What's wrong with being too nice?

Question

I just met three girls at school a few weeks ago, and we get along really well, but they seem to have a problem with me being too nice-- I basically spoil them by buying basically whatever they want.

Lately they brought up that being too nice to them makes them feel bad. Why is this and why do they seem to think that being too nice is a bad thing?

Answer 1

Well in a sence it makes them feel they are taking advantage of you.They just need you to say no sometimes, or its just they need to see another side of you. dont let them think they have you around there fingers!  

Answer 2

cos they are morons used to hanging around idiots,.. be your self

Answer 3

As long as you enjoy being this nice and if thats who you are, then there isnt a problem. Just dont let anyone take advantage of you. Wish there were more nice people like you out in this world.

Answer 4

Youo don't have to buy them things to be nice.  Maybe they are very uncomfortable getting things and not being able to return the gesture.

Maybe it feels like you're trying to buy their friendship, and that could make them uncomfortable.

Answer 5

one of the problems with being to nice is you get walked over people can easily use you for whatever you want you can still be nice but not a push over and if you are getting them everything they want they shouldn't be complaining about it. they don't see it as a bad thing but people do tend to feel guilty when they get a gift you don't have to get them stuff to be nice or be a friend