What advice can you give in this situation?

Question

i have a friend who is worried about her older child (15) never wanting to come home. the older child has told me why he doesn't like to go home and it is because his 8 year old sister is allowed to do whatever she wants. i will give an example when he is home his sister will jump on him, hit him etc. he tells her to stop but she won't when he finally yells at her she will turn on the gator tears and run to mom which in turn yells at him instead of punishing the younger child. there are several different things the 8 year old will do to annoy the 15year old. what advice would you give to the monther

Answer 1

i agree with the one above me! ^^

Answer 2

get him to secretly record it happening and the girl needs a good punishing, grounded no internet no getting what she wants no getting new clothes no going out lock her room and bar her in

Answer 3

if your friend is a mature adult, you should be able to tell her what the 15yr old said. she needs to know she is being a sissy towards her 8yr old. it happens, the youngest can be babied. or the parent thinks the older one should know better not considering that a teenager can only be pushed so far!

the family need to talk. not yell, talk. just tell her whats going on, and let her sort it out.

her son will leave for good if she doesnt get her act together.

her kids dont get along because they arent encouraged to. the parents need to spend more quality family time together, and teach there children to respect each other and look out for each other. maybe she could buy a book on parenting teens or something?

just encourage her to get the family together at least once a week (and this is not enough, but its a start) to do something like go out for dinner of have pizza and a movie, or just talk, talk out the issues in the household etc. let the kids express their feelings (without yelling) so that it can be sorted,.

communication is the key. and kids wont learn it without a teacher and an example.

Answer 4

FIRST OF ALL, HAVE THE CHILD EVER TOLD THE MOTHER THAT THIS IS WHAT IS GOING ON? OR HE FEELS AS THOUGH IF HE DO HE WILL GET IN TROUBLE. MAYBE THERE IS FAVORTISM IN THIS FAMILY. AND SOMETIMES MOTHERS SEEM TO PAY MORE ATTENTION THE YOUNGER KIDS THEN THE OLDER ONES, BECAUSE THEY FEEL THAT THE OLDER ONES NO BETTER. U HAVE TO LOOK AT BOTH SIDES OF THE STORY. YES THE LITTLE GIRL KNOWS SHE CAN GET OVER BECAUSE SHE SEES THAT, BUT, HIM  AS A OLDER BROTHER HAS TO FIND SOME KIND OF WAY TO BRING TO HIS MOTHER ATTENTION THIS IS WHAT SHE IS DOING. LIKE HAVING SOMEBODY AS A WITNESS. AUNT, UNCLE, COUSIN, WHOEVER. THE MOTHER HAS TO SEE IT TO BELIEVE IT.

Answer 5

I would tell the mother what the 15 year old said to you. Parents always tend to let the youngest child get away with murder because but the last kid they just don't want to deal with it anymore. Tell the parent to be more aware.