What/Can I do anything? My teacher...?

Question

is a really good teacher but only moved into our school at the start of the year and i asked today how she was going at the school and she said that as she came in late adults have their own 'groups' already and she sometimes felt a bit lonely, shes married and a science teacher im one of the 'nerdish' crowd but our class' wom a few sports things so its kinda level here, I was just wondering if i should just butt out or tell another teacher? or anything else

Answer 1

I believe your compassion and empathy are muddling your very important role in this student-teacher relationship.  It is your "job" to respond to your teacher in academic situations, show respect to your teacher, and complete all of your student responsibilities.  From you, this lonely teacher may receive these types of valuable rewards, and she may experience the wonderful feeling of having helped/inspired/reached a student. A cheerful smile from you at the beginning of class each day will do more than you could imagine.

Answer 2

Omg, your school is a bad role model. They have clicks, just like the kids do. It's good that you're trying to help your teacher, you shouldnt butt out. Just help.

Answer 3

Your new science teacher is still in the process of adjusting to things in your school. You are already helping her actually by showing concern and by being friendly with her. With such attitude from a student like you, you can encourage others to be cooperative with her.  these little things will make your teacher happy and she can fully adjust and adapt to the new environment.

Answer 4

It is so nice that you care. Just be there as a student.

If you know another teacher you can trust and it would not make the situation worse, you could mention the situation in a hypothetical case. Don't repeat the conversation verbatum.

What I mean is say, for example, " How do teachers relate to each other and get to know each other? "  You could say students usually...and explain how you guys make a new person feel welcome.

If the teacher is not receptive to sharing, don't offer any more  information.

You are very mature and this is a "life lesson".  Is it worth it to mention it ?  Will it make the situation worse or better? " should always be your qualifiers for situations you encounter.

If you teacher you know offers some information you think your new teacher would benefit from, share it with respect as a student.

For example, "You know Ms. Smith, Mr. Jones says that the teachers and their families go bowling once a month at the local lanes to get to know each other" or they eat at this local restuarant.

This allows to help in an impersonal manner.  If you know more about the local customs and teachers and it common knowledge, it should be okay to share.

Just respect the student -teacher relationship and don't cause things to be worse.

You certainly are compassionate and it is hard sometimes knowing what to do.  BJ

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about the social politics of a school...just be nice to your teacher and stay out of the situation.  Considering the behaviors of some teachers at some schools, not being part of a "group" may be a blessing in disguise.

Answer 6

Well to start off, I don't think she really should have told you about personal problems with other teachers.  It appears she did not name others, but it isn't very professional none the least.

But I agree that it is very kind of you to want to help, but I really think telling another teacher may actually make the situation worse.  Sadly adults are just like kids, we all have people we like and people we don't and some are more welcoming than others.

I was a new teacher in the middle of the year (toward the begining) too.  It was my first year so I think many teachers felt that helping me and being friendly was the right thing to do...I am so greatful they did because they helped me be a better teacher...and my students, better students.

But being a new teacher, especially after the year has started id a lot like being the new kid.  You have to find where you fit.  But jobs are a bit different.  It is wonderful to make friends on the job, it makes things more enjoyable especially when you are having a bad day, but it is not your goal there.  Most teachers (and other professionals) have friends outside of the work place, this teacher probably does as well.

Answer 7

It's so nice that you want to help her but i think you should probably leave be as it's not down to you to help her make friends (I mean this in a nice way) - It is true that people make their own little groups but given time she will find the right one for her.. I hope she realizes what a nice person you are x