What's wrong with me? PLEASE HELP!?

Question

Why is it very hard for me to believe that any guy could like me? Even if they say they do it's like I get defensive and push away. And then I start asking them why they like me and spend so much time with me and not some other women that has "it all"

Answer 1

You might be insecure. just remember that guys WILL like you because you are pretty/nice/sweet/funny etc. But don't feel like you HAVE to act a certain way just because a guy likes you. If you are not ready for that then....don't push it. :)

Answer 2

Its hard for you to see with others see because you don't like what you have to offer.  You gotta like yourself for someone else to like you.  If your not happy and confident with who you are then your going to spend the whole time asking the guy why he likes you.  That will get old really quick... they can't make you like yourself.  

Don't worry about the women that has "it all"... nobody out there has it all.  Worry about yourself... work on yourself... do what you want to do... and be who you want to be... be true.  

Answer 3

there is  a guy named edwin he is also feeling like that. you 2 should meet want the phone number?

Answer 4

Well let me first say that women who "have it all" really dont. The grass is always greener - and those women probably envy you for one thing or anther.

Second of all, this is probably a confidense problem! You need to appreciate yourself more, and have more trust that you are a loveable person. Spend more time with family and friends who love you unconditionaly. Youl could also try making a list of things you like about yourself.

Most guys say that confidense is really s**y - it gives off a great vibe. It's hard to love someone who doenst even love themselves.

I hope i helped!

have a great day!

Answer 5

Maybe you don't like yourself, so you feel no one else can like you. Start loving yourself and declaring to yourself that you're beautiful, funny, intelligent, whatever it is you can think of.

The single worst thing you can do is expect others to love you when you don't love yourself. You can't let others people be the reason for having self-esteem. That's why the call it SELF-esteem. Check out Katt Williams comedy special "The Pimp Chronicles", you'll know what I'm talking about :)

Answer 6

Seems like you lack confidence in yourself and want to reject someone before they reject you in avoidance of getting hurt. Try to stop this. Next time a guy shows interest in you, have some faith in yourself and don't push them away. The worse that could happen is the relationship doesn't work out and you find someone else. If it does work, think how happy you might be. And in the end, if the worse case happens, don't take it personally. Good Luck

Answer 7

self-esteem issues?

do you have a good relationship with your mom & dad (particularly, your dad)?  

Answer 8

Maybe you are hot. I dated a girl all threw high school I hated to death. But she had the nicest butt I have ever seen!

Answer 9

because you're scared of getting hurt. look-i like you

you may think you're not worth it, maybe somethings happened at home...please don't beat yourself up.

let me add you to my contacts. and no one's perfect. i wonder if you have self esteem issues...

Answer 10

low confidence

don't go in to denial

Answer 11

Try to cultivate self-confidence in yourself, and this will solve the MAJORITY of all problems you have. This is FACT and there are many ways to do this. You have two worlds, your inner world (your mind), and your outer world (your physical appearance).

Go to work on your physical appearance first. Make a list of things you don't like about your body, and SOLVE them one by one. It could be weight, so make an exercise program and stick to it. Could be facial features which you can rapidly change using moisturizing products, hair appointments or eyebrow waxing. Buy clothes that make you feel s**y. The more you like about your physical appearance, the more confidence you WILL start to develop.

Then keep working on your mind. Make a list of positive things to say to yourself and repeat them every day. Start with "I love myself" and include many of the things you are good at. Keep at it, and WITHOUT A DOUBT you WILL start to feel better. That is because you DO have it all, and you are about to realize that you ARE truly beautiful.

Best of luck

Answer 12

Low self esteem is a VERY common problem in this modern world. We are constantly exposed to images and examples of so-called "Perfect" and "Successful" people and it can have serious effects on our self-image. Also, Ladies seem to be affected more by this factor (sorry - just saying what I see!!)

I'm not saying that this is definitely the problem you have (or the reason for it), there could be other reasons why you don't think of yourself as "Worthy" of any guy but may I express an opinion....

I don't even know you and I don't believe for a second that that is really true!!!!

You have clearly had offer(s) in the past and you are articulating your feelings openly (albeit in e-form). Sounds to me like you have a lot to give to any relationship... you just need to take the plunge!

Hope it works out for you :-)

Answer 13

It sounds that you NEED to take a hard look at yourself and find good qualities that you like about yourself and focus on those qualities. Focus on you not on guys and when you start to like no LOVE yourself again the right guy will find you. But for now focus on yourself!

Answer 14

Because obviously you have a self esteem deficiency. And it is extremely hard to get over. Also, it seems like it is hard for you to get close to people. You also need to work on trust. Ways to get over this is to start trying your hardest to think positive of yourself.  

Answer 15

Your just a little insecure. Just try to focus on your good qualities and try to accept yourself as you are because you nobody's perfect.Remember that your amazing and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.

Answer 16

your very insecure....  

Answer 17

you probably dont want to believe it! stop being so critical :) i'm sure if he says he likes you, hes not lying. you probably just don't want to get hurt ! so think about that :) .. and don't worry too much ! if he says he likes you, its okay to believe it and have feelings for someone :)

Answer 18

You need to be confident and secure in who you are.  Don't count on what others say to define who you are.  The strong prey on the weak and this world will eat you alive if you don't start taking control of your life.  Be you and stop worrying what others think.  Unless they are signing your checks and/or paying your bills or taking care of you, they should have no say in your life.  As for women that have "it all"...don't kid yourself.  There is no perfect woman...as there is no perfect man.  The longer you live, the more you'll come to realize just how true that is.  So, go with the flow and enjoy life.