What's the rudest or nastiest comment you've ever recieved while out with your child?

Question

I was in Walmart with my 2 year old who just had surgery on a very private area and having or going to pee was very painful for him and it was just sensitive in general... He started crying and whining and grabbing down there I asked him if he had to pee and he said no so there really wasn't anything I could do and some guy walked up and said "For Christs sakes are you that stupid you can't figure out that he has to pee!?" I turned to the guy and said "Apparently you're that ignorant that you can't mind your own business! He doesn't have to pee he just had surgery there and it hurts or are you too STUPID to understand that??!!"

I've had a few others but I think that was the one that angered me the most... What about you?

Answer 1

Our family was at a fund raiser a few months ago. My mom was with us and ran into one of her friends. The woman looked at our 3 year old daughter and said "Wow, she got fat!". Yes, our daughter has gained weight- she's grown in height, too. But, that doesn't matter. An adult should not make comments like that about children. I just took my daughter and walked off.

I'm not an aggressive person, but I think even I would have had to say something to the idiot in Wal-mart. He didn't even know you....good grief people are ignorant.

Answer 2

That is very rude of the guy, people have said things to me and I want to tell them off but sometimes we have to be the better person and not return the comment, that can make us look bad in front of our children.  This guy was probably some low life loser that you shouldn't have wasted your breath on!

edit: I don't understand why people give a thumbs down if I don't agree completely, I took the time to read your question and answer it, not everyone in the world is always going to agree, and plus is that what people would want anyway - for everyone to agree?  A parent yells at someone and calls them "stupid" in front of their child, that's setting a poor example for the child.  It's one thing to stand up for your child but to stoop down to that guy's level - not good.

Answer 3

my daughter was born with one arm and people constantly ask (like she isnt there) Whats wrong with her? Of course I say why dont you ask her and WTF is wrong with you?

Answer 4

I have another Walmart story.  When my son was a little over a year old (he's big for his age and looked about 3) an older lady working the entrance ran up to my son and took a hold of his pacifier and started tugging on it saying, "You're too old to have that!  You shouldn't have that paci!"  What made me even more mad is that I saw this from a distance.  My husband was standing right there with him and letting her talk to my son that way.  I walked up, gave the woman a mean look (couldn't control that part but I did manage to control myself to not yell at her) took a hold of he back of the buggy and pulled it away, out the door.  Now, if I see her in the store, especially if she is coming towards me or my children, I walk away from her and don't give her the opporotunity to talk to my children.

Answer 5

Last year when my 12-year-old daughter was holding her brother and we were going to see a production of High School Musical at one of the schools here, some high school kid whispered to a girl next to him "wow...she looks awfully young to be a mom. what the h**l is wrong with her mom that she let her have a kid that young?" I immediately turned around and said "why don't you mind your own business? I'm her mother and she happens to be carrying her BROTHER stupid!!"

Answer 6

Just the looks and comments from a few people. I'm 21 now with 2 kids, and 16 weeks pregnant with #3. We live in a small town 26,000 population, so a lot of people are familiar with my husband and I , as well as our kids...but some aren't, and they can be a bit nasty about being young.

What they don't know is that our kids were planned, and we had meticulously planned everything out down to the month they'd be born. (pregnant first try every time). They automatically make ignorant assumptions before knowing the fact's. Which sucks for them, because half the time they are the kind of people that could learn a few things from what we have done/accomplished with our lives. Especially considering we have the inate ability to analyze fiances well enough to have me stay at home. It's odd, people are just plum ignorant sometimes.

Kids will be 4, and 1 when the new baby is born. I'll be 22 at that time. Sure there will be a lot of looks once the new one gets here lol.

