What's the secret to a lifelong friendship with someone from the opposite s*x--both married?

Question

What's the secret to a lifelong friendship with someone from the opposite s*x--both married?

Answer 1

Married to each other?

Answer 2

Honesty, truthfulness, no s*x with anyone other than your spouse, common friends, and a spouse who can understand all of it.

Answer 3

Not sleeping with them and having a super understanding spouse.

Answer 4

There is no secret

Answer 5

There is no reason why opposite-s*x friendships can't work for married people.

If both parties treasure the friendship, they will do what is needed to nurture it, prevent it from evolving into anything improper, and generally make it work. Having an easy rapport generally keeps things friendly and prevents the relationship from veering offcourse into forbidden territory.

I think one important key is respect. There are, of course, boundaries that need to be respected. Also, both friends have to respect one another's marriages, and the spouses of each have to respect the friendship.

Answer 6

Keep her foremost in your thoughts.  A wife is the most important person in the world for a married man.  If you make her happy, I guarantee you the husband will be happy too.

Answer 7

I'm married, my best friend is male, he's in a relationship as well.  I think the only way it really works is if the spouses aren't jealous of the friendship & there must be trust between all parties.

My husband doesn't mind at all so it works.  They actually get along great & they gang up on me now LOL!  I haven't met my friend's new girlfriend yet but he's very serious about her so I'm hoping she likes me & doesn't have a problem with it.  Women tend to be a little more catty so sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't.  Fingers crossed.

Answer 8

Don't sleep with your friend. Anytime you want to do something secretly ask yourself: what would my spouse do if he/she knows. If you would rather not talk about it, don't do it. To anything you will not like to bring to the open, the answer is : no.

Answer 9

One of them is extremely ugly.

Answer 10

Be couple's friends!! My husband and I are good friends with another couple around our age. All four of us are friends. When I'm at work and my husband has a morning off our friend (female) (since her husband works away) will go out to brunch with my husband. But in the same instance if I'm at home and he's working her and I go out to a coffee shop or something and hang out. If her husband is home it's all four of us (and the funniest part, she's an ex girlfriend of his from their teenage years) ... there's no problems. and why?! RESPECT!! None of us hide our interactions, we all answer our phones when our spouses call, we try to include our spouses if the work schedule allows it, we all do things together as often as possible. I have a good girl friend, my husband has a good guy friend, and we both have somebody of the opposite s*x that we can go to to ask questions about the opposite s*x. It works well, but you need the trust (and respect ...)

Answer 11

That's not going to happen and shouldn't.  Your wife should be your number one friend.  Unless, you both have open spouses then you can carry on this "friendship".