What I can tell myself everyday to make me feel happier and motivated?

Question

I'm in that teen stage, where I'm probably going through the most difficult year in school (junior taking 3 APS and in Decathlon), and that whole "no-one-understands-me" dilemma. I feel that I seriously dont belong and no one seems to care and i'm sort of broken hearted, and you get the point.......I have lots of problems and sometimes i feel like breaking down and crying

So I was wondering what can I tell myself or what can I do to make me believe that all this hard work will be worth it in the end? and that everything will be fixed? What do you tell yourself or do in order to feel happier?

Any advice would be appreciated :)

Answer 1

Begin every day with an attitude of gratitude.

My God have you any idea what a gift it is to be born human?

Your life is hard because it is in your power to form your life to your desire.   An animal must sing the songs written on it's genes.   You can choose from millions or write your own.

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Let the rain come down and wash away my tears

Let it fill my soul and drown my fears

Let it shatter the walls for a new sun

A new day has come

Answer 2

Your life validates its own existence as it is.  You are perfect as you are, and don't need to justify yourself to anyone or let anyone dictate what you are.  You are free to act as you as you choose since you are fated to do what nature intends.

Answer 3

Your world is really small right now. I hated highschool, I didn't fit in and nobody cared at all, including my family but realistically they all had there own issues. Look forward there is a huge world out their where you will meet interesting people. How you feel is normal. In fact I bet there are loads of people in your school who feel the same way you do. If you fail all your classes and you don't do well in decathlon you would still be ok. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Be your own best friend. Don't say mean things to yourself, don't say anything you wouldnt say to your friend. Look up cognitive therapy. Its practical and I think it will help you. It helped me. In fact read as much as you can about things you're interested in and find good music they are such good escapes. Nothing will ever be perfect in life.  Don't be afraid of finding a psychologist. They can be such a help and they're trained to understand your feelings and help you sort some things out. I see a psychiatrist, its great, he has helped me understand my self so much better and he knows what I need to do.  See your Dr and tell him your feelings, like if you feel sad everyday, there should be a little test you fill out to give him an idea of the degree of your depression. BUT there is nothing wrong with you, youre having a hard time right now but try and imagine your future, if you want to travel, live in the city, anything. At least you'll be out of c**p highschool.lol   I really would look  into cognitive therapy though. It's about catching your negative thoughts and questioning if they're true (they're not). I really do know what you're going through. I can't promise life will get easier but you will be able to deal with it so much better. And I can promise you can feel so much better. See someone they will help you.

Answer 4

If you have inner peace you’re happy, otherwise you’re not!

There is nothing to do to make one feel HAPPIER everyday, and I don’t see the point of that,

Good luck,

Answer 5

I understand that you are on the process of growing up. You are now having "teen-age crisis". I've been suffering from it when I was in high school and to tell you, it's normal.

The best possible way that you could tell yourself to feel happy and motivated is just to be "yourself". I know that you are confuse of who you really are that's why you have to keep yourself grounded. Don't do stupid things that could hinder you to be "yourself". The fact that you wake up every morning is a thing that would suggest that you have to live your life the best that you could and be who you really are. If you feel that no one understands you, maybe it's because you do not feel like talking to the people around you. You don't know how to open things up in your life to them.

Having good people around you can motivate you to do good things and at the end of the day, try to recall the things that you've done that makes you as who you really are.

And please do try not to be too hard on yourself.

God Bless!!!!

Answer 6

Teen age years can be especially tough because you are growning up and have so many questions about life.

My suggestions to you are these:  Know who you are, and where you want to go.  To do this, you need direction.  You can get this from several different sources but I believe the best one is from God, who is your Father in Heaven.  

In my church the primary children sing this song:

I am a child of God, and he has sent me here.  Has given me an earthly home with parents kind and dear.  Lead me, guide me, walk beside me, help me find the way.  Teach me all that I must do to live with him someday.

Because you are a child of God, you are of infinite imortance to him.  Reach out to him in prayer every day.  Try praying sincerely in your own words, and listen for his answers.  I tell my children that no matter where they go, or what they are doing, that their best friend is only a prayer away.  

He will help you in many different ways, from finding true friends, to making important decisions throughout your teenage years.

The next piece of advice I would give you is to get involved in a church that you sincerely believe in.  This may take some research but will be way worth it.  Through your new church you will find friends that will uplift you and help you through trials you will face.  You will gain direction on how to live a better life and this will help you to feel better about yourself.

Setting goals and getting involved are other key ways to develop a good self image, make friends, and feel part of the group. Determine what you have an interest in, and find a club or group at school that has the same interests.

Keeping busy and serving in your clubs or organizations will keep you happy and productive and out of trouble.

Goal setting:  Sit down and write some things you want to accomplish.  Such as saying your prayers every day.  Make a chart and keep record of your progress.  Reward yourself when you acomplish your goal.

All through my grade school years I had no friends.  The other children called me names and made fun of me because my skin would break out in a rash when I came in contact with things that I was allergic to.  My father died when I was 10, and I was very close to him.  My brother ran away from home about this time, and my mother was too stressed out to be there for me when I was down.  

I remember praying to my Father in Heaven for help.  It was simple...just father help me, I'm so unhappy.  At school the entire 6th grade was learning a song.  It was from the broadway musical "Carrosel"  As we began singing it, the words sunk deep in my heart.  I knew that my Father in Heaven loved me, and that he was answering my prayer through this song.  I felt warm inside and knew it was his answer.  At that moment  I knew that I would never be alone again.  I knew he had answered my prayer.

I am 54 years old now.  He has always been there for me.  I feel close to him when I pray.  I share the words of the song I learned in the 6th grade.  It was: "You'll Never Walk Alone"  wI hope that it will help you as well.