Answer 7

You're right to have been defensive there - I would have been the same, how rude of someone to bark out something completely inappropriate when you know your son best! Very aggrovating! I have to say with my first [I'm now pregnant with number 2], I was a young mother [aged 21] and although I had my own car and place with my boyfriend, one day I was forced to take the bus. I hadn't done this alone and had a bit of trouble getting my buggy into the bus in the first place. When I finally managed [I hasten to add - no-one got up to lend a hand!], my daughter started to cry so I went to comfort her, dropping my changing bag. The bus drew off very quickly whilst I was trying to balance my four-month-old AND...just about everything else and I overheard two old biddies passing comments behind me. It was the audacity of not being able to voice their opinion which rattled me! I think it was somewhere along the line of "silly young girls getting pregnant and having to deal with it all alone - it's obviously too much for her". Gosh, give a girl a break! :D

- Just gotta smile and move on! -

Answer 8

Ah, yes...  Surgery "down there".  Our son had hypospadias repair when he was around 18 months, and again when he was just over 2.  (Including a "foley catheter" and the associated bag attached at his hip.)  Fortunately, no one made any rude comments to me.  (The only comment I remember was at my high school reunion, when a classmate -- now a doctor -- asked me about it.)

I guess the rudest comments I get are "helpful parenting tips" from strangers.  "Don't point out the dead animals on the side of the road -- the kids will grow up to be sociopaths" was probably the strangest.  (We use them as examples of "see what happens if you don't look both ways".)

Actually, I guess worse still would be those types of comments from friends/family, especially those w/o any kids.

Answer 9

thank God and their lucky stars no one has said anything about my daughter!  i feel you were 100 percent right!  people are quick to give their two cents and know nothing about what they are talking about.    

i was about 8 months pregnant and my rings didn't fit anymore.  i went to the store with my grandma, and i heard a couple commenting to each other about how sad it was a girl pregnant, and no hubby or car, only family.  i asked them why they said that about me.  shocked that i heard i guess, the woman stammered out that she didn't see a ring and i was with a woman who looked like she would be my grandmother.    i shot back some choice words and told her that many pregnant women cannot wear their wedding bands that far into the pregnancy, and obviously she hadn't been pregnant.   .  i cannot believe how many people love to gossip and come to their own conclusion about a situation.

Answer 10

I haven't really experienced anything that comes to mind yet, but I just wanted to say that guy was rude. Like you would refuse your child the bathroom if he really needed to go. It would take a pretty messed up person to even think of doing that to their own child. And the other answers, I guess it just proves that some people are ignorant and speak before they know the full story. Sad.

Answer 11

Good for you for standing up to his rudeness.  I'm so sorry you had to deal with that....but you did well.

When I was pregnant with twins, someone asked me if I was having a boy or a girl.  I said I was having one of each and the woman said, "If I were having twins, I'd kill myself!"  That was pretty mean to say I think.

Answer 12

it's so painful when people intrudes into others privacy. i  babay wa just 5months other. i carried him in his front carrier to the church. an elderly woman walked up to me and nastly she said " ws that how you mother carried you when you were that young! it was so embarrasing as people where looking at us.

Answer 13

There is an 11 year age difference between me and my youngest brother, and we share the same coloring; every time that I took him out anywhere, someone would feel that it was there job/business to lecture me on what a shame it was that I had a baby when I was so young (I would be say...15 to his 4)...after a while, I gave up on trying to explain that he was my brother, (or pointing out that it was highly unlikely that I'd given birth at the age of 11) so I'd just smile and ignore them.  Morons.

Answer 14

I got one because I look about 17, but I'm in my 20's.  Some old lady was like "Glad to see someone is using my tax money" assuming I am a teen mom on welfare.  I just said "sure, I  mean I am married, I do own my own home, own my car, have my own insurance, and have actually graduated college. "  she just stared at me after that.  I sware people are so stupid and ignorant.  But thats why they say ignorant is bliss.

Answer 15

people used to comment on my child's weight when she was an infant- oh she's so chubby or how much does that baby weigh? She wasn't actually that fat she just had huge cheeks.  That bothered me kind of.

