What's your sign, and do you have genuine compassion for others ?

Question

Or do you fake it out of fear of bad karma?

When you hear about terrible things happening, do you actually feel bad about it, or do you just pretend to feel that way because you know it's wrong not to, and fear the consequences of your thoughts?

Unless I care about someone deeply, when I hear about suffering from others, it doesn't normally phase me. However, I know that I wouldn't want to be in such a position, so I do my best to act like I actually feel bad about it. Sometimes I feel that my friends have a lot more compassion than I do. They often feel genuine sadness, and feel weird around me when I don't react the same way.

Please do not take this the wrong way, I just want to hear your own experiences with this.

Also, Sun/Moon/Rising signs, please.

Answer 1

Queen Rach:  Yes, I generally feel a lot of compassion for others; however, it is hard for me to say the right words.  Instead of sweet words, I usually try to make the person feel better with a positive comment.  Mostly, I just really listen and let them get it out.  For me, if someone is down, I DON'T want to make them more down.  I have a Gemini moon, and Saturn/Aquarius in 4th house.  I can write how I feel much better than how I can verbally express it.  Maybe Cap in house 3 helps here.

Maybe its your Cancer moon?   As Cancer moon is real sensitive, maybe you block out the sensation, as it would hit you too hard?? Just a thought.

I just asked a question on nurturing (before I saw this question).  Kind of a coincidence.

Scorpio sun, Gemini moon, Scorpio rising

Answer 2

I fall in the trap of compassion to where I find myself wrapped up in there problems and forget about mine for awhile.

I have been taking advantage of  because of it.

I always say that I am stone-cold but it is a front

Scorpio w/Leo/Leo

Answer 3

Meh, not really. I don't really care about others problems unless they affect me or something....I don't really have very much compassion for others unless I know what they're going through..like when I see someone getting picked on, I feel like I have to scream at the people making fun of the other person cause I know what it's like and it's not fun.

But if it's something that's never happened to me, I could honestly care less about others problems.

My friends are always telling me to be more emotional and caring and c**p. xP

Gemini Sun/Libra Moon/Cancer Rising

Answer 4

Hi Sweet Rach!!!

Yeah I am amongst the compassionate folks.  Someone was just telling me a story today about how their pet got hurt and I immediately felt bad/sad for the little animal -awwwww :-/

If someone is crying OMG that just hits me big time - unless this is what the person always does then I stop getting so affected.  Also too much self-created situations that bring bad results (which were like obvious that they would be bad results from the very start) then I lose interest/compassion for them too.

Big heart though...use to get me in big trouble because I felt bad for everyone.  I am much more discerning now I think :-)

Me:

Sun: Sadge

Moon: Leo

Ascendant: Gemini

I read that a Sadge sun with a Leo moon makes a person idealistic so maybe that is why I am a very compassionate person?!

Answer 5

I have always been a very compassionate person and have had people tell me so many time. I don't pretend to feel bad because that's not being true to yourself. I genuinely feel bad and have compassion. I don't believe in Karma and the threefold law. I'm in charge of my own destiny.

Answer 6

Hey Rach! :-)

Well to be honest, when i meet someone or interact with others, i always give them the benefit of the doubt which can either be good or a bad things depending on the result of whether it is appreciated or not.

But in terms of compassion, I have strong compassion for those who are dear and close to me. As for those who may not be so dear or close, and what i mean is the bond may not be strong or i do not know them properly. Then I would have less compassion but would emphasis with the struggles and hardship they are going through.

I believe the aspect of my chart which helps me to have compassion for others is my cancer rising. As i often pick up on others feelings like it is my own, almost like i feel their pain and sorrow. It extremely does affect me. as my mood will adjust to have the environment or the aura i pick up. But what i try to do is beat it by being supportive, caring or a listener to others...showing empathy and sympathy.

For those who are dear to me and when i show compassion, my level of compassion goes really deep and this is where gemini in my 12th house comes into play, as often when i am compassionate about those who are suffering, what happens is anxiety creeps up and it affects me. I big a very intense worrier that it is picked up my others immensly.

