What age do you think is appropriate for a little girl to have her ears pierced?

Question

My daughter will be 4 in a couple weeks & has been begging to have her ears pierced. I do not believe in having a baby's ears pierced, I always told myself that having her ears pierced would be at her request, not because I wanted it done. Well, that time came a lot sooner than I expected it would. What are your feelings on this subject?

If I do choose to allow her to have her ears pierced, the earrings will definitely be small & appropriate -- nothing big & flashy!

Answer 1

Yikes, I would've suggested younger then 4...the baby won't cry as much.

4 is appropriate, just be sure to let her know that it certainly won't tickle! Good luck, and stick with some cute studs :)

Don't you hate it when you see 5 year olds with dangling hoops or other c**p in their ears?

Answer 2

i dont think 4 is old enough to be responsible for earrings!! buy her little magnet studs instead?

Answer 3

When I got my ears pierced I was 13 and it was a very big deal - it almost signified my transition into my teenage years. Keep in mind, your 4 year old may just be going through a phase where she really wants them pierced and in a few months she may not want them that way anymore. 4 year olds say a lot of things but then you get them in the chair at the salon with the clerk's ear piercing gun in her hand and suddenly they're screaming no. I'd personally hold off until she's a bit older.

Answer 4

I've always said, too, that if I ever have a little girl, I will not do it until/unless she request it.  It sounds like it's time  : )

On a side note.... I had mine done around the age of 3 and I have scars from pulling on them.  Make sure to keep her from doing this; they aren't pretty.

Answer 5

I agree with you. You should explain to her that it will hurt and tell her that they last forever. I got my ears pierced when i was 5 and i dont remember them hurting and i definitely didnt cry. but i bewgged for them and my mom finally gave in.

my daughter is 7 months and can have them pierced when she asks for them

I use to pierce ears at my job and HATED doing infants, the poor things NEVER knew what was coming

Answer 6

( i'm 11) my mom peirced my ears @ the age of like 3 or 4.. u can peirce her ears whenever you feel comfortable doing it

Answer 7

i agree with you on not getting baby's ears pierced. i got mine done when i was 8 or 9. i think this was still too early for me because i had a LOT of problems with them. they got infected, i couldn't put them in or take them out. it is entirely up to you. let her know that it will sting a little when she gets them done and that she has to take proper care of them. avoid infection cuz it HURTS.

Answer 8

I would wait until 8 or 9, when she is old enough to care for them herself.

Answer 9

I don't think there was anything offensive about it...I agree with you. Lots of cultures want the girls with pierced ears because it makes that unisex looking baby more femenine! I am still getting "that look" for not having my daughter's ears pierced. I had agreed to do it before she discovered her ears, but no one got around to it...now, she's at the age (15 mos.) where she'll pull out anything in her hair, and she messes with her ears too much.

  Your daughter is old enough to ask for them, so let her! Just be sure to tell her that it will hurt a bit, and everything else that's involved. I think I was the same age when I asked too:)

Answer 10

We got our oldest daughter's ears pierced when she was a few months old. Big mistake. When I was taking her shirt off when she was about 1, her earring came out. I just decided to take it out and leave it. Anyways, when she was 5, she asked for it to be done. We took her to the mall, and one person stood on each side of her and pierced them at the same time. She didn't even cry. Anyways, it's your choice. Just make sure there are 2 people to do it together. I have a niece who only has 1 ear pierced b/c she got scared and wouldn't let them finish. Good luck.

Answer 11

I got my baby's ears pierced at 10months.

What's so wrong about getting them pierced? Everybody wears earrings!

Answer 12

I am planning on going the route you are taking. I want my daughters to decide it they want to put holes in their ears. No disrespect to others--a lot of my friends babies have pierced ears. I wanted it to be special. I got my ears pierced at age four, on my birthday, actually. I remember it well, and was so excited! My four year old cousin just had hers done, and she was so excited she was showing strangers!LOL I say, if your daughter is ready, go for it. It will be a great memory for both of you, and she is old enough to understand why it is important to keep them clean.

  Little advice, look for a place that does both ears at the same time!! Or she may end up with just one ear done!

Answer 13

i got my daughter's ear's pierced 3months....

Answer 14

I had mine done when I turned five. It was my birthday present. :) I loved having pretty earrings. It was the one thing I remember from when I was little. My gold ball earrings from my first piercing.

Answer 15

go for it. i had mine done at request arounde thr age of two.. i wanted them before i started preschool.

Answer 16

I agree with you 100% ..

It sounds like its time if she is requesting for it. Maybe take her and let her watch someone else getting their ears pierced and then see if she still wants to do it.

Answer 17

maybe you could let her get ears pierced for her birthday.

i got mine done when i was three for my birthday and thats all i wanted.

but its totaly up to you if you want her to get them pierced or not.

but yes, the earings should be small appropriate, and something that you aprove of.

Answer 18

shes ur daughter so whatever u feel is best there is nothing wrong with having your ears pierced we dont live in the 1700s anymore

Answer 19

The best time is when their infants because they dont really know whats going on and are more calm and they dotnt mess with them they think their just a part of them  the older the more she will freak out because she knows whats going to happen the longer you wait the harder.

Answer 20

I personally wouldn't let my daughter until she was older, maybe around 13.  I have a friend with a 6 month old son with a pierced ear and personally I think it looks silly.  Plus at 4, she's going to be having a lot of rough and tumble play with other children and could get it caught on something and rip it out, damaging her ear lobe.  If I were you, I'd get her some clip on earrings for now.

Answer 21

Wow...I'm not a real liberal Mom but I got both my little girls done when they were just a few weeks old because it hurts less...but my little girls just wear little square cubic zirconia's...I just think it's feminine...Alot of places use the actual earring to pierce the ear with and they are small and sterile....I  didn't know there really was an improper age for ear piercing...They just aren't allowed to wear big girl earrings ...

Answer 22

I think thats fine. Just make sure you help her take care of it. Shes a good age where she knows what she wants. I had mine done for the first time 2 years ago, and Im 18. I think its a good idea that you waited until she was ready. That way she can learn to make decisions for herself. When I was growing up there were a lot of girls getting their ears pierced at that age.

Answer 23

Shes old enough.

Answer 24

when she wants them after age 8

Answer 25

Four is a good age. My preference is when they are newborns, as it will not hurt "as bad". BUT...I do agree with you about letting her decide for ehrself if she wanted her ears pierced or not. And there you have it...SHE DOES!!

Answer 26

Its fine if she wants it done. My daughter had hers peirced at birth because I wanted her ears peirced since mine were peirced at birth. If she wants it done and you say its ok let her go for it! Good Luck!

Answer 27

I suggest waiting for a few years, until she's old enough to be able to look after them herself. I was 6 when i had mine done and cleaned them myself and everything. I also don't believe in a baby getting their ears pierced-theres no proof it hurts less and, going by the screams I have heard, it certainly doesn't sound like it hurts less!

Answer 28

My daughter is only 2 and I have the view she can get her ears pierced when she is old enough to ask for them to be done.

My mom made me wait till I was 8 and I hated it! She originally said 10 but caved at 8.

If you feel she is old enough to understand that her ears might hurt for a few days and that she'll have to take care of them (polysporin) then go ahead!

I don't think it says anything trashy about her in society. Just wait till she wants to get her belly button done!.

Small children, small problems :P