What I DO BOUT THIS Bridesmaid Drama???

Question

OK....I'm getting married sometime next year..My supposed to-be best friend... I haven't spoke to in like 2 months. I wanted her to be my bridesmaid, but I SHE is so BUSY, I really don't know if I want her to be in my wedding because of the shadiness I feel from her. She make time to call her a boyfriend though... I mean what should I do??? Do I really want her to be apart of my wedding day like she makes me apart of her life right now....Or should I even send her a invitation to MY wedding???

Answer 1

this sounds like a lot of drama and not something you should be dealing with when it comes to your wedding.

i suggest, invite her to the wedding and if she really doesn't want your friendship anymore, she will decline. if she asks why shes not a bridesmaid them explain the situation to her. communication is key.

ignoring her all together would as fuel to the fire.

don't stress this girl, shes obviously not a very good friend if she doesn't support you now that your happy.

Answer 2

of course you should ask her to be a BM, or at least invite her to the wedding, but if you ask her to be in the bridal party don't expect too much from her.  don't expect her to plan your shower or bachelorette if she's been out of touch for a few months.  if you think getting her to look for dresses, making hair appointments, or getting alterations done in time will be a pain in the @$$ with this girl, then don't have her in the wedding party.

Answer 3

In my opinion I would say shes either jealous that you're getting married or that if you havent asked her to be your bridesmaid yet then she might be acting like that because of that reason. But you should invite her to your wedding. she is your friend after all.  

Answer 4

I would invite her.  Dont allow her to be anything IN your wedding, just invite her as a guest.  If she doesnt like it she doesnt have to show up.  Why make someone your maid of honor or bridesmaid if they cant even fulfill their duties as a friend now.  Hopefully you will make the right choice.  And if she makes a stink about it... tell her that its your day, not hers.  She didnt care about your life prior to this, so why all of a sudden, ya know?  Well good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

Personally, I would invite her to your wedding but you need to keep the stress level as low as possible so I would not include her in the bridal party.

I am going through a similar situation right now with who to invite and leave out so I can understand at some level what it feels like. I am trying to keep everything relaxed and I reccomend the same for you. Good luck!

Answer 6

Best Advice I Never got . . . wait as long as you can before you choose your wedding party!!!!!!  I had to kick someone out of the wedding because she was "too busy".  Hun, no one is ever that busy!  I wish I would have waited until at least 6 months before the wedding . . . things change!  

Answer 7

if you wanted her to be at your wedding then send her an invitation...she might be have a busy schedule and her priorities are somewhere else...don't expect everyone to just be focus on "You"just because its your wedding...people have other things to do...if people really cared they would come to you... you dont have to beg them to be there with you...

Answer 8

My best friend was suppose to be my maid of honor. Turns out I did my entire wedding with no help. She was to busy. Then when it came to the wedding day she wanted to know what she needed to wear to be in the wedding. She couldn't even come out to my Bachlorette party because she wanted to spend time with her boyfriend. The kicker was the guys could come to the bachlorette party but she didn't have time. So I still invited her to the wedding but I had another person be my maid of honor because they at least made an effort where as she didn't. So my advice don't have her as a brides maid you will regret that because you will have no help. But still invite her to the wedding because you might regret it if you don't

Answer 9

You should still invite her to your wedding, afterall she is you best friend, right? Keep the invitation open, you never know. She might come around.

Answer 10

If she is really you bf than ask her to be in your wedding and if she miss two of the meetings that you have with the wedding party then kick her out of your wedding and just invite her to the wedding that way you'll still be

friends.

Answer 11

If you have to question it don't do it!!!! Make her a guest not a part of the wedding party. You don't need that srtess while planning a wedding and at the end of  the day if she is your true friend she will understand.

Answer 12

Your bridesmaids should be women that you feel really closest to, even if they are busy or scatterbrained, not the ones who will throw you the most rockin' bridal shower. If you still have a good and meaningful relationship with this woman, and want her there on your wedding day, ask her to be a bridesmaid. If you don't feel close to her, just invite her to the wedding. If she's as busy as you say and you aren't close anymore, she probably won't even come.

Answer 13

Not everyone revolves around your wedding. It is one day. Sorry but if she already has a life, deal with it. She cannot give up her job or boyfriend for your one day. You are turning into a bridezilla.

Answer 14

id ask her if she is your bf she will make time to be in it if she dont then she dont and she wont be your bf any more and then just invite her tellher you need to know by a certain day if she wants to be in it or not and then if she dont get back to you by that time ask some one else and just invite her if she comes she comes if she dont she dont.. it is what it is.. just keep your distance from her at that point.. it is what it is.

Answer 15

i would only invite her to the party, but not put her as a bridesmaid just because she might not be part of my life aster the wedding since shes not calling you or anything. shes putting her boyfriend 1st just like she has to but she cant forget about her friend. she is just like my best friend, when a guy comes around she forgets about me and i never forgot about her when i started going out with my boyfriend

have fun in your wedding and just invite her to the party and tell her how u feel.

Answer 16

YOU SHOULD HAVE ME BE YOUR BRIDESMAID *****!  I THOUGHT WE WERE BETTER THAN THAT YOU M F'ER! WE GO BACK.....I MEAN WAAAAAYYYY BACK KEISHA AND YOUR GONNA JUST ACT LIKE YOU TRYING TO PICK SOMEONE OVER ME ISNT GOING TO p**s ME OFF!?!? AFTER ALL IVE DONE FOR YOU!!!I ITS ON LIKE DONKEY KONG! IM NEVER INVITING YOU TO ANYTHING EVER AGAIN! DO NOT SPEAK TO ME FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!

Answer 17

Wait, I don't see the drama...

She's busy with her life and her boyfriend.  Don't you MAKE time for your boyfriend/fiance?  Why can't she?

You haven't spoken to her in "like two months" - my best friend and I go months on end without speaking.  She's still my best friend.  (Haven't spoken to her since May, when she was home for a week.)  And she was in my wedding.  Flew back from Alaska to be there.  So, she wasn't there to help with the planning.  You know what?  I'd rather her be there on THE day then any day before.

I think you should get a grip on YOURSELF before you try to control anybody else's life.  Nobody should have to alter their life to suit "your" day.  It DOES boil down to ONE DAY, you know...

Answer 18

your upset cuz she calls her boyfriend?  she should stop all aspects of her life to be at your beck and call. stop being a bridezilla.  your gettnig married in a year... what on earth do you need her for right now that she can't have a life???!

Answer 19

You should chose a person who you are very close to.  Do you have a childhood friend you are still close to?  Good Luck!