What Should I do. My mother is physco!

Question

So my mother is physco!. She keeps yelling at my family for nothing, or something very little, like not vacuming. She blames everything on us!. My whole family hates her! My sister is moving away because of her, but not somewhere 2 hours away, somewhere 28 hours away. My dad keeps telling me he's going to leave her, is she isnt careful. She calls us brats, and b*****s and twits at least daily. Me....i just take it from her, and it leaves me alot of stress, and soon enough im going to brake down. Can someone give me ideas on what to do, to bring my family back to what is was? I was thinking, Family Theropy?

Answer 1

Don't call children services because they'll end up taking you away from your mother and you won't be able to live with her. Once they get involved there's no getting out of it. I'd say family therapy. Or try and be really nice to her and do chores and stuff (even if it's hard to do because she's being rude). If she still acts that way than consider family therapy.  

Answer 2

You all need to have a sit down with your dad and tell him this situation is out-of-control and you want him to get the family some help.  I don't think running away from the problem is the answer.  You don't really know what your mom is feeling either.  She may feel overwhelmed and disrespected.  So when did this start and why, can you remember.  What did it used to be like and then what changed.  Does she work outside the home, plus have all the household responsibilities or does dad and the whole family pitch in with cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry.  There are two sides to every story and Im not trying to make you feel worse.  You deserve a calm childhood, but the solution to one problem leads to another.  Ask your dad what would happen to you kids if he left your mom.

Answer 3

omg my mom is the sam way... i think when school starts u should talk to ur counsler.. she can help and i think u should go to ur mom abd tell her " look my sister moved away cause she couldnt stand u , dad threated to leave if ur not careful, im just saying can u please have a reason to yell at me if ur going to yell at me." and maybe say " mom i luve u so much i really do but sometimes u hurt alot of my feelings and i just cant take what ur doing " maybe she will realize what shes doing is wrong and she might stop. :]

Answer 4

my dad has a horrible mom but shes a bit worse, after writing letters to my brother and my dads wife he finally cut her out. im sorry to say but it might be the end, or if your moms old it might be meopause, who knows, she also might be hiding something, if this was an all of a sudden mood change talk to a doctor, but in my opinion no mother should be calling her children those names, thats rude, and not caring at all i feel bad for you to have to hear that come outta your own mothers mouth towards you

Answer 5

omg get away from her. call child protection or the police  

Answer 6

I grew up in the same situation it took me a long time to get ouf of the abuse.  I am now 30 years old and just recently woke up and realized all that i had been through.  There is a book you need to read called surving a parent with borderline personality disorder or walking on egg shells dealing with abusive parents it should be in the personal growth section of a book store.  I watched my own sister marry into an abusive relationship to get away from home.  While i weathered through living at home to get myself through college it took all the strenght i had not to kill myself my mother made me so miserable at home and took away any self esteem I had.  You need to block out words or negative things she says work hard make yourself as self sufficient as you possible through college or a job  so you never have to go back to this situation.  If your mother is this way she may never change try suggesting family counceling get involved in a church surround yourself with positive people that have your best interests in mind and make sure you take care of yourself.  My brother is 26 and he is still at home not working she keeps him dependent on her and she is mentally abusive i am currently trying to figure out how to convince him to get out on his own.  He has a college degree she just has robbed him of any confidence he ever had and he isnt strong like I am.  Reading those books will open your eyes to everything that is going on and you will find alot of answers and strength.  I will pray for your situation.    

Answer 7

Tape record her and call children services on her.

Answer 8

Ssee if you can get her to go to the De, Neds cab help alot.  A counselor is a good resource too.   Get her into church.  A mother should never all  thri chile b*****s.  That is not norrmal.  She need help.    If no inssurance.  Go to your health dept and ask for help. Surround her with friends if  she has any.  Please dont say you hate her.  Yo just dislike her ways.      Sounds atybe attutyde,

Answer 9

Family therapy seems like a good idea. You and your dad should go together. It sounds as if your mother is a very angry person. She could also have a medical condition that is making her this way. Can your father talk to her and see what is going on with her? I'm sorry for you and your father. Try counseling. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I go through the same thing but sometimes the names are worse she leaves and goes with her friends and we barely have enough to eat.It's hard to endure this from your mom a woman who is suppose to love you the most in the world hurting you so bad.It feels better to talk about it to someone.