What To Expect From Dating A Single Mom?

Question

I have dated a woman (she's 27 I'm 26) for about 3 weeks, we get along great and I really like her. On our last date she told me that she has a 3 year old from her last marriage.

I'm considered a typical bachelor, I have the car, the job, the apartment that any bachelor would love to have. I never wanted kids (even in my last marriage) and now I'm seeing a woman who already has one. She doesn't want me to meet the rugrat until she thinks it could work out between us. I'm conflicted, what are some suggestions that you could offer?

BTW, I didn't react negatively when she told me the news. I just told her I thought she was a good mom. She also does a lot of volunteer work for people with disabilities. I'm a corporate goon with no close family.

Answer 1

Here's the deal Andy, 86 Mamie "can't keep a man" asap.  You have the ideal life, so why mess it up with her and her "leeching". She probably sought you out just because she wants to be taken care up. Step up to the plate and put this woman in her place. Do it for all of us to appall women like this.

Answer 2

Rugrat huh?  That's really nice.  If you don't want/like kids then you should get out of the relationship now.  

Answer 3

I agree, if u don't want or like kids, u need to cut the strings now, because she doesn't have time for games unless they are those played with her child.

U wouldn't call my child a rugrat either, because I'd kick your *** and send u packing...

Answer 4

Hey don't stress,if you enjoy her company enjoy it!!! By the sounds of it you really like this lady so take it as it comes, before i had my li'l girl all i ever managed to attract were daddy's looking for a weekend mummy, but you sound like you are into this relationship and if you are don't stress if your not looking for long term from this woman don't let the child get involved because you would be amazed what little tykes can take on at such a young age

Answer 5

If you really don't want children you're probably better off ending the relationship now if it's not too serious yet.

You need to appreciate that no matter what her child is always going to be more important than you.

Perhaps one day you will change you're mind and want kids. You're only 26 after all and in this day and age this is still young for a man to be thinking about starting a family. But even if you do decide you want kids, do you really want someone elses. Children are a lot of hard work, especially if you feel that you don't have the right to discipline them.

I Know lots of people will think I'm being really negative and there are very many people with step children who are happy. I guess it depends how strong you're love is and what sacrifices you are prepared to make.