What actually attracts a women to a men?

Question

I need some dating tips.

Answer 1

in short, be a good friend with s*x appeal!

Answer 2

Smell is key. Invest in a nice cologne and she'll love you. Or at least think you smell good. PS: Axe is not "nice," and spray it on yourself ONCE, not 20 times.

We like men who can cook - not deep fry, not microwave, but cook. Learn your way around an oven and a stove, and have one signature dish and memorize the recipe. Being able to barbecue stuff is nice, but that gets old fast.

Dress yourself well and maintain your appearance. We don't need fancy designer clothes, just a man who looks put-together. Don't wear a brown belt with black shoes. Wear nice clothes when you go to a nice restaurant. Don't wear clothes with stains on them. Clean underneath your fingernails. Trim your fingernails. Don't use hair gel unless you can keep your hair from becoming sticky. Don't wear gaudy jewelry. Unless you happen to be in the 0.5% of the male population who looks good with a bit of stubble, shave - but just your face. Unless your back/chest are excessively hairy, "manscaping" is weird.

Know what's going on in the world. Read the news and form opinions. In this day and age, a man who doesn't really know much about politics is just kind of pathetic. Know who you're voting for and why. If you're undecided, that's fine - but be able to explain why. And if the discussion does turn to politics, respect and listen to her vies, even if you disagree. Never interrupt.

Be caring and a gentleman. Be genuinely interested in her day, her life, and her thoughts. Offer her your jacket or put your arm around her when she's cold. Hold doors open for her. If she's stepping off of or onto a higher surface, go first and then hold out your hand and help her up/down. Be nice to the waiter, her family, and anyone else you run into. Never pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do. (Sexual or otherwise. It's annoying and unattractive.) If you say you'll pick her up at 5:00, be there at 5:00. Don't come early because she won't be ready, and don't come late because you'll look like a loser. Be dependable. If you have s*x, use a condom. (Carry one with you, and NOT in a place like your glove compartment or your wallet where it can overheat and eventually be forgotten/expire.)

If you're in a room with her and your mom, make sure you're nice to your mom. (Of course, you should be nice to your mom anyway, but that's a different issue.) She'll see the way you treat Mom and figure that's the same way you'll treat her.

Be ambitious. You don't need to be a CEO with a six-figure salary, but you have to show that you want to continue to improve your life somehow. Have goals, tell her about them, and meet them. Don't be afraid to tell her about your accomplishments, but make sure you're not bragging. (The difference: Telling her about that 10 mile bike ride you went on once is good, but telling her about it 4 times in one night is just annoying.)

Know things about her that others don't. Pay attention to her habits (in a non-stalkerish way). Know where she's ticklish, how she likes her coffee, her favorite kind of kiss, childhood stories, the music she likes, her hobbies, and the names of her immediate family members. If you feel weird asking where she went to elementary school, start a game of "Random Questions" and ask each other, well, random questions. It's a fun game and it goes on for hours.

Most important thing if this becomes more than one date: Make sure you're both on the same page as far as where the relationship is going. If you're just casually dating and want to see other people at the same time, she needs to know. If you want her to be your girlfriend, ask her. If you decide on either of those things and change your mind, tell her. Speaking from personal experience: Thinking that a relationship is on the verge of becoming something serious and then having the guy decide not to speak to you again hurts - a lot.

Uhm, I've written way too much about this, and I need to go to bed. Good night and good luck. :)

Answer 3

Wrong category - go to Singles and Dating.

Answer 4

Go get a biology textbook!

Answer 5

a guy being himself really stands out.

something you need to think about, though.  once you've "figured" this out, "what kinds of women do you want to be attracted to you?"  just be careful out there...

Answer 6

It's hard to explain in words...I truly believe that a "vibe" a person gives off can draw you to them.  

In the past though, I tend to be drawn to guys that are sarcastically funny, have a deep voice, smart, assertive, and aren't super-romantic (I hate guys acting mushy). Sharing my musical tastes is a big plus too.

What I like isn't what the next lady likes...

Answer 7

Physically,

Im a hair girl. I like fuller, longer hair on a guy ( if it fits) im not much for crew or baldness.

Then i like eyes, really intense eyes, i love asian eyes.

And of course body, im not attracted to really skiny guys, but im also not attracted to really fat guys......I like muscle...but not really body builder type...and not david beckham type.

This guy is currently my " crush" http://img208.imageshack.us/img208/4107/...  he is a little smaller than what i am usually attracted too...but i can make acceptions...( drool)

anyhow mentally

i like when i actually have something in common wiht someone...with my interests its kind of hard to find ppl who have such diverse interests as i do. also someone i dont feel like killing after 30 seconds because they bore me.

also i can be very agreeable...so since most men are expecting this...

the size of his wallet too!

see how nice i am?

and Snarky put down things i forgot..Thanks Snarky!

Answer 8

Good manners and ettiquette, good hygenine, not arrogant or big headed. And women aren't aliens, you can talk to them just as you do a man. You should talk to them as you would your friends.

Answer 9

A huge wallet.

Answer 10

Be yourself - and smile a lot. Don't be condescending or presumptuous.

Answer 11

1. Money.

2. (if she can't find someone with enough money) Someone who will treat her badly. The worse the better.

Women deny this of course, but it only takes a moment to look at their choices in men to see that its true.

Answer 12

money

Answer 13

A sense of humor, without a doubt.  If a man can make me laugh, he has my attention. If he can laugh at himself = major points. If he inspires me to laugh at myself, he's someone really special.

Here's a corny ice breaker that still makes me giggle: What do you call cheese you do not own?

ANSWER: Nacho Cheese!  :))))

Answer 14

Everyone has different reasons.  Some people want a man for a fling in bed, and some want a loving husband and children.  Most g*y men and straight women want men who are:

Clean and smell nice

Independent

Physically active and in shape

Loving

Good in bed

Honest

Don't cheat

Are not abusive

Don't have addictions

Are not stalkers or psychos

Are not possessive

Answer 15

Do you mean the man she will marry or men in general? Different women like different things about a man. Have a nice smile and be charming.

Answer 16

Sense of humor, trust, respect, intelligent, and a chiseled jawline

Answer 17

Sense of humor, generosity, a caring outlook, positive, sure of himself but not to ego-stic, a gentle man (chivalry needs to still happen these days), romantic...the list can go on. Just be yourself and you will find the one! Good luck!