What AM I DOING?! Help me pleasee?! ahh?

Question

Okay i have an almost 3yr old daughter, Sophia.

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but since she was born, i hadnt heard from her father until 2 weeks ago. he called in tears, wanting to see her ^above explains a lot more.

I told him i needed time. I posted that question a weeek after he had called, and then called him back once i'd resolved it.

He came over the next day and him and my daughter got on so well, I'm really confident he is going to be a great father now.

He is also thinking about moving closer to the area as i told him i'd love him to see her more often.

We have a h**l of a lot of chemistry, and yesterday, we had s.ex.

Unprotected.

I was ovulating too.

I'm scared I'm pregnant. Yes, It was only yesterday and i dont want to take the morning after pill or anything like that, i want this baby actually.

I dont know if he does though.

He had only been back into Sophia's life for 3 days [she had seen him for 3 of those days, all day], and i screwed him!

I just don't know what to think.

ahhh? what's your opinion?

I know i might not be pregnant, but i like want to be? ahh

help?!

Answer 1

You sound very confused to be honest ..he never seen your daughter in all this time and you slept with him unprotected ?

Wow ...strange and you wanted a baby .. i think you should have at least talked and sorted yourselves out not had s*x as soon as he came back  

Answer 2

what i would do in this situation would just take it slow.. you haven't really heard from this guy in 2 years so you dont know if he is still the same guy that left or if he has changed.. if you really want to pursue this guy you need to get to know each other again... like start at the beginning and see if you still have all those things in common that you did before... sleeping with him might not have been a good idea but you cant help that now (it just might have made you want him more... like lust) you just need to make sure that he is a good guy and isnt going to leave once you say that you are pregnant again (if you even are) and if everything works out and you realize that you still have a lot in common then take it further... just be careful!!  if it doesnt work out your daughter might not understand who that man was that came and left so quickly.. she should be your first priority in this whole thing... not a new baby, not the possibility of the relationship working out (although i know it is probably hard to think of anything else)  Sophia is your number one so just make sure she wont get hurt in all of this

good luck!!!

Answer 3

I'm trying to work out what is bothering you the most,

Unless you were planning a baby how could you be so sure you are ovulating,i hope for your sake your not pregnant you are in the middle of a war zone at the moment and if it was me i would be taking the pill,but then i would never get my self in that position any way,

Answer 4

If you don't want to take the morning after pill and you are happy to be pregnant, then you have already made that decision??

From here, I would caution you to be extremely careful.  I would definately not have unprotected s*x.  It is very early days, and you need to firmly establish a new relationship where you KNOW you can trust him 100%.  Your priority right now is your daughter, and ensuring that no matter what happens between you and him, that she doesn't end up hurt.  Therefore I wouldn't jeopardise a potential relationship with him by adding a pregnancy into the mix.

The old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is all too true.  And so is the saying that "a leopard never changes his spots".  Until you know what HAS changed, just be really careful!

Good luck!