What's the point telling the police about my mom's man sexually harassing me and ruining my moms family dream?

Question

what's the point when he will just get something on a paper.I don't think I can do this.He will go after me that's for sure,or worse,he'll go after my younger sister

Answer 1

Seriously tell the cops. They need to know.

Also tell your mom.

Ruin her dream for all you care. You shouldnt be worrying about that dream if he is sexually harrassing you. You should be worried about your safety, your moms safety, and your sisters safety.

He wouldn't go after you because he would be locked up, restraining orders would most likely be set, and you could just call the cops on him if he broke the restraint.

You need to tell your mom first.

Then call the cops, or have her do that. Dont worry if she ends up upset. She is probably mad at herself for finding such a terrible guy. She is gonna be more happy that you are safe though.

Answer 2

I'm not sure if you being sexually harrassed is in her family dream but, s***w that just tell the police.  

Answer 3

Because, your mom's family dream don't include a child molester.

Besides, if you report him, they should take you into child services and put you in a foster home, or into protection if i remember correctly.

Answer 4

Would you let your mother live in a fantacy. She probably has some feeling about him any way and your coming out with the truth can be the very thing that will heal her after the pain and hurt come up and subside?

The truth may hurt in the beginning, but in the end it will always heal

good luck

Answer 5

Sweetie you are not the one who is ruining thing's, your mom's man is a monster and you must be brave enough to tell someone you trust about what he is doing, PLEASE get help asap.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 6

Ma'am,

sometimes there are times when someone doesn't know what's best for themself, most often it is parents who know better and have to do things that children don't understand for their own welfare.  it appears possibly that you might have to be the responsible one for your mom, beleive me your mom loves you even if she might not show it in ways that you understand, someone hurting her daughter turns any happy little dream she ever had into a nightmare, i'm sure she'd do anything to keep it from happening again.   you need to be the responsible one here, this guy is forcing some tough decisions on you, but that's part of why he thinks he can get away with things like this, he knows how to intimidate people in just the right way so that they don't tell on him...he's a professional and manipulating children making them think the concequences of your telling on him are worse than living with it.

beleive me they are not!!  there are systems set up to make you reporting him as easy on you and your family as possible, when you tell the police they will make sure that any of the bad things he said will happen if you tell on him will NOT happen.

one of the guys earlier said that you and your sister might go into states custody and sent to a foster home, that only happens when both parents are abusive, since your mother is not, you and your sister will get to stay with her, there are even programs and people who will give you a place to stay if your mom needs some time to get back on her feet after the breakup, people that will volunteer their time to make sure you understand excatly why things happened the way they did and help you to understand it's not your fault it's his.

if you don't do this for yourself and your family realize people like your mom's "man" most of the time don't just target one "victim"  there will be more confused young ladies like yourself out there, that he tricks into not telling, there may have been some before you...in reporting him your not just being strong for yourself your being strong for his past and future victims, other girls just like you who have or will have the same problem with him...maybe not as smart or as brave as you...you need to stand up be the WOMAN he's not expecting you to be and do in your heart what you know is right, things will turn out for the better, there will be a lot of people around to make sure they do.

it's not easy, it's not simple, but bringing this to the attention of someone is the right thing to do, if you can't or don't know how to tell the cops, tell your favorite teacher, a school nurse, your girl scout leader, someone at church, these people have also been trained to help you through this tough time, they had to learn how to deal with this...most young women such as yourself are too afraid to go to the cops so they go to someone they trust, most of the adults you really trust in your life, in leadership positions, they have been taught already how to help you through this.  that's where i'd start, find an adult you consider a good person, and tell them, they'll walk you through what needs to be done or find someone they trust to walk you through it.

-Big D

Answer 7

If you feel that you can't tell the police, please tell a teacher or other trusted adult, such as a grandparent, neighbor, etc.  You will not regret taking care of yourself and your sister, but you will regret remaining silent.  If your mother is denying the harassment, just work on protecting your family, even if it means getting out.  Remember that  you can be strong and deal with this.  Only the weak prey on children.  I will be praying for you.