What Can I Do To Get Rid Of This Stress?

Question

ive just been so stressed out lately. life just went from going straight to downhill in a matter of months. my grandma got sick and had to get surgery so now i am living with her and watching over her. Ive been here for like 3 weeks now..its hard and stressfull balancing my life and some one elses. My mom is constantly out now, shes working alot more now to get some extra moneya and i rarely see her and my dad much anymore. Im just so aftaid of losing my grandma..i dont know what to do, i mean shes been there for me so much since i was little and I would be destroyed to see her go. I keep getting bad dreams at night and bad thoughts in the daytime of me losing her. I mean she is in her mid 70's, and it seems like her health keeps getting worse..

i just dont think i can handle this..its like life shifted to high gear in the middle of seconds and i am forced to be mature. It sucks growing up, and to be honest i really dont want to.

but i mean, i havent had counsling in a while now, do you think i should go back. I mean for the past 3 weeks every day i pretty much break down and fall apart.

Answer 1

Dunno i got probs with that too : / answer mine please T.T

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Answer 2

Counseling sounds like a good idea.  They will help you take a break from the stress and find good ways to cope with it.  You don't have any control over what is happening, but you can control how you respond to it.  Take some time for yourself in the morning or at night before bed and do something to decompress and let it out.  Have some quiet "you" time.

Answer 3

First off I am so sorry to hear about your Grandmother.  I was a Freshman in High School when I lost my first Grandparent, after that I lost them all in a matter of 4 years.  It was so hard for me.  So I understand how you are feeling.  

I would suggest going back to your counselor.  Talking to someone who is not directly linked with the situation will definitely help you.  Also as dumb as this may sound... Try some Yoga.  If you can't go to the class or buy a dvd I am sure they have this on TV where you live.  Yoga takes all your stress away and you focus on the wonderful stretch.  It really does help a lot.  I was going through A LOT of issues like you, and I started getting high blood pressure at a young age.  I started using Yoga, and my BP dropped.  

Just cherish this time you have with your Grandmother.  She is really thankful, I'm sure, that you are helping her so much.  I would also recommend that you sit down with her and video tape or record your conversations.  That way if something does happen to her you will be able to have that forever.  Once the Grandparents pass on, they take with them a library of stories.  So sit down and have her tell you all about your family, and her childhood.  You can start your own Family Storybook and pass this on to your children.  

I'm sorry, and I hope that things turn around for you.  Good Luck!

Answer 4

Go back to counseling, if possible.  

Losing someone close to you is hard.  It sounds like you're young, so that's even harder.  h**l, I'm almost 40 and lost my favorite person in the world in Feb., and am still having trouble with it constantly.

Don't be afraid to reach out for help.  If not counseling, maybe the school counselor?  a trusted adult (friends' parent, priest/rabbi, teacher)?  an understanding friend?

Do not hold it in - you'll make it worse.

Best wishes.

Answer 5

Seek counseling again, you seem to have a lot going on.  Try to relax.  Take a walk, work up a sweat.  Exercise, it is good for the body and the mind.  

Answer 6

Excersing is good for stress, its a proven fact, it helps me, lift some weights and put on your favorite song, if you dont have weights you can use a can of soup, or anything really, Do something nice for your grandma, it will make you feel good

Answer 7

There are a lot of different things you can do to relieve stress!  I run, some people punch one of those boxing bag things, some people eat ice cream, some people...well, I really don't know what they do lol.  To me, running is such a huge stress relief because that hour that I'm out running, I'm free.  Free of being an adult, free of bills, free of worries, I can go anywhere I want and see whatever area of the town I want to, and I don't have to think, just enjoy the time spent with me.

I hope you find your niche.