What's too young to be engaged?

Question

I believe love happens at any age and that you don't have to be older to know what love is.So how young is too young?

Answer 1

It isnt about a number. It is about maturity. Everyone is different. There are 25 year olds who I know that are still too immature to be married.

I got married at 17 (a month before i turned 18) and we were "officially" engaged only a couple months before but we had known for longer that we would be married.

He purposed on our 3 year anniversary and I was 17, he was 18. Now we are married and Im pregnant and its wonderful. I know we weren't too young and we are really mature for our age.

I dont think you can put a cookie cutter answer to this question. Its different for every person.  

Answer 2

I think that any age under 22/23 is too young. Even if love does happen to find you at a younger age, it is responsible to wait and see how your personalities develop. I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We are waiting to get married even though we wanted to years ago. I think that both people should be living on their own with a career and stable lifestyle before they get married so there is no alternate intent.  

Answer 3

17 is too young to be engage.   in this day and age it is not politically correct to get married before 18 years...the age that parents no longer have to sign permission.  My mother married my Dad when she was 16 years old and he was 27 years old.  They had me after they were married 5 years.  They have now been married 41 years.  

Here is the thing.  For girls around 16 years many times they are ready to commit and settle down with a lifetime mate.  But, the problem is that boys that same age are not.  They mature slower than girls do and are usually not ready to settle down until they are in their late 20s to mid 30s.  Since it is not socially accepted for young girls to marry older men then it is only reasonable that girls wait until they are old enough to date men that mature enough to settle down.  So, 18 years old is when a person is old enough to be engaged imo.  

I am female btw.  And I know that my views aren't shared with many.  But, i just wanted to point that out so someone didnt' think well you are just an old perverted man lol

Answer 4

under 21.  there are alot of arguments about 18, and i realized that I was a dumb young kid at 18 who didnt know better.  I never got engaged then, but I realized it was too young, better to experience life and just wait another 3 years... already waited 18... wats another 3?

21 is perfect cuz everything opens up, and you are usually out of college by 21...

Answer 5

I agree that love happens at any age and you don't have to be older to know what love is BUT I thin that you need to be older to fully understand what the love entails and be prepared for making a life together with someone.  On that note, things can work our or go bad for anyone who gets married at any age.  Example - two of my best friend got married at 18, one is currently going through a divorce, the other has been married 6 years, is still deeply happy and in love, and is pregnant with her third child, finishing up school college, and doing just fine.  I know people who got married at 26 and were divorced 5 months later.  I personally didn't want to get married until I was finished with my undergraduate degree (will be getting married between my second and third year of law school.)

So, to give a long answer to a short question, I think that you should be legally able to get married (18) but also realize that it takes more than love to make a life-long relationship work.  If someone is ready for that at 18 (which to many seems young) so be it.

Answer 6

Love can happen at any age, but mature, responsible love happens when one is adult enough to recognize it.  Being engaged, as well as married, should be things that are decided upon by mature minds, who can understand the consequences and happenings that go along with those decisions.  Age doesn't matter, maturity does.  

Answer 7

Between 18 and 21 is still too early to get married. It's ok to get engaged and wait a couple of years before you get married. Besides, if this man wants to marry you it's because he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, so what's the rush right?

My point here is if he loves you now and wants to love you for life then there's plenty of time in between to get married to each other.

Answer 8

Before 20 is too young to get engaged, and I'd even advise to wait until at least 24.

I don't understand the rush to get married young, what's your d**n hurry?

Answer 9

To young to be married without parental consent…

I agree that love can happen at any age, but that love can’t always endure the personal changes you’ll undergo as you grow up. If I had married the boy I loved at 17, I’d probably have gotten a divorce by the time I was 19.

Answer 10

I got engaged three months after I turned 20. I think under the age of 18 would be to young but if it works for you then do it. I moved out with him at 18. There is no ideal age. It is whatever makes you happy and Follow your heart. And my wedding is in two months so I think what ever age you are is good. BE HAPPY and FOLLOW YOUR HEART!

Answer 11

I think you really need some life experience before you get married, as this is a serious thing to get into.

What is time, if you really love each other.

The main thing to remember is to take your time and make sure it's the right thing, as if it isn't you both will be hurt terribly.

Good luck.