What's wrong with me (18+ question) ?

Question

I'm a 22 year old in a happy relationship of three years, but lately I've been feeling strange with my significant other. I don't feel like being touched or kissed by him. Not because I don't love him (he's my everything) I just don't want it. At times I feel he can be a little too overwhelming when he tries to cuddle and kiss me. I just get frustrated and withdraw.

Don't get me wrong; until late, I loved s*x as much as the next person. I'm not getting aroused anymore. I'm a bit worried about the whole thing...

Am I just bored? Am I depressed? Any similar problems?

Answer 1

It happens in most long term relationships. This is the stage that will determine if you guys are for eachother.

It can be due to you guys have been together for so long, might be a sense of a routine to you now. Not everyone likes routines and can get bored of the quite easily. Maybe you should change some things up a bit, go out to places you normally wouldnt, spice up your s*x life...

Or it can be that you are drifting appart, being in a 3 year relationship and being 22 now, you as a person might have changed more than you realize, maybe the thing that once made you excited or what ever you want to call it over him, doesnt do that for you now cuz you are different person....

My personal experience, I'm in a long term relationship and I have been in the same situation. But speaking for myself... I go through periods where I just want my time, time to be alone and do my thing, a time for me not to be cuddled so much and basically put in his pocket to play with me whenever he wants. So I ask him for a little breather every now and then, and when I'm ready everything feels like the first day I met him. That could be your problem also.

So just talk to him and let him know you need a little breather.

Then hopefully you will come back refreshed.

Answer 2

You probably are slowly drifting away from your significant other. Do something about it now or you will soon be separated.

Answer 3

There are plenty of medical reasons why a woman would have a decreased libido.  Talk to your doctor about it.

Answer 4

Try something new with him. Something you've always wanted to try

Answer 5

Ali,Perhaps you are just getting tired of the same thing over and over.  Or it could be because in some way,You don't feel like you're worth his loving.  Do you have doubts that maybe he does these things just to get s*x from you?  If that's the case,Then maybe you should let him know that he doesn't always have to do this.  Your love can be more than just the physical touching or kissing.  Love can be about being there for your loved one in times of need.  Being able to strike up a serious conversation with him or her.  There is truly nothing wrong with you,Ali.  If you feel like he is becoming alittle overwhelming again.  What you could do is ask him politely to stop.  Ask him if you two could talk about this problem you are having.  Birthdays and Valentine's Day is a perfect time to express your love for your partner.  Let your boyfriend know how you are feeling.  If he loves you,He will do anything to help you.  Now there isn't anything wrong with a kiss or a hug now and then,Is there?  I could go further but I don't want to seem like a pervert.  Well,Not in front of you.  Ali,Things will work out,I promise you.  I hope your bf doesn't mind me helping you.  You just seemed like you needed someone to help you.  And this is what I live for.  To help people out,To make life alittle better for someone either than me.  You have a goodnight,Ali.  I'll say some prayers for you and your boyfriend.  Bye for now.

Answer 6

well, love is about surprises and everyday when your with him its kinda like something new. and i think maybe you want to love him so much but ur heart is not in it anymore. just ask him to give you your space until u get ur head together.

Answer 7

Doesnt sound like anything is wrong. Not with you,anyway

Answer 8

I think its normal. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and there are sometimes when I'mm just not in the mood to cuddle or kiss. I cant really explain to him why I'm not in the mood but sometimes im just not. This feeling comes and goes and i dont think theres anything wrong with you...maybe the feeling will pass!