What Should I do, Seriously?

Question

My son is 11 he will be 12 in February, He is so defiant and voilent and I do not know what to do. He thinks it's ok to cuss and hit his brother. My husband and I get after him, Ground him, take stuff away, Even swat him on the butt sometimes. He does not care about any of that. He has ADHD and Learning disabilities. He can only learn at a 3rd grade level right now. But I do not want that to stop us from diciplining him. He says shut the Fu#% up and I don't care, Leave me the h**l alone, etc......... you name he probably says it. he is constantly hitting or hurting his brother and I feel like there is no end to it. where can I get help or what should I do. please be serious in your answers. We live in N. Virginia so if anyone knows where I can go to get help with him please let me know.

thank you

Answer 1

Duke University Medical Center

Search this facility.  they may have contact information for someone near you.

Unfortunately for your, and your other son's safety, you may have to board your son with limited visits.  

Answer 2

to be honest i think you should contact a child psychologist.

Answer 3

I´d suggest talking to your child´s primary care physician and asking about a residential or outpatient treatment for his aggression. The learning disability does not excuse his behaviour in any way.

Answer 4

I live way down here in NM so I have no idea where you can get help unless you get him into therapy. In the mean time hold him and love him as best you can.

At one time I had a serious problem with my temper mostly due to the fact that people called me names and made fun of me because I had been pulled out of school. I had this alleged illness and was suppose to die. Well obviously I didn't die. But I studied on my own and took the GED and passed. Most of the anger left. There maybe some basis to your son's outbursts that you are not aware of. Some kid at school giving him grief or maybe even his brother.

Answer 5

Anger management, counseling, tutoring (if he needs help learning), and, I know it's a long shot but you could submit yourself to Nanny 911 or something. From what I've seen AND heard, it works.

Answer 6

well his violence sounds pretty serious. and that could lead to something else other than cussing and hitting his brother. i think that you should take him to counseling or maybe anger management. sounds like you have tried a lot of things and he still won't stop.