What Can I Do With Myself?

Question

I am a upcoming sophmore with a problem. On Jan. 8 I had something taken that I can never get back. It's hard because I never thought about it and I said I was going to wait until marriage. It was my first, but I don't think that counts. I went to the doc's and they said I was 8 weeks. I went to the cops and did everything I can think of. It hurts me to keep in from my family, but only the closer ones know. The problem is that I am a emotional wreck and I don't know what to do. I cry myself to sleep and it just hurts me eventhough. I always thought that this wioll never happened to me, but I was wrong. That d**n Tessa chick is a b**** for lying when people have a serious problem like that. It makes girls look like a s**t and some immature. 4 Questions

1. What should I do with the kid?

2. How can I cope with this problem

3. What do you think about that Tessa chick?

4. Was it wrong to think that "this" will never happen to me?

Answer 1

first off, since you are young, i guess, sounds like a sophmore in high school, you need to tell your parents, you could keep the kid, get an abortion, or put it up for adoption, which is what seems like the best choice to me. You need to tell your parents and if you plan on carrying it to term, you need to take better care of yourself. Sounds like you didn't mean to, or were forced and it was a one time incident, so your parents wont disown you after you tell them how you are falling apart. This Tessa chick??? i dont even know what you said there but dont think about her, if she is gossiping, she is just jealous that there isn't more attention on her. It wasn't wrong to think it would never happen to you, you might of had a sheltered life, no one thinks that it will happen to them until it is too late. However, you can spread the word  to people and help prevent the same from happening to them

Answer 2

1. I think you should obviously have the child (even though it is too late to abort it) but you could always give it up for adoption if you do not think you are ready to be a parent.

2. I think perhaps counciling would be good for you.

4. No no one thinks something like this would happen to them but you should accept it and begin to live. You can continue to wait until you are married.

Just take it one day at a time and tell your parents or whoever you trust!

Good luck=)

Answer 3

1 u can look for parents for the baby now like in Juno watch it

2 talk to ur parents they will bw mad but they will help u out later on when u go to them go to them with all the info if u have looked at parents for ur baby

3 idk who that is

4 no its not wrong cuz everyone thinks that but u should always be save

good luck if u need to talk to someone email me k

Answer 4

please look for a crisis pregnancy center in the phone book if you feel like you can't tell your parents.  you may be surprised if you talk to them however.  i'm a 48 yo dad and my 18yo had a little boy about 7 weeks ago.  she's not married either.  The most important thing is that you have a new life in you.   Don't take that life away from that person.  9 months of inconvenience is a small price to pay for creating a new life, and there are plenty of adoption agencies that would be happy to place your child.

Answer 5

Who the h**l is Tessa?

Answer 6

ADOPT THE CHILD OR KEEP IT!!! GIVE IT LIFE!! DONT HAVE AN ABORTION, IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE FOR YOU! WOMEN WHO HAVE ABORTIONS GET POST ABORTION SYNDROME! SOME GET SO DEPRESSED THAT THEY COMMIT SUICIDE!  ADOPT IT TO A LOVING FAMILY OR KEEP YOUR BABY!!

Answer 7

DO NOT GET AN ABORTION

If you can't take care of it put it up for Adoption

It is not the child's fault...

Answer 8

Who is Tessa?  Anyway, not sure why you went to the cops because it sounds like you were a willing participant (unless the guy is over 18 he can't be charged).  Sometimes we have to learn the hard way, and I do feel sorry for you, but now it's time to grow up.  Talk to your parents because they will be the ones who have to help support you and the baby if you have the baby and keep it.  Or be like Juno and put it up for adoption.  I personally don't believe in abortion so I can't tell you to do that.

Answer 9

wow....sorry.... dont git an abortion its the worse thing you can possibly do... when you have the baby you can give it up for adoption... tell your parents because the longer you hold it from them the more its going to hurt you and them also...♥trust me i know...♥ i have had friends in situations like yours and the longer they held it from their parents the more it hurt them... ♥and i mean its tough i know.....♥trust me♥

im a teen mother also and im going to be a sophmore shes 4 mnths old its going to be tough when i start school but atleast my man is still around♥

Answer 10

1. give it up for adoption or if you feel like you can deal with it you can have an abortion

2, talk to a counselor it's how i got through a lot of c**p that happened to me i was raped and abused and all kinds of things and the counselor at my college helped me get through it.

