont have to verbally announce them to each other because they hurt our feelings.  Surround yourself with positive people.   Tell yourself your going to be happy cause you are the better person.

Answer 5

i have been on both sides of this one! I can only say that people will do and say stuff in anger that they usually regret. In my case when i was verbally abusive it was either because i felt hurt and couldnt express it as such and so it came out as anger and retaliation and an attempt to stop the behaviours that hurt me. I know thats it easy to attach blame but is really isn't so straightforward. And the best way to get over it-try to understand and forgive-just holding anger wont help you.  

Answer 6

Just be happy you got away before it got worse....Before it got to be physical abuse... Talk to friends, maybe not about the situation, but to distract yourself, and spend time with your family...