What's the philosophy behind Abstinence?

Question

are there some who choose it, not religious..

Answer 1

Hey!

Okay, I'll be quite honest, I choose it for religious reasons. If I wasn't religious...I probably would have had s*x by now, several times over. Mostly because its an accepted part of modern society, I'm a rape victim and have difficulty saying the word "No", and my hormones are very annoying companions of mine.

But, to answer your question, the philosophy behind Abstinence is a better personal relationship with your chosen mate. Not STDs, not unwanted pregnancies (though those are very GOOD reasons), but happiness. Did you know the statistics for divorce of people who live together and then get married, is much higher than the statistics for those who don't live together first? Now, I don't trust statistics much (they were only really used as a population survey [loosely] before commercialism decided to use them to make their products more likely to sell), but I have seen the effects of premarital s*x with my own eyes. Couples who have had s*x with other partners before they marry, always wonder if you compare them with previous partners unfavorably. It's human nature. And, this leads to jealousies, contentions within a marriage, and, all to often, divorce.

So, the future happiness of you and your loved one is the philosophy behind Abstinence. But the risk of death, serious illness, and becoming pregnant before you are ready (or getting someone else pregnant before you are ready) to support a child. Those are good pieces of the philosophy, too.

Hope that helps! Have a great day!

Luv ya,

Tashi :)

P.S. Another piece of the philosophy I forgot: It helps keep a marriage together, thereby helping keep the family unit together. Did you know that medical studies have shown that children raised by single parents are more likely to have mental disorders? Having two parents active in their lives is key to a child's development. Abstinence  causes less suspicion of adultery, less jealousy, less self-esteem issues within a couple, and those are MAJOR contributors to divorce. So, abstinence is good for your future family.

Answer 2

well let's look at the pros-

no std's

no unwanted pregnancies

no self esteem defamation

no chance of becoming a hooker

greater rewards for waiting for true love and marriage

now the cons-

std's

unwanted pregnancies/abortion more likely

nasty ho

s*x addict

lonely

non-committal

no true meaning of love

have a hard time finding someone when you base it all on s*x

there is overall more joy and pride in saving yourself.  my husband and i saved ourselves for one another and we have been married 8 years and our s*x life is even better than ever because we have become so secure with one another.  our love has gone further and deeper and our respect has grown.

Answer 3

It's a moral thing, not a religious thing. People choose abstinence because it's a sure way they wont get pregnant, or get any sexually transmitted diseases. Some people choose to wait until they're married so they are financially and mentally ready to have children and don't want to take chances before that of ruining their lives or their kids lives by not being ready.  

Answer 4

Probably some mind-body dichotomy philosophy that says the mind is of a higher spiritual plane than the body. That the body is some lowly disgusting thing with urges to be avoided and suppressed if possible. The Christian religion, for example, sure has a field day with making s*x a scary, dangerous thing.

The only way I can see abstinence as a healthy recommendation is for the young ones out there. It's a good idea for them to wait until they have a better grasp of themselves before they go tangling with others.

EDIT: Oh yeah, and to prevent STD's and babies, of course, but I didn't think that was a "philosophy" so much as a practice. But good points answerers above.

EDIT: By the way, when I was younger I didn't just dip my toe in sensual waters, I pretty much jumped right in the river. I'm happy to report that when you find a person with whom you deeply love, the s*x is SO... MUCH... BETTER. I can't say I would have preferred to have waited, but I can see how someone would want to "save" themselves for the "right one."

Answer 5

I stayed abstinent until I was engaged by choice, not out of fear of h**l, or an angry god.

Answer 6

nope

Answer 7

Apparently abstinence is supposed to bring you closer to God ... or some shite like that. Personally, I think that denying yourself a w@nk every once in a while is sheer lunacy. Remember, if you don't use it, you'll lose it.

Answer 8

The only reason why I would consider remaining abstinent is for sexual health reasons.

ie. STD's

I believe that safe s*x solves that problem, so it just comes down to a personal choice.

Answer 9

Abstinence is based on the assumption that humans do not have natural tendency towards s*x and s*x before marriage is inherently wrong.

Answer 10

I choose abstinence, but not just because it's a religious choice. Even when I didn't adhere to a religion I still practiced abstinence.

The philosophy for me is - be abstinent and you wont get AIDS or some other disease that can kill you.