What's with mom's being so harsh and judgemental to eachother?

Question

Why is it that so many women, especially on here, have such terrible opinions about EVERYTHING other women do?

#1 breastfeeding. I am a breastfeeder also, but WHOA it's just not some mom's cup of tea. There are obvious benifits to all involved when done, BUT scientists and nutritionists have worked very hard at making it possible not to and not have so much guilt. I feel so bad, some moms really give it an honest effort and all I see on here is criticisms about why it should have worked.

2 cosleeping or not: Im not a cosleeper but love my child every bit as much as you do. Im terrified to roll over on my little one and honestly I think my bed is for me and my hubby. That's the only spot we have for husband and wife stuff - not entire family stuff.

3 SAHM vs Wrking mom: OUCH lay off! Im SAH but have worked with kids my WHOLE life. If you are a better mom when working, do so. Dont go crazy giving into social pressure. AND I TEACH my kids constantly - I WORK HARD DANGIT

Answer 1

I agree. Everyone had a different way of doing things. It doesn't mean it is wrong- its just DIFFERENT! I guess it has to do with defending their young. Mom's can fly into a rage when they think their kids are being threatened or their parenting is being questioned. Everyone needs to lighten up and listen- and who knows- maybe we'll learn something new from someone else that will help us and our families out!

Answer 2

They are like mother in laws.  Their way is best!

Answer 3

I completly agree it's so dumb, if everyone raised there kids the exact smae way where would we get our diversity?!? thank you so much for calling peopleout on it

Answer 4

Amen Sister! We should be there for each other to give advice not to beat each other up:)

Answer 5

The reason for this is that all the topics you've listed are very personal ones and ones we feel strongest about. That's just the way things go in this forum. If you cannot handle criticism then it's probably not the best place for you.

No one on here knows the other person's exact situation, only what they've offered to share, so yes it is sad when you see them acting so harshly. But, on the other hand, if you're willing to offer up info. and ask for people's OPINIONS then you need to expect that some will be ones you do not like.

Answer 6

I dunno, thats just how women are.  They are always judging and criticizing.  Plenty will deny it, but they do it too.

Answer 7

I totally agree. Funny thing is, people are going to answer your question by preaching about those subjects you mentioned above..

Answer 8

Yeah every mom thinks she and she alone knows the best way to raise a child....and if that were true, there wouldn't be so many f*cked up kids out there.

I just let it go.  I think women who pounce and criticize other moms feel somewhat inept and unsure of themselves.  If they were truly confident in what they were doing, they would be compassionate and understanding instead of going for the jugular.