What advice can I give my friend on her friendship problems?

Question

hey I'm 16 and i got this friend from bout three hours away thats a girl 12. me and my family have known here family for years and years and have been almost lifelong friends. she also has a sister 15

anyway im talking to her on msn at the moment and we talk on it fairly frequently. she has this issue she told me about and i want to help here. basically her three best friends have all gone through puberty quicker, what i gathered cos she hasnt really developed that much. and her friends are all posing on BEBO and myspace and stuff but my friend says she doesnt like doing that type of thing at all. and the other three are becomign very hormonal and into boys alot from what i was told, whereas she says she just wants to be a kid! she is getting teased by them and they have called her pathetic things like " mini, titch, coward,ect" and also said to her the reason why they think she doesnt have bebo or put pics up is cos she is apparantly less attractive than them. what advice can i give her?

she has been really good friends with them for a long time and is very upset

Answer 1

Tell her that in this stage of her life some kids r cruel and 2 ignore them. There is nothing wrong w/her and she shows pure strength by not giving into peer pressure. Tell her make her mark in life, not b a mark. Friends, true friends would not do that! Apologize-tell her she rocks!

Answer 2

Everyone grows up at different stages..it's ironic because that's almost exactly what happened to me. Although, i tended to ignore most people. She shouldn't be upset by it, her time will come whether it's soon or a bit later in her life. She should maybe stick up for herself, i wouldn't bother fighting back because that gets you nowhere and a waste of time. She should just not be fazed by their comments, It's probably quite hard, being young and ignoring side comments from your friends, but in perspective, so what if her friends have grown up quicker?! Your friends should also accept who you are and not tease you about things you're not. It's typical girls calling eachother names, and I reckon it probably happens to everyone in their life. Maybe she might feel left out and she can't really do anything about it to be honest. We all grow at different speeds and growing slower, i think, is an advantage!! I'm not surprised she's upset especially as they are her best friends. Maybe if she doesnt want to speak to them, get a teacher or a parent to say a quiet word, you know?!

As for the broadcasting themselves on Bebo etc...They are probably too young to be doing that! I can tell you, your friend really isn't missing anything on Bebo, myspace because they are just pointless!! I can't stand young girls who constantly take pictures of themselves, plastered in make-up etc...so if you're friend isn't one then she should be proud!

I think the best you can do, is just be there for her! She will listen to you if you are really good friends, and the fact that you are older is an advantage as well!!

Hope this helps! x

Answer 3

You need to tell her that she is attractive. Just because she hasnt started that period of life doesnt mean that she never will. These things happen in different people at different times.Tell her to ignore her friends and if thats the way they are acting that she should get some more friends. Tell her you are always there for her to talk to no matter what. Good Luck x

Answer 4

SORRY

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Tell her not to worry and to not take this seriously. In every girls life, there will be a time when you get teased about being different, even if it is about not developing like everyone else. If she doesn't want to put up pictures on myspace, tell her not to. Tell her not to be forced into anything. Tell her to accept herself and love herself just the way she is and she can say that to her friends as well. There is only one of her in the whole world, and she is special. Tell her that this doesn't mean anything and not to worry.