What Do You Do When You Disagree With Your Own Feelings..??

Question

What Do You Do When You Disagree With Your Own Feelings..??

Answer 1

Lord Vader.

Answer 2

You can't really disagree with your own feelings; you are sometimes confused or try to disguise them, though.

Answer 3

This is a well documented and studied phenomenon. When ones feelings are not correlated to their existing perspective of reality, this causes mental stress known as cognitive dissonance. The mind then takes incredible measures to allieviate this dissonance. Here is an example; Jenny has wanted to be a member of the USC marching band since middle school. She works hard on her academics and practices every chance she gets. Jenny is accepted at USC and auditions for the marching band, but is told that she is not accepted. When she goes back to the dorm, her best friend calls her and asks her how the audition went. Jenny replies that she didn't get picked, but that it's for the best. She states that being on the squad would have been nice, but she needs to focus on her academics anyway. She further states that it's no big deal, and that the band is overrated anyway.

See, in spite of her feelings about the USC marching band that she had for six years prior to the audition, once she found out that she was incapable of playing for them, she molded her feelings to fit the current situation. By doing such, she has allieviated the dissonance (or stress) that would exist as a function of the difference between her feelings and her current state of reality. Further if she had been accepted it is not likley that she would have molded her feelings in the same way, but rather expressed joy and pride in accomplishing her goal, as well as praised the squad that she was now a part of.

Answer 4

You have to detach yourself from whatever is leaving you conflicted and think about it rationally. Go by what you think rather then how you feel because your feelings can easily deceive you.

Answer 5

Lay down and cry laughter is on it's way.

Answer 6

Duke it out

Answer 7

Exercise self-control.

Those are the toughest moments when our own feelings betray us.  

Time to cry to ease off the tension (if occasion permits).  

Sooner or later we can bring our feelings back to normal,  befriend them....

Answer 8

Answer: Override them with common sense, past experiences, and facts.

An aweful lot of our feeling are not for our betterment. We might beattracted to someone that we know would be trouble in the long run. We might have immediate feelings of, say, hatred towards someone or something that they did but come to a different perspective when we get more facts or time calms us down.

It's mature to recognize that there is a tendency in all of us to react to our feelings but an immediate reaction is not always in our best interest, ie road rage, etc.

Anger is probrobly the best example of what not to react to without weighing some of the consequences.

Also look at the divorce rate nowadays. Feelings tell us it will last forever but reality tells us something very different.

Answer 9

nothing, thinking again and again till get any clue.

Answer 10

cry

Answer 11

I usually try to fight against them at the beginning, but that makes me end up overwhelmed by them. So I'd rather talk about them loudly with friends and write about them... writing helps me analyze them better and discover those shallow parts of them which can help me move on.

I think I'm awfully stressing to everyone around me when I'm caught on a crossroad of feelings, yet such moments are rare and life usually leads me to a different path. that's something which time can always solve...

Answer 12

Feelings can neither be disagreed with nor agreed with. You may not like the way you are feeling and the only thing to do is take action that will change the way you feel. That is what I try to do.

Answer 13

I always try to get some new feelings that could satisfy me with the help of those persons or their works, who inspired me in my life.

Answer 14

Then make up your mind, and decide what seems to be the best. Just don't forget that "not acting" is a possibility as well.

Answer 15

This man is often violating the advice and guidance of Soul and acts upon the advice of the Devil.  Our feelings are the will of God conveyed to us through out Soul.  Please agree with your feelings.

Answer 16

try to flip back to the first of my two personalities.

thanks for asking

mr schizo