What Do You Think Goes On In Their Minds...???

Question

One of my son's (who is 3 in September) is very feminine. He loves doing Mummy's hair, and his hair has to be *perfect*. He is a very soft hearted boy, and isn't your typical Muddy Toddler Boy, like his twin brother.

People often ask if he is g*y (Meaning Homosexual - Not happy).

Now is it just me, but who says that about a nearly 3yo???

I have nothing against g**s, one of my best-friends is g*y. And I'd love my son no matter what.

But honestly do you think these people are missing a chunk of their brains??

Why do they feel the need to blurt this out about a toddler who isn't even 3yo, who doesn't even have interests in any s*x??

Answer 1

Basically ppl are morons.... Either way, kids are kids if they all acted the same then what fun would they be. Now that someone has said that you will catch yourself watching him as he grows and wondering too. No big deal all we can do is support our kids in every way.

Answer 2

If someone asked me this about a 3 year old child I would punch them they must be morons. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this behaviour he is only 3 which is far to early to be g*y I actually can not believe that someone asked you that. My Son will be 3 in December and is going through a stage of wanting anything that is pink (pink is my favourite colour) and playing with dolls as he loves babies. I no way take this to mean he will be g*y (not that I would care if he was) but as he's only 2 the thought has never even crossed my mind.

What the h**l did you say to these idiots who asked you?

Answer 3

He is just emulating you. It is way to early for sexual preference to be shown. Your friends are loony!!

Answer 4

you cant be g*y or straight at that age, just get into team sports when hes old enough and he'l b fine

Answer 5

God only knows, perhaps trying to be funny? or as it turns out they might not have a brain size as big as your little sons? People are idiots, dont take it to heart.

Your little boy sounds like me when i was small ? He must be a libra right??

Good on ya i hope use have much cherished moments together!!

Answer 6

Is the questioner a r****d?

btw,

You sound like a great Dad!!

Answer 7

You are joking me????? I cant believe that the tought of a child being g*y would enter someones  mind when they are three years old.......that md person is an idiot whether or not children have a father figure in their life is NO bearing at all on whether or not they are g*y...a person is born g*y not MADE to become g*y...ignorance drives me nuts!!!!!!

Maybe he is just like you...soft hearted and beautiful!!!!!!!

Answer 8

i cant believe people ask you that.

Thats bloody rediculous and down right rude and presumptuous!

How on earth could a not even three year old be g*y?

Yes there are some brains missing for sure.

just ignore them. He may grow up to be g*y he may not, truth is that is no ones buisness but his. I think people these days think they have the right to stick their noses in where they are unwelcome. How rude!

Answer 9

I don't think a 3 year old can be g*y.  Whoever asked you that is stupid!  Some boys play with girl stuff, and others play with boy stuff.  Same for girls.  There are several girls that would rather play in the mud then be a princess, don't mean they will grow up to be a L*****n.  

Don't let it bother you what this person said to you.  Let your kid be a kid, even if he is a twin doesn't mean he has to enjoy the same things his twin does.

Answer 10

Well Charli, if your son might be g*y, mine definitely is, lol. He plays with his sisters barbies, babies and tea sets and he is 19 months old. I have recently done a psychology course (in part of my social work degree) and a few people in the class swear that kids as young as 3 know they are "g*y" and have tendencies, it really peed me off because I don't think a child at 3 knows what they want in terms of where their life will end up and with whom. Mostly they just want to know when they can go and play and when their next meal without veggies is. Your son may or may not be g*y, the point is at three, nobody knows not even him!! But you ask a predominately g*y person and sometimes they will say that they knew they were g*y from a very young age.......I believe that this is a very rare phenomenon and at that age they shouldn't even know what "g*y" is.

My son plays with his sisters toys because he wants to do what she does, your son obviously wants to the same with you. I agree with another poster....people can be morons!!!!!

Answer 11

i will guess two things here.

1 you work lot and out of the house.

2 your wife is the primary caregiver for this child.

if these are true, then the kid is just a product of his environment.  because he is with his mother allot, he learns from her. i think that your son is way too young to even start thinking about  his sexual orientation. heck he is still learning how to use that little leg down there, right. hey just relax and enjoy life with your son.

Answer 12

I like Charlee's answer & my son is very soft hearted & plays barbies w/ his younger sister   He doesn't wear pink though.  lol  My daughter is 5 & she dresses in her brothers clothes a lot & plays GI Joes & wrestling w/ her brother.  I don't think anything of it at their young age.  :)  I agree w/ you.

Answer 13

You basically just described my 5 year old. She loves to touch and do Mommy's hair. He loves when I comb his hair and make it look nice. He's very kind and gentle, and soft-hearted. One time, actually, Addison (8 months) was taking a nap on our couch, and I was in the other room and she was crying, and I didn't hear her. Noah picked her up, like he'd done it for years and came into the kitchen and gave her to me. Just about broke my heart. And he was so careful with her. Never once crossed my mind that he's "g*y," he's just a nice, sort of feminine kid. Nothing wrong with that.

Anyway, sorry, I strayed from the question there. Who ever said this must be a moron and doesn't have kids, or doesn't know about kids. They all act differently. Kids will be kids. Again, some kids just have different personalites. I look at my kids, and I wouldn't know they were related someone hadn't told me they were (based on personality). And yeah, of course you child isn't interested in either s*x yet. He's 3 for pete's sake. My son that I mentioned earlier hasn't had an interest in any s*x yet either.

But wow, who in their right-mind would say that about a 2 1/2 year old!!?? Man oh man!!

~Kate

Answer 14

A lot of people are just narrow-minded. To them it's a disaster if their boy doesn't like football, or their girl doesn't want to go to ballet - and it would never occur to them to introduce their child to a hobby that they think is for the other s*x - so boys don't get encouraged to sing or play instruments, girls don't get encouraged to play sport or even taken to watch it with dad.

I think it's desperately sad for any of their kids who aren't natural stereotypes.

Answer 15

No not at all! Hes not g*y!! Most little boys tend to play with barbies,and play with peoples hair and all that stuff they are curious innocent little boys he will grow out of it i am sure!

Answer 16

Yes, we get that asked of our middle son, Tyler. His favourite colour is pink, he has a pink drink bottle, sandwich container for daycare and pre-school, and wanted pink croc's (the shoes. We settled for purple, lol.)  His older brother is right into girls (at the tender age of 7 . . geez!!) and asks him who he likes. He says "Jack" his favourite little friend, and people put it all together and just come out with the same comments.

Stupid, he is only 4 for god's sake!!

I must say, I feel really sad. He loves the colour pink so much, but now wont take a pink drink bottle or sandwich container to pre-school or daycare anymore, as he says the other kids tease him because its a "girl colour."  I never have told my kids either colours are for any gender, whats it matter???!! He is also the most loving and caring of the three of my boys, so who knows? They are still my kids and I will love them to bits no matter what sexuality they are. I believe we are born like that, so their preferences can't be helped. You do not choose to be g*y, as we don't choose to be hetrosexual.