What's with my mom?!?

Question

She burned the toast (unintentionally, I'm sure), my grandma complains, and instead of taking it out on my grandma, she took it out on me and said I did something with the toaster!!! This morning, our house was like a set on a Mexican telenovela, with everyone shouting in Spanish!!! Me, my mom, and my dad!!!

Answer 1

Geez - maybe it was her time of the month - thats alot of drama - especially for early in the morning - maybe you should consider getting your own place?

Answer 2

My mom does that sometimes. When she knows she can't scold the person who was at fault or who she was angry at she takes it out on me. I just blame it on her menopause.

Answer 3

Sounds like a stressful household.  

Your mom probably picked you as an 'easy' target. She probably didn't want to shout at your grandma as it would have been rude/insulting to shout at a parent/elder.

The situation escalated and it got out of hand. It's just burnt toast. No one was hurt, no fire was started.  Think about it, there are worse things that could have happened.

Everyone needs to step back, take a deep breath and say "I'm sorry I yelled at you.  I let my temper get the best of me."

It was only burnt toast.....

Answer 4

she probably took it out on you to save your grandma getting the full force of her agression.

So in a way, she could have been trying to save your grandma from upset and in doing so, she upset you instead.

Maybe you should chat to her about it when there are just the two of you - ask her if she's OK or if there's anything upsetting her and tell her that you did nothing to the toaster and didn't deserve the blame.  She probably feels bad about it already and might be glad to apologise to you for it (she might not realise that you feel upset about what happened).

But as for why she's upset - there could be loads and loads of reasons ranging from a bad night's sleep to having to do something she's not looking forward to at work, to being frustrated with/worried about a family member, to being fed up that there was only toast for breakfast! ..............who knows what it could be - only she can tell you that.

Answer 5

Oh Ramone!  Es Necessita mi amor!

Answer 6

Probably hormones. (from a woman).

Answer 7

Well maybe you're known for tampering with things? Sometimes when parents get stressed they take it out on their kids not their parents or in-laws! Don't take it personal.

Answer 8

PMS I'm sure.