What Is this Feeling??

Question

We have known each other since we were kids. I see him once in a bluemoon, We are friends on myspace where he barley speaks to me and Ignores me completely eveytime I try to spark conversation he Ignores me and erases my comments but not anyone else's. I went on Vacation To new orleans where, I lived born& raised. So i seen him, we hugged and he kissed me It was very passionate. I acted stupid as usual shying a way from him, and being scared (i cant help it) and this was always my problem thats why we never got together because of the way I act. Everytime Im around him, Im quiet and all serious looking for somereason. I think about him all the time but everytime Im around him this is how i act...(TRUTH IS) I really dont wanna get hurt, and before way back then he liked me and I had self esteem Issues so being with someone is something I could never Imagine. Now, I no longer deal with those Issues but everytime im around him this is how I act... So why am I feeling this way??

Answer 1

It's probably because subconciously you don't know how exactly to feel or act when you're around him - He's all over you when you're with him, but rejects you on Myspace - you're bound to be confused and don't want to get too over-excited or attached because of this.

As for this guy, he sounds like a jackass. I suggest you confront him about his behaviour towards you on Myspace if you ever want a relationship with him.

Answer 2

insecure and unsure of his real feelings

Answer 3

How can you say he is your FRIEND on "my-space "when he treats you the way he does."Truth is I really don't wanna get hurt"--you said it to yourself because you feel you should be protecting yourself from him.I recon you should take your own advice ,put it down to experience and move on.Find someone more compassionate that would love to reestablish your esteem, not destroy it.

Answer 4

Hi,

It seems to me that he is also confused if you really like him especially when you shy away from him whenever you meet him. Perhaps that's why he also ignores you when he sees you on myspace as he might think that you are uncertain about having a relationship with him.

It is normal to be afraid to go into a relationship if you had previously had self-esteem problems and has habitually shy away from him. Being self-conscious and afraid to do something that might turn him off is normal esp when you like him. Fear does protect you in some ways but it stops you from going with your heart. Try taking a small risk: Tell him how you feel about him and why you tend to shy away (in an email or something if you are afraid of face-to-face interaction) All relationships are gambles, you do not know what is the outcome but if you do not try, you do not even have the chance to determine the outcome.

And if you do go into the relationship, it is important to love yourself in different areas and not base your self-esteem entirely on how the relationship turns out. Afterall, relationships are unpredictable. Just have to go with the flow and follow your heart.

Answer 5

WELL FIRST OF ALL....YOU NEED TO DELETE HIM OFF OF YOUR MYSPACE PAGE...DO THIS  AND HE WILL DEFINITELY BE SURPRISED! DON'T FRET CAUSE YOU CAN STILL VIEW HIM CAUSE YOU HAVE SENT HIM MESSAGES RIGHT...ANYWAYS THIS MAY HELP MAKE YOUR SITUATION A LITTLE BETTER BECAUSE YOU ARE MAKING A STATEMENT TO HIM THAT HEY...I THINK I JUST WILL GET RID OF U INSTEAD! YOU NEED TO WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM THOUGH, THERE ARE REASONS YOU ACT THE WAY U DO AROUND HIM. YOU KNOW HE ACTS LIKE HE HAS A DARK SIDE..AND IS A MIXED MESSAGE. MAYBE HE DOES DRUGS..MY LAST RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS MAN WAS JUST WONDERFUL ...HE WAS FROM ANOTHER STATE...MET HIM ON THE INTERNET..SEE MYSPACE AND INTERNET USUALLY EQUALS DISASTER..ANYWAYS THIS MAN WAS SO INTO ME TOOK ME EVERYWHERE AND ROSES THE WHOLE NINE YARDS BUT WITHIN 2 WEEKS STARTED TO IGNORE ME ACT LIKE HE WAS A HOLLOW SHELL..I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND IT... CALLED ME 3X'S A DAY..HE HAD A TRUST ISSUE BIG TIME.I WAS AND STILL AM VERY ATTATCHED BUT U REALLY CAN'T CHANGE SOMEONE BUT THEY CAN WORK ON THINGS IF THEY LIKE YOU ENOUGH. I PERSONALLY DO NOT THINK HE IS RIGHT FOR U...VERY UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP!