What age do you think is best to have a child?

Question

My bf and I have been talking about having kids & I just want to know what age is best. I am 19 & im starting community college part next month while working full time as a secretary. He is 27, already graduated from community college, & is working park time as a shipping manager. What do you think?

Answer 1

There is no "best" age as long as you are a self-sufficient adult.

However, you have not finished your education, and his part time job won't cut it.

Do you have a home--not your parents? Do you pay all your own bills?

Have you discussed a willingness to a life long commitment to each other before you bring another life into the picture?

Who you are at 19 will not remotely resemble who you are in a few years...the chance of you two growing and changing in the same direction is remote.

If you would not marry him today, it is too early to decide to tie yourself to him irrevokably for life with the birth of a child.

Answer 2

I want to conceive a child after I'm married. Just me being traditional, I guess.  

Answer 3

21 or older. I have a huge problem with teens having kids ~*~

Answer 4

It's just a matter of when you're ready to drop almost everything and care for a child.  I would wait until after college.  

Answer 5

after both parents are done with education, have a job and are financialy stabile

this means for him any time now, for you at the very least 4-5 more years till you are done in school and worked a couple years so you can get pregnancy benefits, and still have a job after

these days only having one working parent, unless that person is like geting million pay out, its not enough for a young establishing couple to only have one working, the fact so many do it and wasnt financilay stabile but overspending is the reason US is having an economical crisses now

do not even think about it now, your too young, wait till you are done in school and have held down a job a couple years

having a child before starting your carier can severely put you back in the competition marked, which may hurt you as a family for many many years...i am done now in school i'd love to get married and have a kid, but we need to spend some more time before we comit to marriage, and we need to be more financialy stabile, if not its just selfish taking on a responsibilty you dont have the means to fully take on

Now most finish education between 23-25, for females its actualy an up health wise to have kids to old, before 30 is a good age to have at least the first kid

hence around 26-30 is the best age to have the kids or at least the first kid, I'd not have a kid after 35. While its posible, the older you get the more dangers both to you and the baby.

But it really depend on the stability of you yourself emotionaly, the stability of your relationship and not in the least once again the stability of your economy. If your 29 and a couple of 1 month you obviously do not run out and get pregnant just to have a kid before 30. However if you are still with your bf at 26-27, have had a job a couple years and the two of you are financialy stabile then yes its not stupid idea to discuss if you are ready to have kids then, specialy as he aint geting younger either.

Answer 6

Maybe it would be best to finish community college. However, I think the best time to have kids is when you have a stable house and you are financially stable. I really want to move in with my boyfriend and have kids after we get married but it is better not to rush things. It depends on how you feel with your bf and how you think you would cope. I don't think you should miss college - how many years will you be attending there? Maybe once you have finished. The main thing is you are willing to love the child. Good luck!

Answer 7

30-34

if you still want kids by 30, go ahead

Answer 8

If he already graduated why is he only working part time?  but anyway thats not your question, I was 19 when I had my first but I really wish I would have waited!  I'd say maybe 25 or 26.  I'm 25 now and just had my 3rd (and last) and I feel way better about this one

Answer 9

Maybe about 23,23? I'm not sure why but a lot of my friends around that age have really young children like a year old.  

Answer 10

before 40. after that the kids start comming out all DDD

Answer 11

I would say wait til you are at least 23 or 24  

Answer 12

25 at the minimum and probably closer to 28.

18 year olds who had babies 2 weeks ago think they're ready.  They're not.  Her entire life has been permanently altered without even accomplishing anything yet.  (And because they haven't been on the earth long enough to grow into an adult and do "something", they don't even know they're not ready).  Higher eduction, travel, career, stable long-term relationship, all most likely, have gone out the window.  We'll ask again next year.  : )

Answer 13

if i were you i think i would wait until finishing your associates degree at least..a child is so much work and it will be hard for you to manage school and a full time job, you are still young and have plenty of time to have kids later. it may even be smart to wait until your married or find out if you will still be with this guy in a couple of years. im 29 and pregnant with my first child and i am excited because ive had plenty of years to be selfish and do whatever i wanted with no attachments..well good luck whatever you choose!

Answer 14

well i am 18 and i just had my baby 2 weeks ago and i jjust turned 18 in may so really i think it is when you are ready and when you feel like you can take care of a baby  

Answer 15

we you can take carry of them and give them the live they suppose to

ask yourself can i take carry of it then you are ready its not what age should i have a child its like iam ready to take care of a child and ask you every you with say are ready  

Answer 16

Wait until you get out of college! It is way too hard to have juggle your boyfriend, college, and a baby all at the same time. After you get out of college, then have a baby and get a good job so you can support her(or him)

Answer 17

25

Answer 18

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Answer 19

i would say 25 so you have about 10-15 years to have children. 19 is to young thought

Answer 20

It all depends on how your life is going. You should wait until your out of college (or highschool) and probably at least half a year into your job so you have some money, because children are expensive. 18 years of clothes, food, schooling, and toys. Probably at the very earliest, 24. 28 would be a perfect age though.

Answer 21

I was going to say in your late 20's, but I mean both of you.

Answer 22

To each their own, everyone can give their advice, but for you to know if you are ready you need to look within.

Personally, the best time to have a child, is when you both have been in a career, you know where you are going, your steady and stable.  You want to be able to give that child the love he or she needs.  Life is about being born, living life, helping populate and dying.  Those are the things you are expected to do as a human on earth.  Its Nature.  So...  The question is have you lived enough of your life that you can look at yourself and say, I have lived, I am ready to give life to a child and support it and give it everything it needs with the security I have provided myself.  Not security the boyfriend has given you.  God forbid anything happens between your boyfriend and yourself, could you ALONe take care of that child.  When you can say a reponsible response to these questions then maybe it is time for you to think about it.

Honestly, I am 25 years old, and I am working on my career, and when Im settled and know I can take the time off for the baby and there are no worries on if I will be fired or not -  that will be the time I think about it.

I think the most responsible age to have children is between 27 and 34.  These ages gives you the time you need to learn from your mistakes and to make the mistakes.  You dont want to have a child and then make the mistakes.

But as I said in the beginning, it is all about you and where you are in life.

Good luck to you and always remember, thinking about having a baby is not the only thing you need to think about, you also need to think for the baby.

Good Luck!

Answer 23

i dont necissarily think their is a best age, i think circumstances are more important than age. having said that i had my first child at 16 and while i wouldnt changeit for anything it is very hard, financially and emotionally cos i saw all my friends go onto study and get careers while i couldnt ( although i have a good job now, i had to struggle much more) its not imposible and regardless of what judgemental ppl think i am a good mother but you have plenty of time to have kids their is no rush. also i think if you have a kid at a younger age you have to deal with alot of ppl judging you and looking down at you.....

Answer 24

You should definitely wait until you have money to support the child.

At the same time, I think 19 is too young to have children. You should finish school first, get a job and when you and your bf are ready afterwards then you should consider children.

Answer 25

I know many people who became parents in their 40's as I did. This worked for many of us because we have more resources and time for our children now. At 19 you really don't know how stable your relationship is yet, plus you need time to live a life for yourself for quite a few years. I suggest waiting until you are at least 30.

Answer 26

i think u need to be a bit older and make money from ur job before u have a child. also, u might want to consider marriage

Answer 27

I think it is important to be in a stable relationship.  Call me old fashioned...but I think being married is an important part of stability.  

It seems right now you have other priorities...such as finishing school.