Sag (Sun)/ Leo (Moon)/ Cancer (Rising)

Answer 7

I do have absolute genuine compassion for my kids for my husband, friends.  I do care about other people too, but If they deceive me they will not get my compassion anymore with anything.  It will be like they never existed anymore.

Aquarius

taurus moon

Cancer rising

Answer 8

i only feel compassion for the things im connected to and that im fearing of, naturally. and i do think and feel this is so for others. as genuine as it can be. otherwise, i just think they're being fake and shallow when they're being compassionate for things they dont understand or never have experienced.

it may not be as clear cut as that, but with many faces one person is able to act and be, not mentioning complex personas, this my way of oversimplifying people. it helps and its accurate, if not 100%, then, 99%.

cancer sun, aries moon and aqua asc.

Answer 9

Its really funny that you asked my question because I was thinking about this as well.

I don't cry at funerals, or when some one else seems to be in pain. I know I should though. So, sometimes I trick myself into believing I really do care. When I was a kid, I hardly ever cried over other people. I remember faking tears at my grandmother's funeral because everyone else was. I was pretty young, so I decided it was the best thing to do

But, I do feel bad when I feel like I let some one down or hurt some one deeply. That could send me crying for hours. Or, if some one very close to me was sad. That gets me quite upset.

My Moon conjunct Neptune in the first house can pick up emotions easily. I can sense boredom, happiness, sadness, anger etc. around me. It's not hard to see how some one's feeling. And so, it makes it even easier for me to fake pity. If I didn't have this placement, I probably would have been sent to the psychiatrists office regularly.

Virgo Sun= Probably why I'm so cold

Sagittarius Rising

Sagittarius Moon= I don't really like dealing with my emotions

Answer 10

I tend to equate some people's actions to that of the "boy that cried wolf": I can be very empathetic-- I can feel for people and their pain. People seem to sense that about me and latch onto that. Many times I've gone out of my way to help people in some distress not because of karma, but based on what kind of person I envision myself to be. I obviously am not doing it to win points with anyone as I rarely mention any of this to anybody afterwards. I just do it. But I can become quite drained when I see the same self defeating patterns emerge over and over again. I can then be pretty distant and cold-- even just cut people off-- when these same people escape into self pity or a true lack of desire to help themselves. If you ask for my help and my heart, I'm more than generous. If the intent is to take advantage of that, I may call you out. If that in itself causes you to lash out at me (as if I owe you something), then obviously you are just selfish- a taker-- and you do NOT have my sympathy.

We all have moments of pain, but we can't just keep putting others out. And I know that I have to protect my own psyche at times.

Answer 11

I think I do. I care about the ones close to me, but that's a given. So let's move on to my care about total strangers. Big time calamities hit me hard emotionally but not as hard as 9/11 did. I cried when I saw the news about the terrorist attacks even though I'm not American, eh? I was bothered big time because it wasn't something natural that caused it. Just...deceit.

I do have compassion for others, even total strangers. But my level of care depends on what caused their predicament. If they're the ones who did it onto themselves, I feel sorry for them but I don't care much --- not nearly as much if it was caused by something external.

Pisces Sun. Virgo Moon. Taurus Rising.

Edit: Do you mean what you're saying, Rock Star? Or am I just blowing your words out of proportion? I hope I am.

What do you think makes you so indifferent?

Edit: Do you feel fine that way or are you taking steps to change it?

Answer 12

Yeah that sounds like me, I just fake it so people won't think i'm a psychopath. Whenever I tell people the truth, that I really don't care they just think i'm an evil person who deserves to burn.

Answer 13

Well... I think compassion can be felt in so many ways, and my opinion on that makes this a rather interesting question to me. Who knows how everyone feels compassion, or any emotion, for that matter? Is it sympathy? Is it a taking on board the full flood of their emotions due to empathy? Is it a sadness and fear that something similar might happen to you? Is it a sadness for the state of the world that feeds a deep depression or fear of your own?

People experience 'compassion' in so many ways, or not at all, and they just lie about it.

Me personally... I think I experience many different types of compassion, and oddly enough, sometimes I don't feel anything at all. I cry at things that have nothing to do with me, but sometimes I cut off completely and a logical interpretation of the events takes over the emotional.