God Bless

"You'll Never Walk Alone"

When you walk through a storm hold your head up high

And don't be afraid of the dark.

At the end of the storm is a golden sky

And the seet silver song of a lark.

Walk on through the wind,

Walk on through the rain

Though your dreams be tossed and blown.

Walk on walk on, with hope in your heart

And you'll never walk alone

You'll never walk alone!

Answer 7

Try the reverse. Instead of something to tell yourself, stop telling yourself the negative messages.

Of what you wrote, the biggest challenge for anyone is to interpret other people's action as caring or uncaring.

Answer 8

Alexandra Robbins is a good writer, and recently graduated from Yale after going through the AP high school scene.  She looks young for her age, and so successfully reenrolled, incognito, at her high school for a second senior year.  Her stories of students ("The Overachievers") make for fascinating perspective.

"Expecting Adam," Martha Beck, Ph.D., is also excellent, recommended because she was an AP great, enrolled at Harvard, went to Harvard grad program, and is warm, witty, and profound about "what really matters," after all.

One interpretation of your circumstance:

You possibly are "alienating" yourself from your inner childlike joy, love, trust, purity, and happiness, by not championing those qualities and virtues--which is a first task of good parenting and learning to be ad-ult oneself.  The other side of the coin is healing one's childish greed, envy, etc.

Sometimes greed may be "headucated success" in lieu of childlike soulfulness.  If you are familiar with Christ Jesus' teaching, it is the soul which is the inner childlike "Holy Childness," and which needs to be "kept alive" in a Salingerian "phony world" of "synthetic adult-ery," i.e., "Citizen Kane" selling of one's soulful joy and truth for worldly domination.

If one doesn't learn with soulful joy, one's learning is "headucation," and as such "passes away" when one "passes on."

"No one understands me" and "I seriously don't belong" are typical symptoms of the need to have one day in seven a Sabbath, in which one does Godly, gentle, joyful, restful being, a wise balancing re "hurry sickness" in "24-6" mode.

What this may mean in terms of your life:  your intelligence plus your 6 days of 16-hour focused work may be more productive, your labor of love better, etc.

It also may be that your intelligence and drive, reduced by either meditation ( http://www.easwaran.org is good), prayer, going to a genuinely spiritual church 1-2 times/week, and/or a Sabbath, will not place you in the same rung of the ladder of worldly success.  I.e., instead of Harvard, U. Penn. or Davidson College.  This pattern, when carried throughout your life, will also tend to find you relating more gently to the complementary gender ("Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet, "Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," O. M. Aivanhov), such that you may find a more satisfying and enduring relationship, rather than a glamorous person who, like your more superficial self, is seeking a "trophy" rather than a soul mate.  Similarly, you may find a vocation as teacher in a high school rather than as college professor, as nurse or P.A. rather than as M.D., simply because you're enjoying life, God, yourself, more truly, and even though you might be able to do a college professorship or M.D. in a perfect world, in this world you'd have to "work hard" in order to secure your superior place, in a world where many others are Godless, motivated a la "Citizen Kane."  (This even works with e.g. romance--your future spouse may be feeling tempted to s***w around, give in, obscure their inner love by promiscuous s*x, drugs, etc.  This is not a particularly Godly world in that respect.)

"Telling self everyday" is perhaps akin to prodding self, being "hooked on success."  ("Be Happy!" he said to himself, miserably.)

Genuine happiness is of God, Good, and so prayer, meditation, inspired authors, and a general awareness of some foibles ("Mindset," Dr. Carol Dweck, "Emotions," Marilyn Barrick, Ph.D.) is good.

This is not advice to "blow it off" alternating with "hard work."  That is somewhat behaviorly bipolar.

Rather, continuing to work with love and enthusiasm at your AP and suchlike schedule, with a daily 10 minutes of meditation, of prayer, and a weekly few hours of relaxing by enjoying what you're doing, in the constructive and genuine ways of e.g. a nature walk, gardening, reading for fun in the summer shade, etc., is what's being advised.

(The same error of "hard joyless work" flips over into the polar opposite of "party hardy," i.e., neither are championing one's inner sense (innocence) of love, joy, kindness--the better memories of one's inner childhood, which ought be with one always, and increasing in grace and presence.)

Answer 9

You are very articulate, so I will be plain.

You are in a difficult time and most of life is a difficult time.

You do belong.

I look at myself in the mirror and say, "I want to be the best I can be and see my pretty face again tomorrow."

And then, knowing all of the pain, the disappointment, the ugliness - I wink at myself and know that I have done all that I can do.

Now, as an old man talking to a much younger person, I would say.

Look yourself in the mirror - not your face or nose or chest or fingers or toes - look yourself in the eyes and know that you are going to be a magnificent old person.

Cry.  Laugh.  Eat.  Party.  Cry.  Enjoy.  Live.

Just keep looking yourself in the eye and know that you are a grand piece of work!

Answer 10

Well, it's not so much that theres' anything that you can tell yourself mate. you just have to believe that you can get through it, and review the facts. More AP classes means, less time in college, higher chances of being accepted by good colleges, and that means you can start your life sooner, and on better start. Just know that you can get through it, and it will all pay off. And if you need to, talk to someone, someone to vent to, a friend parent, or drop me a line if you want to.

Answer 11

Time heals all

Nothing is permanent

Even this shall pass

Answer 12

Saying this little prayer to God will cure you of your dilemma:

"God, I know that I have sinned against you and deserve punishment.

But Jesus Christ took the punishment that I deserve so that through faith in Him I could be forgiven.

I receive your offer of forgiveness and place my trust in You for salvation. I accept Jesus as my personal Savior!

Thank You for Your wonderful grace and forgiveness - the gift of eternal life! Amen!"