3. i know nothing about the tessa chick

4. yes it was wrong because whenever you say that it usually happens or when you say that you will never do something you do eventualy end up doing it believe me with the personal experience.

i was raped when i was 17 and got pregnant, i kept the baby and now have a wonderful 5 year old son but i have been raped more than once by more than one guy

Answer 11

Do not get an abortion. Every life has a meaning, do not destroy this life. I believe that putting it up for adoption is the best thing you can do.

Secondly, you went through quite a big event, however the best thing you can do is move on and put it behind you its for the best. Focus on your studys.

Answer 12

1. It all depends on how you feel. Your family can help with the baby, but you need to know the problems that may occur. Hopefully none. Please, do not have an abortion. Your baby did nothing and doing something like this could bring more problems. If you choose adoption pick VERY carefully. You want your baby to have a great life.

2. Go along with it. It's going to be very tough but with family support and friends, you will be able to survive.

3. We are not quite sure who "Tessa" is, but lying is never the right thing to do in any situation.

4. No, everyone thinks it won't. Everybody thinks that it will never happen to them, but sometimes it does. You will have to just go through with it, even though it WILL be hard.

Hope we are some help to you:)

Answer 13

DONT GET RID OF THE KID THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU COULD DO TAKING A LIFE NOT JUST A LIFE A BABY YOU WOULD HAVE TO BE PRETTY LOW FOR THAT. Just tell your parents and hope that they will help you thats all they can do. No because someday it would happen to you so i feel really bad that it had to happen now. I am so sorry.

Answer 14

1. keep him/her, it is a life, and doesnt need to be murdered

2. you can get through it and tell your family, they can help you

3. tessa is crazy, especially if what she is saying is true

4. no, its not wrong, nobody ever thinks it will happen. its something that seems can only happen to ppl who arent you

Answer 15

its' very wrong to think that 'this' will never happen to you

now 'this' is a living breathing child i wouldnt call it a this thats disrespective

Answer 16

Do you have a favorite teacher or other adult who you would be comfortable talking with?  My life has been kinda a mess these past two years or so, and sometimes it is such a help to have people totally separate from everything that I can turn to.  It's really good to have someone to get advise from...and even just a shoulder to cry on.

You are suddenly in an immensely stressful situation.  It's no surprise you feel overwhelmed, angry, upset.  You probably feel like you need to know what to do with the baby right now, but you still have a little while to make a decision. The most important thing is that Mom is making healthy choices so that whether you choose adoption or keeping the kiddo, he'll be off to a great start.

I already know how you feel about abortion.  Don't let anyone pressure you into compromising your stand.  Find a crisis pregnancy center so you can begin sorting through your options.

As far as thinking that "this" will never happen--we all do that about one thing or another.  That's a part of being human, a part of life.

All the best.

Answer 17

1. You do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel right about the situation. You're the one who matters here, regardless of what anyone tells you, and you need to put yourself first

As for all the people who're anti-abortion, they rarely practice what they preach ( http://mypage.direct.ca/w/writer/anti-ta... ) and they have no right whatsoever to tell you what you can and can't do with your body. Anyone who puts a a few cells (which, if it grows into a human, is far more likely to become a criminal than do anything constructive, let alone good with it's life) before the life of someone who obviously cares about their education and has a lot going for them has some seriously screwed up morals.

2. Relax. Sit down with someone you trust to take a mature approach and talk it through. Even if they don't have any useful advice you obviously need to get a lot off your chest

3. I don't know 'that d**n Tessa chick' so it's not my place

4. In theory, yes, but it's one of those things everyone likes to think at the back of their mind as a kind of safety net and that's not something you should ever have to apologize for, no matter how other people view that

jmb145: You're not a VHEMT.org volunteer by any chance, are you?

Answer 18

i think you should do whatever feels right, i mean if you think an abortion is right or adoption or whatever. its your choice.

Answer 19

dont listen to the others...there are 6.5 billion ppl and this earth is running out of space. so if you dont want the baby get an abortion. might sound cruel but it beat 13 billion people on this earth..we gotta learn how to limit population