What advice can I give to my sis who has been in a long term relationship,?

Question

My sis just confess to her boyfriend,that she had s*x with her boyfriend's older brother,is there anything that I can say that would ease both their pain, they have two children and it's destroying them as a family my sis feels badly for her actions and still do love and wanna be with him, and he does still also but he doesn't wannna look like a fool in the long run if he decides to stick with her he also know it's gonna take awhile for him to trust but doesn't know where to start,any advice would help at this moment please be nice this is serious. thanx in advance

Answer 1

whoo hooo trailer parks are alive and kickin"

Answer 2

shes a hoe and if i were him I would drop her like a rock!!!!

there is nothing you can say there relationship is destroyed!!! where is the home wrecker that she slept with?? Prolly in bed with some other married woman ready to destroy her relationship too.  

Answer 3

I hope your brother-in-law dumps her.  To cheat is bad enough, but with his brother?!  What a classless, low-life thing to do!

Answer 4

Well, she is your sis.  It doesn't matter what she does on this earth, she is still your sis.  Just hug her.  I know when I left my ex, everyone deserted me.  My sister didn't understand what I was thinking, but she loved me and stuck by my side.  Some of her arguing on my behalf is kind of funny in retrospect, as she didn't really know anything about the situation, other than she refused to allow anyone to disrespect her sister.  There isn't really any advice to give her.  She is feeling all too well, the impact of the situation.  You bringing it up, will only make her feel that she disappointed you too.  Just hug her, hold her, and let her cry on your shoulder.  It doesn't matter what you think about the situation.  It matters, that she knows that there is someone that can still love her.

Answer 5

it probably wouldn't be that bad if it was a friend, but his brother... they have to see him at family gatherings and things in that nature....I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

Honestly it is going to be hard for them to get through this tragedy. She cheated with the one person that should have been off limits to her. Her boyfriend might never forgive and it will be her own fault. What did he say to his bro? I would not speak to and most likely try to hurt my sis if she did that to me. Your sis is  going to have to live what ever the outcome is and learn from it. You should stay out of it and if you do get involved don't take either side, This is something they have to solve on their own u just be there to hug her even though she made her own bed.

Answer 7

tell herrr if you r a good sister that what i would do and if u even have to ask to take the kids

Answer 8

it's sweet that you feel your sister pain. but this is her mistake to fix. her husband is the one who whole the last word its his decision. just be their for your sister if she needs to talk or cry. other than that all you can do is pray for them. G/L

Answer 9

sorry no advice here...just tell her to ask for forgiveness, hope he grants it and move on, knowing that she has forever and ever ruined not only her and her bf relationship BUT her bf and his bro relationship.  it will never be the same.

Answer 10

what would you do if your husband confessed that he slept with your sister....ok if she wasnt satisfied exually with her partner she could have gone elsewhere but why his brother,,,that is low and dirty and we are no one to judge but why would she even confess it if she didnt want to end it?

Answer 11

there is nothing she can do she messed up; i dont think you brother in law should take her back; she must learn her lesson.

what was she thinking?, or was she?

good luck

Answer 12

Stay out of it.  Your sister made a big enough mistake already.  Learn from it, that's all you can do.

Answer 13

Learn from your sister's mistake!  Stay out of trying to "repair" but be honest with your sister, she really screwed up big time.  It's not about her anymore, it's about the brothers loss of "brotherly love".  She needs to figure out why she purposely destroyed him and his family!

Answer 14

Infidelity in a relationship, no matter how long, virtually destroys the trust in the relationship. Its also not the easiest thing to get over either as theres lots of pain and unanswered questions. When it involves family its even worse as it has now attacked the family infrastructure too. There are really very few couples that can truly overcome infidelity in their relationship and it does take an awful long time to repair the trust factor. There really arent any magical words or potion that will "fix" things in your sisters relationship. It was a very stupid thing to do and now shes going to have to pay the price for her mistake and she hs no one to blame except herself here. Maybe some time apart will help but what her boyfriend isfeeling isnt very pleasant for him and chances are very good he just wants rid of her so now its just going to take time and probably alot of it and hopefully she never does it again or things will be over. Just pray for them is about all you can do now

Answer 15

What can we tell you, nothing will make this go away. She has put herself and her children in a bad situation for what? A few minutes of pleasure, can lead to years of pain. I hope she can give him time to hurt, and heal and decide if her can try to trust her again.