What's wrong with her? How to get her to snap out of it?

Question

There's this young lady at my church. She used to be totally involved. Some people thought she should become a clergy person when she got older. She's kind of boring & reserved though. She never really opens up to people to make a connection with them. I know she's tried to make friends but it's hard b/c she doesn't know how to have fun. I think people (including myself) try to be nice to her but not exactly her best pal.

Well, my church is having our annual conference. We're the only really young adults here. Except when she's helping the planner, she's really withdrawn. She seems sad. I've tried talking to her, figuring we might as well enjoy our time here together. She didn't say much of anything. I noticed others have tried as well.....nothing.

Answer 1

Pray for her, most people have a story but she just refuses to share it.

Answer 2

If she's a teen, it's probably normal hormonal stuff going on. If she's older, she could have a case of Depression or some other disorder which causes Depression.

If she isn't responding to others, then don't try to pressure her. Be friendly. Offer to help if she looks like she could use a hand with a project. Just don't overdo.

Hope this is helpful!

Answer 3

I don't know how long you have known her but maybe it just takes her a really long time to open up and trust people. That could be why she is so reserved, maybe something has happened to her that has really damaged her and has a hard time letting her guard down. I wouldn't pry too much and maybe continue to be friend with her and she may eventually let her guard down when she can trust you. But can she trust you? And it could just be that she's just that way, ya know quiet, reserved, not everyone can come out of their shell because its just not their way. It does sound to me like she does "just need a friend", but its just gonna take some serious time and patience for her to be comfortable and open up her true self. Good Luck to you, and don't give up.

Answer 4

just leave her alone. no one likes to be talked to when they are trying to not talk to others. she may be sad, or bored, or irritated, or maybe she just doesnt want to go to church. just give her some space. she seems like she needs it.

Answer 5

Maybe she figured out that religion is crock and she's sad becuase she's been wasting her time all these years.