Answer 16

I always wear my son in a front carrier or wrap when we are out and about. I had a woman at the grocery store once tell me that he was "too old to be carried around. He can walk."

I said, "uh, no he can't. He's only 6 months."

Answer 17

I was in a store, n my 1 yr old son kept picking vegetables from the stalls into the trolley, just as i did, quite impressed, i urged him on till one of the cleaners came and said "you mean its so difficult for you to control that child" i was too stunned to talk, i asked her if i asked her to help me pay for the things he was picking

Answer 18

I have five kids and I get so sick of hearing, "Are they all yours?".  I know that really isn't a nasty thing to say to someone if asked out of pure curiosity, but most are asking me because they are thinking we're nuts to have so many...which is rude.

One time the cashier at wal mart said to me, "Are they all yours?"  I said, "Yes".  She said, "Oh, hang it there, they'll grow up soon and they are even worse then".  I looked at her and said, 'Did I say or do anything that gave you the idea I am having a hard time? I happen to love my children and I enjoy them.  If you feel so negative about your children, it's no wonder they are 'worse' now.  I am sad to think of the day my kids will be gone".  

She just kind of looked confused and didn't respond to me.

I hate it when people think everyone agrees with them that having a lot of children would be a bad thing.  Some of us like it!

Answer 19

I'm sorry that you had to deal with such rudeness.

My daughter was born with a cleft lip/palate.  She's had 7 surgeries so far before the age of 5, has many more to go.

However, she's always looked beautiful, even before the surgeries.

There are people who say "Oh, she'll look beautiful once they're all done..."

Um... she's already beautiful.  It bothers me that people say something that stupid.

Answer 20

I had this woman come up to me in Walmart and have a conversation with my baby saying how "He is so cute, I had to look at him when he turned his head so fast." She came rushing over to my shopping cart. She kept saying "HE" this and that... SHE was wearing a PINK shirt that said "Daddy's Girl" Sometimes I want to correct people, but I just walk away saying "Yes, you're a pretty little GIRL."

What is it with Walmart? I swear the rudest people shop there!

Answer 21

Wow...Luckily, I haven't had any experiences like that with either or my 2 daughters. They are 2 and 3 yrs old. The worst thing that ever happens to me is other people always trying to push their parenting advice on me, like their way is the only way, but it doesn't bother me much. I'm so sorry you had to deal with an idiot like that. That's what happens when people stick their noses in what doesn't concern them. Parents know their children best, and I'm sure you are able to figure out when he has to pee and when it's something else. Sheesh.

Answer 22

Wow!  I guess I'm really lucky as random strangers have never said rude things to me about my baby.  The closest thing to rude was a cashier at Babies R Us telling my son (6 months at the time) that he was too old for his binky and if he lived at her house, he wouldn't be able to have it.  

I'm surprised by these stories and the amount of rudeness coming from the general public these days!  I can't ever imagine telling a random stranger on the street some of the things people have said here.  And what's with all the judgment about young mothers?  I don't get the mindset of people who would yell at someone (who they don't even know!) in public because they assume that person is on welfare.  Yelling at them, mind you, about children that may not even be theirs!  Oh my gosh! What is WITH people?

Answer 23

I look younger than I am (maybe about 18 - 20?) and I am actually 26.  I have been married for 5 years in a week and we have a 20 month old and a baby due in Sept and I'm SUPER HUGE!  I had a few older ladies in the last few months walk up to me and tell me that I should be married (I can't wear a ring because I'm swelling up like a balloon!) and that having two babies so close together is a horrible thing I could do at my age and that I should give them up for adoption or use birth control and a few other variations.  After being told this twice in a month, by the third time I got so angry and I said, "I'm actually 26 years old and my husband of 5 years is over there getting tomatoes!  Do you want my ID???"  The lady looked at my husband who showed up at that time and gave me a weird look and walked away LOL.  Looking back now it's funny but I still get really weird looks.  I feel like tattooing it to my head!