What Should I Do? Don't know what to name our son....?

Question

I am about to have a baby boy (due Oct 14th) and my wife and I really like the name Benjamin Andrew, but having a jr (Andrew John) is also an option. Here are the dilemmas

1. My wife is supportive if naming our son after me is what I want to do, however she threw in "I don't get that whole naming a kid after you, don't you want him to have his own identity?" So that kind of trumps her being supportive, but she has said all along that she will go along with this if it is what I choose.

2. I also have 3 daughters and I don't want to alienate them and have them resent their brother, because he is named after their daddy (they are quite obsessed with me)

3. I have several cousins, a brother-in-law, and others that have been jr's and none have said anything negative at all.

4. We would refer to him as "Andrew" b/c everyone calls me "Andy" but at work I go by "Andrew" and I really don't want that to cause confusion down the road.

SO HERE ARE THE OPTIONS

A) BENJAMIN ANDREW (go by Ben)

B) ANDREW JOHN (AJ, or Andrew)

Let me know what you think

Answer 1

what i think is that the name does not make the person the person makes a name so whatever you name him he will be the man that you raise him to be and aj is a good nick name

Answer 2

Benjamin Andrew.

My husband is named after his father.  To this day, they are constantly getting their accounts mixed up with banks, creditors, the government, the mail, etc.  No matter how often they call to correct the errors, some companies just can't keep them straight.  We live in a different town and that doesn't make a difference.   It's not worth the headaches.

Answer 3

benjamin andrew

let him have his own identity

Answer 4

i would name him Benjamin Andrew, this way he still gets your name and his own identity by being called Benjamin. or you could call him Benjamin John. i really dont think this will bother your daughters when they grow up.

Answer 5

If it'll cause confusion or discomfort in your family, go with Benjamin. If you regret it later, you can always have another son. ;)

Answer 6

I think it would be kinder to your son to name him Benjamin Andrew, you want him to be an individual rather than having to follow in your footsteps. Another suggestion is Bennett Andrew (go by Ben) it's really cute & a little bit more unusual

Hope this helped :)

Answer 7

BENJAMIN ANDREW

That way he will have both: his own identity (first name is someone's identity) and your name.

Answer 8

benjamin andrew..

Answer 9

i would choose Benjamin Andrew. he will still be your namesake because his middle name is yours.

Answer 10

Ben - Definetly

I would not, personally like to be named after my mother or even grandmother but I do have my aunt's name as my middle name so I think that Benjamin Andrew would be the right choice to make x

Answer 11

Both names are good but i love the most is Andrew John..don't be scared to name your son after your name and besides what can your daughters do if you want to name your son after your name..they can't do anything..

you can still discipline your daughters, not to alienate their brother..

ok..hope that helps..try also this website..maybe it could help you on finding a name for your son:

www.babynames.com

Answer 12

Not after you please.

Benjamin John?

Answer 13

I would go with Benjamin Andrew. Both of my brothers were named after grandparents and my dad and I didn't care. If that helps.

Answer 14

Well considering Benjamin Andrew has still got your first name in there as a middle name, your son is going to be (somewhat) named after you regardless. I agree with giving the child his own identity and I also think naming a child after the parents or grandparents is rather sweet.

So you're right on target with Benjamin Andrew.

All the best and good luck :)

Answer 15

What about John Andrew?

That is my brothers name, and he goes by Andy.

You could also name him Andrew John, and call him Drew. Drew is a really nice name and it can grow with him.

Answer 16

Benjamin Andrew.

Answer 17

Benjamin

I am of your wife's opinion. We had 3 daughters and then a little prince too. We did not name him after my husband or anyone else. He has his own name. I thought naming him after anyone would make the girls feel a little less important.

Husband - Robert Paul

Son - Joel Zachary

Answer 18

Benjamin Andrew definately.

Answer 19

Benjamin Andrew :)

Answer 20

Benjamin Andrew(go by Ben) would be a awesome name

for example i used my husband middle name 4 my sons middle name and then 4 the first name i used my husband's brother who died at  birth used his first name so my son has a little of both father and uncle he never met...

or just agree with your wife lol

Answer 21

Benjamin Andrew.

I think your assessment of your wife's enthusiasm (or lack thereof) is accurate.  She obviously isn't crazy about the idea of having a "junior."

Answer 22

I like Benjamin Andrew! Also like Quinn Andrew

I have an 19 year old son and he has always wished he had his own name and not his fathers name. We do call him by his nickname. It is very confusing when mail comes and it has either his name or his fathers name. Also confusing when filling out doctors forms and etc. etc.

Answer 23

I like the Andrew John.. and you can call him AJ i always thought that was adorable.. anyway my first son is a junior and he DEFINITELY has his own identity..

also..

only problem with benjamin andrew is that when you go to yell or be stern (mine is brandon michael it flows well) you cant really use his whole first and middle name because eventually he will probably be bad that you are calling him benjamin as he grows older.. and if you say ben andrew! it kinda sounds funny. anyway goodluck

Answer 24

BENJAMIN ANDREW

Answer 25

I personally like Benjamin Andrew.

Congrads!

Answer 26

Benjamin Andrew. It is still partly named after you. Unless you surname ends in a D or G. Then his initials would be B.A.D or B.A.G.

If your surname ends in a D or G then name him Andrew John and he can go by AJ.

Answer 27

Go with Benjamin Andrew.

Answer 28

benjamnin andrew

Answer 29

I think Benjamin Andrew, it will be less confusing, your son is more likely to have his own identity that way, and it's still a nice way to name him after you. My nephew's middle name is the same as his dad's, and everyone was supportive and fine with the idea. But then again, my answer is probably a little biased because I really like the name Ben!