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What's your opinion? The non custodial parent requested vacation time for an out of state trip

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with our 9 and 10 year old kids. We have joint custody and I have primary placement. He told me he would not be attending this trip but his girlfriend and her family will. He lives with her in her home. Currently they are NOT getting along and fight constantly around the kids, Our son declined to go immediately and our daughter is only going to please her dad. I am very close with my kids, my daughter has said once to me she does not want to go and then changed her mind after spending a weekend at her dads, I feel that the Dad was not honest and upfront with me from the beginning, knowing that he would not be attending due to his job. I also feel the daughter is being forced to take sides. Would you tell the parent to reschedule his vacation when work permitted, or let the child go?

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  1. if you have primary placement then unless he takes you to court he has to do what you ask,i woulnt want my children around people fighting expecially there dad n his gf.i say u have the power to say no...peace


  2. I would talk to your ex.  Tell him exactly what is going on.  He should know what he is putting his kids through.  

    If these were my kids I wouldn't allow them to go away without a parent.

  3. I would not let the kids go. For one thing they don't even WANT to go and, more importantly, the father won't even be there. It sounds like a non-issue. Just say no and that's that.

  4. tell him that if they want ot go you don't have an issue with it however since he will not be going that you nor the kids are comfortable with the situation.  Visitation is for him  not his girlfriend.

  5. Don't allow them to go.  Tell him maybe another time but for now you are not completely comfortable with the idea and so far the children has express discomfort about going as well.  

  6. If your ex isn't going then why is your daughter going ?

    I'd only let the children go if their father was going also, if not keep them both home.

    The whole point of the trip is for your children to spend more time with their father, not with a bunch of strangers.

    Their dad can arrange a couple of day trips with them instead.

    Good Luck. X :-)

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