I think it is very useful for you to have paid attention to the fact that you don't feel compassion for things not directly related to you. I think the majority of people don't feel anything and just pretend that they care. To me, this is a strange social emergence... because I don't necessarily think that it's a bad or good thing to feel compassion for things not directly related to you - so why is this such a treasured quality? Broad empathy can be a challenging as well as a positive quality, and can benefit people in many ways. Similarly, I also think lack of it can also be beneficial.

Pisces sun, gemini moon, sagittarius rising.

Answer 14

I am compassionate and empathetic.....

Very difficult in my early teen years...world affairs and current events - very dramatic, traumatic, just plain awful...I literally cried a lot for others whom I felt badly for and couldn't do anything to benefit them in any way....I wrote a lot of poetry based on this, very depressing!

I finally decided that I had to limit the amount of news that I take in...lol...maybe not the best thing to do but i felt I needed to just to pull myself up out of the dark depression I found myself to be in!

I am still that way (years later - lol) with people I meet, friends and family...I am easily taken advantage through my empathy and compassion though....I have learned the hard way that people who don't want to help themselves, can't even except help from others without s******g them over somehow (even if it is unintentional)....so I do my best to recognize someone who may indeed need help and will appreciate it or those who just want sympathy while they whine and moan and groan but refuse to do anything to try to make it better! I will help those who are willing to help themselves first...the others go to the last on the list for me!

Faking it...no...I just don't have a problem telling people that while their situation may be a bad one...I do not feel sorry for them, because they more than likely don't want to do anything about it but whine....p!ss or get off the pot already -lol! Don't waste my time! Someone in serious need (and willing to do their part to help themselve)...sometimes I do 'fake it' - in the sense that I don't want them to see me get upset for them...or see me worry too much...I want to be there for them and if it's strength or a shoulder they need then I do my best to seem as though I am a nuetral party even if there is some concern for them....

LOL...Hope that made sense...lol!

Sun - Sag

Moon - Scorpio

Rising - Cap

Answer 15

im a pisces

i do have a compassion i guess lol

yeah i do feel bad if something is wrong or watever

uhm it doesnt matter who they are i just feel bad about it

idk wat your talking bout for sun/moon/ect but here are my traits

on the lighter side

Imaginative and sensitive

Compassionate and kind

Selfless and unworldly

Intuitive and sympathetic

On the dark side....

Escapist and idealistic

Secretive and vague

Weak-willed and easily led

Answer 16

I'm more the type of friend everyone goes to for advice.  I think I'm pretty compassionate, but at the same time, I try to find the positives in a situation and try to build the other person's esteem up.  If they feel they are strong, then they can conquer their problems.  I've also be told I have a very calming way about me when I relate to others.  As if the problems are not that huge and can be conquered.  I just go with the "that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger" angle and that helps.  Plus, I can think of all the outcomes of a situation and how it might affect people.  I think that helps people a lot.

I'm a Libra Sun/Virgo Moon/Capricorn Rising

Answer 17

I feel genuine compassion for others, but I will feel more for friends than I would for strangers. When I see or hear about bad things happening to people I don't know I feel bad but I would forget about it quickly, but I feel a lot of compassion for friends, if something happened to one of them I wouldn't be able to think about anything else. However, I often feign indifference in case people try to take advantage of me which seems to make people who don't know me that well think I'm mean but in reality I wouldn't think twice about going out of my way to help a friend.

gemini sun

virgo rising

cancer moon

Answer 18

sun Leo moon virgo rising libra I love my best friends. I care about them there pain is my pain and I am very compasionate when it comes to them for I love them with all of my heart and make life comfortable for me, but when it comes to others normally I do not have compasion for them. I do not pretend to feel bad about it nor do I seem happy about it. I sometimes try helping people in bad situations if I sort of know them but that is just because I feel it is my responsibility as a human being to help them.

Answer 19

I'm a Virgo, and I sometimes think I have too much compassion for people.  I was at a baseball game once, and a guy fell and sprained his ankle.  I almost passed out from seeing him in pain!  lol

Answer 20

i have genuine compassion for others!

aquarius w/ pisces moon & leo rising