What about your husbands or fiances?

Question

My fiances seems to want nothing to do with the wedding but is only intrested in the "after party". He actually told me he couldnt care less about the actual wedding part. I know that on TV and things guys never want anything to do with the planning is this real life too. Did your husbands or future husbands not want anything to do with the planning?

Answer 1

We're not engaged yet, but my boyfriend of 7 and a half years and I talk quite a bit about our wedding and he has flat out told me that whatever I want to do for the ceremony is up to me since he doesn't really care. He just cares about having an open bar at reception, that's it.  

Answer 2

given I am a planner my fiance has opted out fo the planning figuring I can do it alone, which I wnat him inclolved.  so I get together all my choices I like and do not make any finaly choices till he takes a look.

His imput was "dont make me wear pink"!

Answer 3

My husband was not interested at all in the planning of the wedding.  I would as for his input and he would say "whatever you want, honey".  It did get rather frustrating, but I learned to accept that he just wasn't into it as I was.  I planned everything and he was quite happy with it.  Remember, it's girls who dream of their wedding most of their life, not guys.

Answer 4

well actually my soontobe hubby is much involved. he help me planned everything and he go to all the vendors with me..

Answer 5

My husband wanted to be very involved with the planning process. He loves to decorate things for events due to a family business.

But, most other guys I know didn't get involved in the planning at all. I'd say that's completely normal. :)

I guess that's why it's called the 'bride's day' because typically, she ends up doing most of the work and gets what she wants anyway, since she has no input from her fiance!! Good luck!

Answer 6

ohh yea. he's like that. he came home from another country just one day before our wedding so u can well imagine his part in all the planning.

Answer 7

im not married or enagaged yet but me and my boyfriend talk about it ALL the time!! hes very into helping with the planning, he even wants to choose his own suit and i cant see it till the day of wedding (like girls do with their wedding dresses) altho i am quite worried if i cant approve it lol!! we talk about our plans all the time, and we arnt even enagaged yet lol if we was engaged h**l probs be into the wedding even more!!

Answer 8

My fiance has been pretty good at helping with input. At first, he said he didnt want anything to do with it but as I've been planning more and more he's been more interested in it. Congrats girl!

Answer 9

My future husband is very involved in pretty much all of it.  He has said that he want's a corvet to drive when we are done with the ceremony.  And he wants to have a hog roast, and lots of alcohol for the reception.  He set the date pretty much and he has already asked his groomsmen and best man, decided on the colors and helped me figure out what flowers we are having.  I am really surprised on how involved he really is in it.  It started out slow but now he is all about it.  I can't believe that he has taken interest in the whole thing.  Maybe it's because it is going to be the biggest party we will ever attend, but as long as he is still helping me, i am not going to argue.

Answer 10

I think it is probably a personal preference with men.  My husband wanted to be involved as much as he coul.  It was nice because when our day came, it seemed extra special because both of us planned it together.  Not saying you won't have a nice wedding, but you can't change your fiance, if that is the way he is.  Some men don't have a clue what to do and would rather not be involved.  Maybe you could talk to him and tell him how you feel. Maybe, explain to him if he helps you out a little with some of the decisions, it would make you feel better.  I see where you are coming from, accept your fiance for the way he is and try to get through all of the planning on a happy note.  Good Luck!

Answer 11

This is how the conversation goes in my house:

Me: Honey, how about this location?

Him: Great.

Me: And these colors?

Him: Sure.

Me: And this catering company?

Him: Uh huh

Me: They serve deluxe alcohol

Him: No, we need to get premium alcohol and make sure that they can prepare long island iced teas...oh and make sure they have hennesy because that's what so and so drinks and also they should bring red bull with them.

Men...LOL

You are not alone =)

Answer 12

I have found that they are only concerned if booze or food is in the question, And of course if they have to pay for it. LOL

Answer 13

Not many men are in to the planning part. One reason might be that they would get their head bit off from the bride to be. No matter what they would be hard to please in most cases.

Answer 14

in some ways he didnt care about things but in other ways he was totally invovled we had to clean up the place which took days he also helped hang decorations he made the bouqets and even the center pieces (ya hes the talented one i tell him what i want and he knows how to make it happen) but in other ways like colors or bridesmaids dressing he didnt really care it was whatever i wanted (within financial reason...) what i came down to is if i kept changeing MY mind a million times then he would loose interest because he would give me his opinon and i would be "are you sure? are you sure ? what about this..." thats when he would loose intrest but if i could ultimitly narrow it down to like 2 specifics he wouldnt mind helping me decide because it wasnt over whelming to him and he didnt have to hear me question and change my mind constatly i personally think thats why most men avoid it because they would rather make a decision and live with it and as women for the most part we tend to over think things analize and change things....if you see he has an intrest in somthing instead of being annoyed that its only in one area encourage him make it his baby give him the reins to make it his.....good luck and congratulations

Answer 15

My fiance wants to help plan the wedding.  He really wanted to be married in a church.  We are not church goers.  We drove around town and scouted out some places.  We finally found one and we scheduled an appointment to meet the pastor and he was all for going.  He fell in love with the place! Also, he is interested in seeing and pricing of reception locations.  I'm sure all the decorations will be on me.  I am wanting to get the tier cupcake for the bride's cake.  He really isn't into that idea.  Maybe when it gets closer to the wedding I can sway his vote towards the cupcake idea!  Also, he helped pick out the colors.  I told him I did not want baby blue or baby pink. We looked at fabric and paint samples.  He picked out our burgundy color! I'm glad he is helping.  A little less stress on me and he is really starting to understand how expensive a wedding is!

Good Luck!

Answer 16

My husband was only concerned that we had swords in the ceremony for a special presentation, and he got to wear an Edwardian tux.  Other than that I took care of everything else.

Answer 17

My husband cared but not into every single detail as me. It would p**s me off if he would've said he could care less about the actual wedding part.

Answer 18

Yeah my hubby is was the same way.  He didn't really care anything about the planning.  I would come home all excited with something I got and he'd just be like, "OK"  He didn't even care about the invitations!  But just like your he sure cared about the after party!  It worked out though as much as I said I wanted him to help me, atleast I wasn't arguing with him over what I wanted! LOL!  So I got to do the wedding and he got to do the party!

Answer 19

yup,mine said heres the checkbook,just tell me what time to show up.And I've been doing everything by myself forreal.Sux.He dont ask me about it.7 months to go.He did however talk about the honeymoon.Thats a start.I really am trying to get him involved.Its their day too so they should help.Maybe I should just go Bridezilla on his a$$.JK.