What's up with hubby??

Question

Well, I've been wanting to play tennis for a while with my husband since we have a tennis court in our apartment complex. The only thing is, the rackets costs too much!! Anyways, he and two of his co-workers (male and female) went out last week to play paintball (I wanted to go but still breastfeeding so was too afraid they might hit me on my b***s and damage/plug my milk ducts). Well, female co-worker now wants to play sports all the time and go out all the time, so this morning (7:00 a.m.) she text him saying she wants to play some sports. He suggested tennis!!!

I've been wanting to play tennis for about two years now and because rackets were too expensive we never did and now she wants to play sports, he's going for it. What the h**l is that? They don't have anything romantic (at least to my knowledge) going on. And why (if we were playing), would he bring in a third wheel?

Answer 1

something sounds fishy here,my husband would not even become friends with a woman like that it's just not appropriate.

Answer 2

You should tell your husband how you feel, and ask him why he is willing to buy rackets for his friend but not for you.  It could be a communication thing: maybe he didn't realize how badly you wanted to play tennis with him, or maybe his new friend already has tennis rackets for him to use so he doesn't have to buy new ones.  On the other hand, he could be romantically interested in this new person.  It's impossible to say without more information.  The best way to solve this, and virtually every other problem you'll ever have with your husband, is through communication.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Your not that nieve, are you??  A co-worker (who is a female) texting and wanting to spend time out of work with your husband??  HMMMM!  Did he invite you to play tennis and to take you to purchase a new racket?  Honestly hun!  Wake up!  There's more to the story!  If I was you, I would have a sit down with hubby!  GOOD LUCK!  

Answer 4

Because he is very close to you, he can tell you 'NO' which he wouldn't to his co-worker because there is also some attraction involved, not necessarily sexual but like freshness of relationship. and this should have been other way around.

Answer 5

You don't think there is anything romantic.  Open the plugs and let the **** fly.  He is cheating.  

Answer 6

Sounds very fishy. I hope you're not letting him go play tennis with this female coworker of his.

Answer 7

My husband does things like this all the time to me. We have a very open relationship so he tells me why. He says it is because he loves to be with me and loves to spend time with me but not all the time. It sounds like female co worker is just in need of someone to be friends with her and do something with. She sounds like the type that does not get along with other girls too well so she prefers the company of men. It sounds like hubby is just in need of someone to hang with and since she is making the effort to get in contact with him he is going for it. I would watch out though because after baby is the most common time for men to cheat. I think you should go and watch the game or tell your husband that since you have waited for two years to play with him his but can invite another male player and you girls can play against the boys. It would be good to bond with female co worker because she will be less likely to try to steal your man if she likes you. I think it is important for her to see that you two like each other and have fun together too.  

Answer 8

That sounds odd & I would be suspicious.  Mention to your husband that YOU want to play sports too!  If he wants to play with people from his work, I would make sure it is couples or team games that you can join too.  If it is just your husband and this female co-worker only...I would not like that, that seems fishy.  If she keeps pursisting to play just with your husband, I would tell her to back off.

Answer 9

Watch out trouble is on the way. My guy wouldnt be going and doing anything with a woman. People wonder how they get to the point of cheating...WELL duh ,,,, this is how. People need to protect their relationship not ask for trouble to enter it. People say you are insecure if you dont allow what you are. I see it oppisite. You have every right to be insecure about it. This action of your husband is not a good one. He is goning to be messing around wiht her sooner or later. And the fact that it is something you have been wanting to do even makes him out to be more of an insensitive jerk. I promise you that he will cheat with her. Its only a matter of time if you dont make him see what he is doing.

Answer 10

Obviously, his interest is not in tennis. (Come on. Beginner grade rackets are too expensive? $6 on ebay.) His interest is in sweaty sports with another woman.  

Answer 11

WHOA  you better watch this women, sounds to me like she wants your husband. Women don't do that with other married womens men for no reason and yes i'd be mad as heck with him knowing how you've been over it now for some period of time. Sounds to me you better keep your eyes open here.  Congrats on your new baby, since your breast feeding.

Answer 12

First off it is never a good idea for a married man to have a friendship with someone from the opposite s*x. It will always leave a door open. I would nip that in the butt now! She has no business texting your HUSBAND at 7am or anytime. If its work related then they should keep it at the office. I really would watch this sounds like hes gonna end up cheating on you.

Answer 13

He is bored with you and has a thing for her.

Answer 14

I was at one time, well, 3 actually, a wife, and if and when my hubby's did this sort of thing with other women, I was pissed, hurt , jeaus.

I had a right to be though, cause my hubby's ended up sleeping with all of these women.   I married dogs.  

I'd ask him what is up with this sh*t!

Answer 15

forget the tennis issue, whats up with ur man getting text messages from a female co-worker?  I dunno, but I would be kind of upset about that.  And then ok, we can discuss the tennis issue, u wanted to do it first, but this all goes back to whats up with the female coworker????  Dont u think???

Answer 16

Better put the kabosh on that quick! Your husband doesn't need female friends.  It's highly inappropriate. Next time she texts, call her.

Answer 17

Since your not available he's found someone who is.  I wouldn't worry so much about my b*****s as I would another woman playing tennis with my husband.